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Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 12:46:14 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		This is not a poll, so I hope it doesn't get moved---it seems that almost 9 out of every 10 male sub profiles I read state bisexual--and these are in all age ranges especially those over 40 something---My question is this: Are you really bisexual, or do you think this will help attract a Domina--is it because you are experienced with that? and if not why is it written there? ---do you think this is a requirement of the life? Do you think that you will be weeded out if you put hetero? Maybe there are a lot of you who are bi, I'd just like to know--inquiring Minds want to know---well I do anyway--

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 12:54:25 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I actually think quite a few male subs are bi or bi curious.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 12:57:42 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I can be bi-polar.....Guess that's why I Dom and don't sub?

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 1:05:08 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		now that brings up a good thought too, how many male Doms are bi? No Kev, bi-polar doesn't count----

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 2:43:09 PM   
cjdratem


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Status: offline 		well, while i myself am not particularly attracted to men, i would do anything a female wanted me to do with a man, simply for her. id not go out and be with a man just for my own sake

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 3:05:12 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		I'm not questioning your belief, but if She said "cj, this is harry, tonite I am going to diret play between you two"--you would obey, no question?

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/6/2006 7:07:55 PM   
califmale2345


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Status: offline 		Some people tailor their personal ads to what they think the other person is looking for, rather than being honest. From my discussions with male subs friends, none of them admitted to being bisexual. Perhaps they would feel more open with their Dominant, than in a fellow submissive. So i spoke to a Dominant friend of mine, who said that many of the subs she meets have fantasies about being 'ordered' to be bisexual.


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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/7/2006 5:26:39 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Yes, I have found that as well, "being ordered to be bi", I have had a few say the same, it is a mind thing, they would never do it on their own, but if ordered--it is not on My menu of likes--I won't even entertain it, so send submissives away who seek that aspect--

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/7/2006 3:13:14 PM   
KarbonCopy


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Status: offline 		I firmly dont belive in sexual prefrence. Its a very archaic way of thinking in my opinion. Much like religion lol.

Anyways, I act on impulse. While havnt yet found myself attracted to a male, I dont see sex as anything more than sex. Even with my significant other. I'd rather have sex with my girlfriend, but only because Its doing something with her, if I'm going to have sex I'm perfectly content having it with her.

But there is NOTHING special about sex. Its a primal instinct, nothign more. Pleasure.


Think about it anywhere beyond that, and you start to complicate matters. And if lumping youself into a Sexual Prefrence helps give you some direction in life, then go hard, some people need that reassurance.


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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 8:30:37 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		AAAAAAARRRrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! PET PEEVE!!!!

I'm frequently contacted by subs who present as Bi, or who have Bi on their profiles. When I respond to their initial inquiry by stating that I'm not interested in a Bi sub male, nor cuckholdry, nor a 'clean up' boy, etc, they invariably write back to Me denying their Bisexual orientation. In their letters of explanation they always reverse themselves and state: "i understand that most Dommes have multiple subs and so I thought that would appeal to a Domme if I put it on my profile...".

I also know several Dommes who have listed service as an alpha sub, or beta sub, or lower in the heirarchy in a stable of subs, as a pre-requisite for service. Invariably, when a sub contacts them for service who presents as a hetero male and the reverse correspondence ensues, they often 'confess' in their next email to being 'bi curious' but just being too shy or nervous to put it on their profile.

Truth is an elusive thing out here in cyberspace. *rubs forehead, wearily, and sighs*

Neither a profile nor an Email is sufficient to discern what's true and what's not about an individual's deepest desires.

Whether here at collarme or any other site, just state your true preferences. It saves everyone a lot of time and effort, because in the end, only time will tell.

TexasMaam

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 9:09:45 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Nicely said, thank you TexasMaam--that whole thing of cuckholdry is another issue, may be good for a thread of its own--

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 1:09:44 PM   
kisshou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KarbonCopy

I firmly dont belive in sexual prefrence. Its a very archaic way of thinking in my opinion. Much like religion lol.

Anyways, I act on impulse. While havnt yet found myself attracted to a male, I dont see sex as anything more than sex. Even with my significant other. I'd rather have sex with my girlfriend, but only because Its doing something with her, if I'm going to have sex I'm perfectly content having it with her.

But there is NOTHING special about sex. Its a primal instinct, nothign more. Pleasure.


Think about it anywhere beyond that, and you start to complicate matters. And if lumping youself into a Sexual Prefrence helps give you some direction in life, then go hard, some people need that reassurance.



Now this is a really interesting post. Would you consider yourself to be polysexual? What you have said is where I kind of draw the line between polysexual and polyamourous.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 2:42:17 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

I'm frequently contacted by subs who present as Bi, or who have Bi on their profiles. When I respond to their initial inquiry by stating that I'm not interested in a Bi sub male, nor cuckholdry, nor a 'clean up' boy, etc, they invariably write back to Me denying their Bisexual orientation. In their letters of explanation they always reverse themselves and state: "i understand that most Dommes have multiple subs and so I thought that would appeal to a Domme if I put it on my profile...".

I also know several Dommes who have listed service as an alpha sub, or beta sub, or lower in the heirarchy in a stable of subs, as a pre-requisite for service. Invariably, when a sub contacts them for service who presents as a hetero male and the reverse correspondence ensues, they often 'confess' in their next email to being 'bi curious' but just being too shy or nervous to put it on their profile.

Truth is an elusive thing out here in cyberspace. *rubs forehead, wearily, and sighs*

Neither a profile nor an Email is sufficient to discern what's true and what's not about an individual's deepest desires.
I know exactly what you mean, and it is a pet peeve of mine as well, in that I'm never certain what a guy needs in his relationship with me when approaching and he has forced bi/cuckoldry in profile.
It would be so nice if we could get a true representation of one's sexual orientation when he emails, without all the yes I am but, or no I'm not, I just thought...
I'm not a super-mind reader, or psychologist. It would be nice not to have to figure out if the guy contacted me because he thinks I'm hot, or because he thinks I'll provide him access to some hot men. M

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 2:46:47 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		Hathor, my experience has been quite the opposite of yours. This could be because I'm sampling in a different population--I generally read the profiles of under-30s, and you and I are in different states. I find that there are many more submissive men who identify as het and seek women than men who identify as bi and seek men and women: near me, there are 38 men under thirty, identifying as submissive or slave, and specifying their sexuality as "straight". while there are 12 submissives/slaves in the same geographical area and age range who identify as bisexual.

TexasMaam, I concur with your general idea that truth is a rarity in online personals, but I'm curious as to why a bisexual male sub couldn't fulfill the same functions for you as a heterosexual one. Provided he's okay with not having contact with one of the genders that he's attracted to (as many monogamous bisexuals are), thus leaving men out of your relationship and removing the issues of cuckoldry and "cleanup", how would he behave differently?

Monica

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 4:51:14 PM   
MHOO314


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TexasMaam, I concur with your general idea that truth is a rarity in online personals, but I'm curious as to why a bisexual male sub couldn't fulfill the same functions for you as a heterosexual one. Provided he's okay with not having contact with one of the genders that he's attracted to (as many monogamous bisexuals are), thus leaving men out of your relationship and removing the issues of cuckoldry and "cleanup", how would he behave differently?

Monica


Yes they often do--there are expectations not met

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/8/2006 5:53:08 PM   
KarbonCopy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kisshou

quote:

ORIGINAL: KarbonCopy

I firmly dont belive in sexual prefrence. Its a very archaic way of thinking in my opinion. Much like religion lol.

Anyways, I act on impulse. While havnt yet found myself attracted to a male, I dont see sex as anything more than sex. Even with my significant other. I'd rather have sex with my girlfriend, but only because Its doing something with her, if I'm going to have sex I'm perfectly content having it with her.

But there is NOTHING special about sex. Its a primal instinct, nothign more. Pleasure.


Think about it anywhere beyond that, and you start to complicate matters. And if lumping youself into a Sexual Prefrence helps give you some direction in life, then go hard, some people need that reassurance.



Now this is a really interesting post. Would you consider yourself to be polysexual? What you have said is where I kind of draw the line between polysexual and polyamourous.


I'm sorry, I cant really tell you, i'm not 100% sure of the definition of polysexual.
If you enlighten me, I'm sure I can explain further.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/9/2006 7:17:42 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		LOL I seem to have very different experiences. All of my partners approached me in a very singular heterosexual way. I am female and identify as female, they are male and identify as male and we came together as male and female.

I knew they all had murmurings of bisexuality within them, however it wasn't part of OUR dynamic specifically and nothing they were actively seeking so it never really came up as an issue.

Yet within the past two weeks, ALL of them have suddenly come to me with all these bisexual ideas and meanderings and curiousities. I think they planned an ambush.

I'm perfectly fine helping them explore their fantasies, I just find it weird for them all to come out NOW very actively with them.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/10/2006 11:42:24 AM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		To desire and engage in sex with multiple partners without the emotional ties of love and have it be fulfilling. There does not seem to be that many of us who separate love/intimacy from sex. and have it be just as fulfilling , if not more so , in that regard.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/10/2006 2:21:15 PM   
trueshadow


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Status: offline 		I can't answer for anyone else but I've had sex with men before, found it enjoyable, so a bi situation would be fine.

I think as one gets older, one gives one permission to be themselves, to be more open about who they are and what they want.

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RE: Bisexual Male subs - 1/10/2006 2:29:11 PM   
IrishMist


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Yet within the past two weeks, ALL of them have suddenly come to me with all these bisexual ideas and meanderings and curiousities. I think they planned an ambush.

I'm perfectly fine helping them explore their fantasies, I just find it weird for them all to come out NOW very actively with them.


LOL, that is too cute.

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