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What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 2:30:49 PM

ropesubby39

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Hello:

I would like to ask your opinion, let's say that you have been told that something might be wrong with your health, but nothing is confirmed til some tests are done. How would you proceed telling your Dom/Master, and how not to worry Him for nothing if the tests come back good? Would you tell Him if the results comes bad or not?

Thanks!

ropesubby

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 2:54:50 PM

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quote:

let's say that you have been told that something might be wrong with your health, but nothing is confirmed til some tests are done. How would you proceed telling your Dom/Master, and how not to worry Him for nothing if the tests come back good? Would you tell Him if the results comes bad or not?

Complete honesty. Let him go to the doctor with you. You can use the moral support and he could probably do real well also hearing what the doctor has to say.
That way he can ask questions too, and get them answered.
Would you want him not telling you if something was potentially very wrong with him?

Hey, I decided not to tell you earlier but I have brain cancer and have a week left? Sorry I was dishonest to you we could have had six more months together?

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 3:02:30 PM

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A Dominant accepts the responsibility for their submissive--the care, the nurture, IMHO, tell him, decide between the two of you how to proceed--and if he doesn't want to know, I'd question his attentiveness.

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 3:46:07 PM

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Whether the tests came back good or bad, I think he'd be really hurt and upset that you didn't tell him all along. He should want to be there, no matter what. Wouldn't you, if the situation was reversed?

chymes

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 3:59:20 PM

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tell him, decide between the two of you how to proceed--and if he doesn't want to know, I'd question his attentiveness.

absolutely agreed!

then again, this depends on the closeness of the relationship with the Dom/Master. if it is someone you have just met and there is no large emotional investment....do what you are comfortable with.

Blessed be

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 5:07:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ropesubby39

Hello:

I would like to ask your opinion, let's say that you have been told that something might be wrong with your health, but nothing is confirmed til some tests are done. How would you proceed telling your Dom/Master, and how not to worry Him for nothing if the tests come back good? Would you tell Him if the results comes bad or not?

Thanks!

ropesubby

I would tell him RIGHT AWAY...if he cares anything for you, he will wait out the results with you...and HE deserves to know if there is a health issue...no if's,and's or buts about it....I would not even be thinking twice about it, I would have told him that I had the tests to begin with.

/edited for my horrid horrid spelling of easy words

< Message edited by IrishMist -- 1/6/2006 5:08:22 PM >

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 5:48:44 PM

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quote:

Whether the tests came back good or bad, I think he'd be really hurt and upset that you didn't tell him all along. He should want to be there, no matter what. Wouldn't you, if the situation was reversed?

Lots of good advice here. If he's a caring person at all, he will willingly see you though this.

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 6:17:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: ropesubby39

Hello:

I would like to ask your opinion, let's say that you have been told that something might be wrong with your health, but nothing is confirmed til some tests are done. How would you proceed telling your Dom/Master, and how not to worry Him for nothing if the tests come back good? Would you tell Him if the results comes bad or not?

Thanks!

ropesubby

I would tell him RIGHT AWAY...if he cares anything for you, he will wait out the results with you...and HE deserves to know if there is a health issue...no if's,and's or buts about it....I would not even be thinking twice about it, I would have told him that I had the tests to begin with.

I agree 100%...
/edited for my horrid horrid spelling of easy words

100%..nothing more can be added

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 6:28:14 PM

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Thank You All for your good advice. I did planned on telling Him, it was just i didnt know how to tell Him. Sometimes, words are coming out wrong especially when its something sensitive.

He is a wonderful man and Master, i wouldnt dream of having anyone else as a Master :)

Have a good evening and be well.

ropesubby

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 6:50:25 PM

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i wish for you...luck and eloquence, ropesubby!

good luck *hugs her gently*

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/6/2006 10:18:02 PM

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hmmmmmmmm

i am guessing...this is yet again...another one of those linked romantically things?

being the cold hearted s.o.b. that I am..."I" am the only one responsible for MY health..."I" have NO ONE on this planet legally or morally ressponsible for me in MY eyes.....
"I" feel at 52 "I" am my own responsibility...AND add to the fact as Her slave it IS....MY job to ensure my health FOR Her.

would i tell? ONLY.....AFTER the fact. take the tests...and wait for said results.
but then..since I have had a recent thorough checkup...and they CLAIM i am healthy enough........

so to the one starting this thread....what's YOUR feeling on this?

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/7/2006 12:20:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

hmmmmmmmm

i am guessing...this is yet again...another one of those linked romantically things?

being the cold hearted s.o.b. that I am..."I" am the only one responsible for MY health..."I" have NO ONE on this planet legally or morally ressponsible for me in MY eyes.....
"I" feel at 52 "I" am my own responsibility...AND add to the fact as Her slave it IS....MY job to ensure my health FOR Her.

would i tell? ONLY.....AFTER the fact. take the tests...and wait for said results.
but then..since I have had a recent thorough checkup...and they CLAIM i am healthy enough........

so to the one starting this thread....what's YOUR feeling on this?

I didnt say i was not gonna tell Him, it was more how to tell Him. Like i previously said, i always been honest with Him. True that i am the one responsible for my health, it was never a doubt. I guess i just didnt want Him to worry.........

Thank you for your opinion on this :)

ropesubby

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/7/2006 8:06:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: veronicaofML
i am guessing...this is yet again...another one of those linked romantically things?

being the cold hearted s.o.b. that I am..."I" am the only one responsible for MY health..."I" have NO ONE on this planet legally or morally ressponsible for me in MY eyes.....
"I" feel at 52 "I" am my own responsibility...AND add to the fact as Her slave it IS....MY job to ensure my health FOR Her.

Perhaps within your dynamic, you, "the cold-hearted s.o.b." that you are, have no desire or need for softer emotions to enter your relationship. And perhaps because you are your "own responsibility," you need no one to share concerns with you. It may even be so that you thrive upon the sort of 24/7 objectification you continually write that is a part of your relationship. And if all you write is truly what you believe and it works for you - then that is a wonderful thing - for you.

There are, however, those of us who need a more complete dynamic that encompasses our bodies, minds, and hearts. And the romance of a relationship - be it master/slave or dominant/submissive - is part of the dynamic that links us to our partners. And that works - maybe not for you - but for others - the originator of this thread, me, and others - then that is a wonderful thing for us.

In this particular instance, given the tone of concern and worry here, the response you made is in particular poor taste and displays a distinct lack of compassion and tolerance for others. You may disparage the "linked romantically things" and you may not want or need it in your relationship - or your particular brand of servitude - in which case, perhaps you might consider better judgement in responding to posts that so offend your sensibilities. At no time did the originator of this thread indicate that she abdicated self-responisibility, but was instead concerned with how to share her worry with her master.

While we all have different needs, tolerance and acceptance are common to each of us. Be wild - go bold - give it a try - expand your horizons.

newflowers

p.s.
i apologize to the originator and others who responded on topic for my diversion from the subject at hand.

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/7/2006 9:16:22 AM

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my Master frequently knew before i did that something was wrong, especially if it was something more than just a cold. He made it absolutely clear, early on, that it was my responsibility to take care of what was his, and that included going to the doctor. He also made it clear that he expected to know when, how, and the results -- no excuses. To do otherwise was being less than honest, which was never permitted.

Even in my vanilla marriage i always told my husband if i had a medical problem. The big difference was that he tended to look at how my illness would effect him, rather than what was going on with me.

Good luck...

jimini

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/7/2006 10:54:46 AM

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I am not sure what *i am guessing...this is yet again...another one of those linked romantically things? * means... maybe i am still sleeping, but to whom wrote this, what did you mean?

thank you very much

ropesubby

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RE: What would you do about a health issue - 1/7/2006 6:10:34 PM

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i have recently had a not-good result on a test, and had to go back for a consult. The first person i called about the test result was Master. He was in the process of coming to live here, and immediately planned to go with me to the consult.

i needed to be scared, a little, and i needed to cry a little, and i needed to tell someone, because i could not tell my mom right away. i told my mom the next day. She came to the consult, too.

Regardless of the level of tact involved, veronica has a point. If there is that level of intimacy, then the information should be shared, in my opinion.

If for no reason other than "Doctor's appt in two weeks, so can we avoid bruising in this area?," keeping your Dom/me updated on any circumstances that can affect Their comfort, control, and well-being should be a good thing.

If you don't want that level of intimacy, then don't share. i'll tell you what, though... Sitting in the stall in the ladies' room at work, and crying on the phone to Master and having Him tell me that whatever happened, it was not going to stop us from our future... That helped.

And the consult went well. There will be more tests, and chances to avoid the scarier stuff. i hope the situation in the original post ends with good news.

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