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hairslave -> RE: Are these guys for real? (1/18/2009 9:18:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Loliita
I'm thinking the people in the forums are a little different from the people who just log in, search for a dominatrix or sub, ignore the profile, then send multiple messages. So maybe you people can give me the scoop.
It's my first time here and I was overwhelmed by the number of messages I received. I didn't know bdsm was this popular nor did I know this many men were into being controlled.
I would like to ask other dominant women.....Are most of these men for real? What I mean is if I were to actually try and meet one of them would they even show up? Is it just an internet fantasy for them or are they really serious? I know you dominant women can't speak for all submissive men but you must have some experience with meeting these guys.
If i may, i am a sub male and i am real, having said that i say take things slow here and Like others have said, use caution and take the time to really take in what they are saying to you. Are they Polite? Respectful? Patient ? and Honorable?
Like others have pointed out here, Look at what they have posted on the message boards in the past. You can also put in Your OP that you well sent Your picture to people who can show that they have read Your OP in their email and, if You decide to take them under consideration. Be selective ! Start with people who are close to where You live, You can always widen Your circle later if You want to.
After many emails and some phone calls with candidates,.. as it comes to a first meeting rather BDSM or Vanilla, always meet in a public place, and don’t be afraid to ask a friend to go and set off away from you, so you are not there alone. The one meeting you doesn’t even have to know if there is someone close by that you know there, just in case You feel You need to call on them.
Never go anywhere with anyone you don’t already know, and don’t leave with them on a first meeting. Don’t be afraid to set up a double date including people you know on first dates. If the person in question is truly interested in You, they should be happy to agree to it.
Remember,… SAFTY FIRST !!! We don’t want to see You On the News as the latest victim found missing or worse,… died.
There are a lot of good guys out there but You want to predict Your Self from the few sickles out there as well. Remember, don’t put Your self into questionable situations just like You wont leave Your valuables out in questionable situations for anyone to take on You. To those who love You, Your very precious to them. So in all situations Stay Safe!!! Good luck here on collarme and again, Please Stay Safe hairslave
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