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jstmi -> Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 2:41:36 PM)
something happened today and i would like to address it , seems my lovely Goddess was hurt by a sub who came to Her for support and asked for Her ear and She was concerned for him and offered him Her support and loving arms so to speak for comfort. well, this rude sub decided not to communicate and well it just isn't right. when a Dominant shows some attention to a sub that sub had better be damn grateful and appreciative of Her important time . this is disrespectful and wrong and it makes me angry to know She had to go through this. a sub always respects a Dominants care and concern for them, i thank Her everyday for Her care. jstmi

PeonForHer -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 4:02:37 PM)
Is the matter of dominant and a submissive relevant here, jstmi? It sounds as though one person was rude to another - and that's not right.

Usako -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 4:11:39 PM)
LOL Sorry, I just love the idea of a "dominant's oh so precious time." He asked for help, she offered and he turned it down...there could be a million reasons for it. He might have just been rude, perhaps he changed his mind and didn't want to share his emotions, perhaps he didn't feel comfortable with her as a person, perhaps a cow kick him in the head and he lost his memories. Who knows, who cares...I see no point in getting one's panties in a twist over it. Unless he was flat out rude to her in some manner, I don't see an issue with someone changing their mind over something.

SunNMoon -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 4:14:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Is the matter of dominant and a submissive relevant here, jstmi? It sounds as though one person was rude to another - and that's not right. Yup, it's not at all about domination or submission here it's about two people. People can be rude, this goes for all different types people.

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 4:27:58 PM)
Its not rude to have something effect your life, want to talk about it, and then decide against it for whatever reason. Master, Mistress, Top, Bottom, Left, Right, Diagonal, no matter your label, that doesnt make their time any more or less valuable than mine, or anyone elses. Snark Remover 9000 engaged...lol

hairslave -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 5:00:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Usako LOL Sorry, I just love the idea of a "dominant's oh so precious time." He asked for help, she offered and he turned it down...there could be a million reasons for it. He might have just been rude, perhaps he changed his mind and didn't want to share his emotions, perhaps he didn't feel comfortable with her as a person, perhaps a cow kick him in the head and he lost his memories. Who knows, who cares...I see no point in getting one's panties in a twist over it. Unless he was flat out rude to her in some manner, I don't see an issue with someone changing their mind over something. A Domme's time should consetered as "Perciou Time" to us sub/slaves.

CatdeMedici -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 5:22:22 PM)
Sorry, but if the sub is not the avowed sub of the Dominant, then there is no obligation. You need to learn that just because your Dominant is YOUR Dominant, does not mean She/He is everyone's Dominant.

Lockit -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 5:39:14 PM)
jstmi, let's see... how long have I known you? It's been a while now and I have been very glad to have known you, as you are a very wonderful and sensitive spirit who has nothing but the best intentions. But darlin, that makes you one of the more rare type's of person and finding someone like you isn't all that easy. Many times your soft and gentle heart has hurt for me and the things I have gone through and while that is very comforting to know you care... I don't like that you have hurt over what happened to me. Now it seems you have a wonderful dominant that you care deeply for and again you are hurting for her when someone isn't as sincere as you feel they should be. It is a very beautiful aspect of yourself... but it can also be very stressful on you. Just be there for your dominant and whatever upset she feels will slide away in knowing that even though some may not be as sincere or as consistant.. and some will benefit from assistance and not respond in kind... you are there showing that sometimes things and people are worth our efforts. People are people... some just waste our time... but we can't let the wrong one's or the bad one's get to us! My best to you both!

Usako -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 6:37:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hairslave quote: ORIGINAL: Usako LOL Sorry, I just love the idea of a "dominant's oh so precious time." He asked for help, she offered and he turned it down...there could be a million reasons for it. He might have just been rude, perhaps he changed his mind and didn't want to share his emotions, perhaps he didn't feel comfortable with her as a person, perhaps a cow kick him in the head and he lost his memories. Who knows, who cares...I see no point in getting one's panties in a twist over it. Unless he was flat out rude to her in some manner, I don't see an issue with someone changing their mind over something. A Domme's time should consetered as "Perciou Time" to us sub/slaves. Unless said female dominant is partnered with said submissive person, I see no reason to hold her time better than anyone else's. quote: ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx Master, Mistress, Top, Bottom, Left, Right, Diagonal, no matter your label, that doesnt make their time any more or less valuable than mine, or anyone elses. Quoted for truth.

jstmi -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 7:33:15 PM)
hello Ms Lockit , how nice of You , thank You so much. yes W/we have been friends for sometime now and i have also enjoyed being Your friend. this other sub was close to Ma'am and well what happened just was not nice, i perhaps said too much here, She knows how i feel and i am there to support Her. i had a feeling that people would not understand but that is ok , i posted here to speak my mind over it and i am proud to speak of Her and how i do not want others to take advantage of Her care, and yes i believe Her time is precious and i will not change my view on that. i thank You for Your lovely comments and yes i do care deeply for Her. serving Her is a pleasure never a stress :) have a wonderful evening jstmi

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 7:45:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jstmi something happened today and i would like to address it , seems my lovely Goddess was hurt by a sub who came to Her for support and asked for Her ear and She was concerned for him and offered him Her support and loving arms so to speak for comfort. well, this rude sub decided not to communicate and well it just isn't right. it's called "oops, i'm sorry i changed my mind" syndrome. oh btw, it's not rude if the other person decides not to communicate any further with someone else. who knows why this person doesn't wish to talk to your mistress anymore. quote: when a Dominant shows some attention to a sub that sub had better be damn grateful and appreciative of Her important time . oh really now? how about the dominant being appreciative towards the submissive/slave for sharing their time and attention with him/her? oh, i forgot - that's not what a twue submissive/slave does. quote: this is disrespectful and wrong and it makes me angry to know She had to go through this. a sub always respects a Dominants care and concern for them, i thank Her everyday for Her care. lol - not if that submissive/slave isn't owned by the dominant in question. i may be submissive (to Daddy only) but not every dominants' submissive

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/17/2009 8:09:58 PM)
Hi. We always find it's best to rule with a strict but gentle hand and kind heart. Maybe contact that sub and politely ask him to explain his actions. he needs guidance. Hope this helps.

beeble -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 2:55:39 AM)
quote: sambamanslilgirl wrote: oh btw, it's not rude if the other person decides not to communicate any further with someone else. who knows why this person doesn't wish to talk to your mistress anymore. Well, actually, it is rude to request that somebody take the time to help you and then disappear and not even acknowledge the time spent. It's not a D/s issue, since the two people in question aren't in a D/s relationship, but it's definitely rude. beeble.

jstmi -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 3:41:36 AM)
thank Y/you everyone for your comments and input on this subject, i have learned that this was not an appropriate topic for the forum and it was more about people not d/s. i will keep this emotion for my journal , i wanted to show my Ma'am that i always want to make Her proud of me and well i let my emotions get a little carried away. thank Y/you all again and i wish You a very good day and week. respectfully jstmi

darchChylde -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 8:48:46 AM)
i myself have had times where i asked for Ma'ams time and when She was there to listen i found it very difficult to open up about what was troubling me. At one such occasion i even violently tore myself from Her arms, earning some nice scrapes from the concrete deck in doing so . Even in the closest of relationships, it can sometimes be all but impossible to allow one's self to be fully vulnerable to another... Letting myself submit and be tied up and totally vulnerable to Her schemes and ministrations is easy, baring the darkest recesses of my heart to Her is still not quite so simple.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 9:00:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde i myself have had times where i asked for Ma'ams time and when She was there to listen i found it very difficult to open up about what was troubling me. At one such occasion i even violently tore myself from Her arms, earning some nice scrapes from the concrete deck in doing so . Even in the closest of relationships, it can sometimes be all but impossible to allow one's self to be fully vulnerable to another... Letting myself submit and be tied up and totally vulnerable to Her schemes and ministrations is easy, baring the darkest recesses of my heart to Her is still not quite so simple. On a Fetlife thread, a dominant said something to the effect that she was not about to hand her submissive that loaded gun... so I understand completely!

hairslave -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 7:02:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Usako quote: ORIGINAL: hairslave quote: ORIGINAL: Usako LOL Sorry, I just love the idea of a "dominant's oh so precious time." He asked for help, she offered and he turned it down...there could be a million reasons for it. He might have just been rude, perhaps he changed his mind and didn't want to share his emotions, perhaps he didn't feel comfortable with her as a person, perhaps a cow kick him in the head and he lost his memories. Who knows, who cares...I see no point in getting one's panties in a twist over it. Unless he was flat out rude to her in some manner, I don't see an issue with someone changing their mind over something. A Domme's time should consetered as "Perciou Time" to us sub/slaves. Unless said female dominant is partnered with said submissive person, I see no reason to hold her time better than anyone else's. quote: ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx Master, Mistress, Top, Bottom, Left, Right, Diagonal, no matter your label, that doesnt make their time any more or less valuable than mine, or anyone elses. Quoted for truth. Respectably; i Do still feel that all Domme’s time should be considered Precious to us sub/slaves. If we don’t show all Domme’s respect, even with regards to Their time, then how are any of them going to consider us as having the right attitude to serve as Their sub/slave later? Yes i would have to agree that we do not have to submit to a Domme that we don’t belong to. In general Lou, it is always rude to ask anyone for Their time then,. as they give it; just walk off rejecting it after wards. Ladies, Stay safe.

Usako -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/18/2009 8:44:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hairslave Respectably; i Do still feel that all Domme’s time should be considered Precious to us sub/slaves. If we don’t show all Domme’s respect, even with regards to Their time, then how are any of them going to consider us as having the right attitude to serve as Their sub/slave later? Yes i would have to agree that we do not have to submit to a Domme that we don’t belong to. In general Lou, it is always rude to ask anyone for Their time then,. as they give it; just walk off rejecting it after wards. Ladies, Stay safe. Showing respect to a female dominant should not be BECAUSE they are a female dominant; it should be because you want to show her respect as a person. I feel if my time is precious it's because it's my time, it's not precious because I'm a female nor because I'm dominant, submissive, switch, vanilla whatever label people want to use. At least in my personal view. I don't believe labels or gender dictates how important someone is; it's their persona that should draw respect and admiration. But that's just me, to each their own. It's just one of my pet peeves in this BDSM world.

beeble -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/19/2009 12:58:23 AM)
quote: hairslave wrote: Respectably; i Do still feel that all Domme’s time should be considered Precious to us sub/slaves. But it would be OK to waste another submissive's time? beeble

hairslave -> RE: Treatment of a Lady (1/21/2009 4:12:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beeble quote: hairslave wrote: Respectably; i Do still feel that all Domme’s time should be considered Precious to us sub/slaves. But it would be OK to waste another submissive's time? beeble No but this thread is about rudely wasting a Domme's time.

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