your first exposure!

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

your first exposure!

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> your first exposure!

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

your first exposure! - 1/20/2009 9:23:36 PM

zombiebabe

Posts: 36
Joined: 1/20/2009
Status: offline

How was it?

My whole persona, self-awareness, mindset changed during the 7 months when I was a member of a nightclub catering to the fetish community.
The place was this club downtown where DJs played industrial music and we'd get down on the dance floor to VNV Nation and stuff, and they charged more for drinks than a lot of the other clubs here. Everyone was so nice there!
A lot of people there were into BDSM. I knew nothing, zero, zip about the community. I just liked the music and the atmosphere. But the more time I spent there, sometimes twice a week, the more I learned and it fascinated me. I saw stuff there too.
I had discovered months before to my complete shock with my first boyfriend that I loved to be held down and dominated in the bedroom. But he hated it so we only did it that one time. I would say things to him in the moment.....he probably knew I had an S&M streak long before I did.
Well, at the club, I met this guy I went out with for a while and that was my first BDSM relationship. It didnt last. Typical man, afraid of committment!!

We are still friends. I still go to him with bondage questions.
Another reason this period was so life-changing is that I was deeply in love with the club owner, like madly obsessively in love. And unbelieveably he liked me too. He was 10 years older than me and we didnt know each other very well, although I'd known him the whole time as I met him on my first visit. We had this flirty flingy thing but we werent actually together, for several months at the club. We had an insane chemistry and really liked each other. At this after-party I told him I loved him and we had this really intimate moment together.
But the whole time he was two-timing his girlfriend the other owner and she tossed my hiney out.

I know 25 is young to write an autobiography, but I'm calling it The Day The Sky Turned Yellow......

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: your first exposure! - 1/20/2009 9:41:21 PM

Usako

Posts: 697
Joined: 7/29/2006
From: NYC
Status: offline

I swear someone started a topic about this exact same thing like two or three days ago, it should be on page two or three.

First exposure on line. First face to face meeting, a jerk from CM. First good experience, going to the local BDSM club. There, all summed up.

(in reply to zombiebabe)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: your first exposure! - 1/20/2009 9:58:26 PM

parakeet89

Posts: 94
Joined: 12/8/2008
Status: offline

My first exposure was on an online chat room when I was 15 and really horny. I didn't know that what I wanted could fit under the BDSM umbrella, though. I didn't even know what BDSM was until around a year later.

(in reply to Usako)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: your first exposure! - 1/20/2009 10:11:19 PM

Tege

Posts: 4
Joined: 4/4/2008
Status: offline

First exposure was probably a little after I got internet on my computer (around the age of 13?). I was always fascinated by damsels in distress, and the more I searched, the more I found. First face-to-face meeting was a girl from CM who was an emotional wreck. Never had the actual experience... yet.

(in reply to parakeet89)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: your first exposure! - 1/20/2009 10:35:25 PM

aravain

Posts: 1211
Joined: 8/26/2008
Status: offline

First real life exposure was one of my best friends (who's actually on CM now).

online... well, uh... lets just say 'early' ;)

(in reply to Tege)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: your first exposure! - 1/21/2009 10:00:32 AM

NCNutCase

Posts: 129
Joined: 2/2/2005
Status: offline

My first 'introductino' was with a girl I was dating from 'the normal world' who asked me to spank her, tie her to the bed and slap her... I ended up liking the kinky stuff more than the girl and when the girl and I stopped dating I then explored BDSM...

I began reading information online and playing in a couple chat rooms...

Having had a real life experinece already behind me, playing online didn't so much interest me. But the people in the online communities I was visiting helped me locate local SM groups. So I visited them and got involved there.

After that I've continued to be aquainted with a an online community or two to varying degres and have always tried to make myself available to help other's take the step into 'real life' encounters...

(in reply to aravain)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: your first exposure! - 1/21/2009 10:16:57 AM

Petruchio

Posts: 1615
Joined: 2/6/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako

I swear someone started a topic about this exact same thing like two or three days ago, it should be on page two or three.

This makes it our second exposure.

(in reply to Usako)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: your first exposure! - 1/21/2009 12:25:27 PM

MsFlutter

Posts: 1305
Joined: 11/12/2008
From: East Coast
Status: offline

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2357831/mpage_1/tm.htm

_____________________________

'Dont torture yourself, Gomez darling. That's my job' Morticia Addams

"The right data, filtered through an idiot, can yield a bad answer." einstien5201

(in reply to zombiebabe)

Profile

Post #: 8