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akisha -> RE: Visions of fantasy or reality ? (1/26/2009 9:45:10 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Aneirin
I was wondering, when people here message another on this site , say a sub messages a dom or vice versa, what is the image you hold in your head of that person ?
I try not to preconceive what someone might look like (if no picture). Going by the tone of their profile I do have some ideas as to what their personality and demeanor might be like but I try not to lock down to exact of an idea
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In the case of a sub, do you imagine the dom(me) decked out in leather with a crop wedged in their boot when they read your message or do you deal with reality and see the person as a person in normal attire ?
Honestly if i thought they were that much into their own image I'd never write them in the first place.
If some one has to "play" the part of a Dominant all the time then I don't want to be part of that fantasy. That badly immersed into a fanatasy world means there is going to be little reality and alot of dissapointment.
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Does it ever occur the lusty domme you saw in a profile picture might actually be slobbing out in house ware, the kind of appearance you might just pass by in the street without a second glance.
Of course. They have bad hair days, jammie days. PMS, pimples, wrinkles, gas.... just like everyone else.
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How much does fantasy, the image in the mind's eye play when you contact someone, would it be any different if it were on this site just passport type photos, the type that one would see on say a driving licence, would it affect your perception of a person ?
Considering most of us look like serial killers on our driver's license i'd not suggest anyone use that picture (shudders)
We post the pictures that obviously protray us at our best or what's the point?? We're trying to find a match and we are a visual world for the most part.
If i saw a picture of a Dom, all slobby and scratchin his nuts in the pic on his profile I'd pass it by. But also if I saw a pic of a Dom all decked out in leather, with a whip in one hand and a crop in another trying to look all stern and dommly at the camera, i'd also pass it by.
I like people that look like they are just trying to be themselves.
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Finally, if you had an image in the mind's eye or the only picture you have seen of the person is in ' their best light', have you ever been dissapointed when you actually do meet them ?
Hmmm no not really because I don't base everything on looks. I have been slightly "suprised" at their idea of what 6'2 might be hehe.
The only time I have been dissappointed is when it seemd like there was chemistry when talking on line and talking on the phone but when we finally met there was absolutely no spark at all. That is kind of a let down cause you think, "omg i might have finally met the right guy" and then it's blah. Your brain and body go... "yaaaa, no" and I tend to listen to that more then I listen to my eyes.
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