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ChallengeMe -> RE: inquiry (2/10/2006 4:17:14 AM)
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Who is a switch? pretty much anyone and everyone in some fashion. NO ONE is 24-7 dominant in ALL their relationships in their entire life. At some time in your life, you submit to the will of parents, bosses, teachers, law enforcement, trainers, et-cetera.
And while one CAN be 24-7 submissive for your entire life, it's still quite difficult to never assert any kind of authority over anyone anytime anywhere.
So...what do we define as a switch?
I say someone who is equally comfortable and satisfied in either form of power exchange, and enjoys both.
Some switches are long-term, typically assuming a submissive or dominant position in a relationship so long as the relationship remains essentially unchanged.
Some are always looking to dominate if possible, but happy to submit to those who PROVE capable of topping them...."dom me, or I'll dom you!!!" or "tame me, if you can" Some of these may secretly (or not so secretly) hope for a dynamic power shift where they challenge, or are challenged by their partner, and the tables become turned.
What most people think of first, is a relationship where it's "I dom today, you dom tomorrow" which often works out far better in play relationships or s/m rather than long term full-time d/s.
I feel a wonderful excercise in a d/s relationship that can stand it is one day of the year where the roles ARE reversed, without fear of reprisal the following day, perhaps on the sub's birthday. It may prove to be a wonderful learning experience to walk a mile in the shoes of the other.
Cheers.
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