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laylah -> Serving my Master (1/30/2009 2:34:11 AM)

I'm new to the scene and have found my very first master a few months ago.

While we haven't actually had physical sex yet, we have had phone sex and he has told me that he wants to meet up with me to collar and fuck me.

I've never had kinky sex before, my current boyfriend can't satisfy me sexually, I've asked him to tie me up before, which he has done, but it didn't feel right (I don't think he was enjoying it much, and it felt awkward). I've been raised to believe that any kind of kinky sex is immoral and wrong, but now that I have had a taste for it and have felt the most incredible connection with my master, I want more.

How do I serve him as his slave girl? He has told me that I'm not to masturbate unless I have his permission, and teases me over the phone until the point where I am about to come, and he makes me ask for his permission to come. He has told me that if I misbehave that he will allow me to get to the point just before I am about to climax and make me stop.

I can't explain how satisfying my relationship is with my master, and I want to learn how to satisfy his every desire.



colouredin -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 3:05:52 AM)

Well to satisfy him you do as he says, simple really. People will come up here now and tell you that you shouldnt get collared right away and that if your boyfriend doesnt satisfy you why are you with him and well many other issues with your post. Im not going to bother because to be honest you probably wont listen.



alysia -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 3:16:07 AM)

The only person who can tell you can serve him is him. 
 
alysia is not going to attempt to go into anything else, as like colouredin says, you probably wouldn't listen. 
 
 



sirsholly -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 3:17:29 AM)

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The only person who can tell you can serve him is him.

i feel differently. The only person who can tell you to serve him is you.



alysia -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 3:19:48 AM)

lol thank you holly for picking that up. 
 
What this girl meant to say is... that the only person who can tell you how to serve him is him.
 



DesFIP -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 3:47:35 AM)

Have you met him yet? Wait until after you do before you decide to let him tie you up. You may dislike him in real life.

How can you serve someone you just chat with and have phone sex with? You can't. You can't get him coffee through a computer screen or a phone line. You can't rub his feet when he's had a rough day. Etc.



OsideGirl -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 7:41:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: laylah
he wants to meet up with me to collar and fuck me.
So, you're planning on being collared by a stranger? You haven't even met this man, and you're calling him Master?

The reality is that you don't know this man. So, why don't you meet this guy for coffee to see if you even like him before deciding to commit yourself to a stranger?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 8:03:32 AM)

She's way past that point.  She's cheating and seriously caught up in the naughty/freedom parts and he's whispering all the words that make her wet at the right time.

You serve him like he tells you to serve him.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 9:16:36 AM)

Laylah, you joined CM almost three years ago. It says on your forum profile stats that you joined in February of 2006. In my book, that's not "new to the scene".

As others have said, use your common sense. Assholes can smell desperation.
So don't be so desperate to be owned.

Take time. Get some self- esteem, so you don't give yourself away so quickly and easily. Make sure your prospective Dom is worthy of your time and attention.



Maya2001 -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 9:27:23 AM)

has your current boyfriend agreed to you having a master?? Does your master know about the current boyfriend??? To start you have to be honest with all parties.

And if this has been going on for months online chances are that is where it will stay ..you are probably providing him with good wanking material  which is enough to satisfy him  and he promises a future meet to keep you as his online wanking material

when someone is really truly  interested in being your master they arrange a meet early on and use online time to get to know you as a person not to  have you do cam action for them first. 



oceanwynds -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 11:20:41 AM)

Only he can tell you how he wants you to please him, and seriously it wouldnt do much good to tell you to wait on being collared by him. Some people live for being collared and dont take the 'relationship' seriously.



JustDarkness -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 12:34:55 PM)

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Assholes can smell desperation.


you can't blame people beeing assholes when a girl is desperate and offers herself. She is an adult and it is her own responsibility too.



colouredin -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 12:53:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

quote:

Assholes can smell desperation.


you can't blame people beeing assholes when a girl is desperate and offers herself. She is an adult and it is her own responsibility too.


I think they are equally to blame to be honest, nasty boys and silly girls



JustDarkness -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 12:55:32 PM)

yeah that is what I meant. Both are part of this.



colouredin -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 1:02:25 PM)

it is always easy to blame just one though isnt it lover



Catgirl711 -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 1:04:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin
Im not going to bother because to be honest you probably wont listen.

quote:

ORIGINAL: alysia
alysia is not going to attempt to go into anything else, as like colouredin says, you probably wouldn't listen.  

I mean... you just can't get advice more helpful than that.  I only hope more people begin to fill this thread with such knowledge and consideration for someone who is asking sincere questions....
which one is the eye-rolling smiley?

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It seem as though you've been looking around for a while and trying to learn as much as you can and perhaps you got wrapped up in the first Master that came along or perhaps you've done your part for research and have gone about this cautiously.  Either way you are looking for ways to serve a Master.

There are a lot of great books, sites, etc. out there that can help you learn a little more about about your position and they are great jumping off tools to get you started for such a life.  Of course, as the others said, He is the only one that can tell you how to serve Him, but there are a lot of ways to learn to serve, as long as you realize that these may change per your Master.  There is nothing wrong with going into a relationship with skills as long as you are not objective to change.

Here's one thing I wish somebody would have mentioned to me when I was new.  It's called an "Acid Test", and yes, while a lot of Dom/mes may know how to get past them, it turns out to be a very helpful tool for getting rid of some of the lesser "enemies"  (horny net geeks, non-dom control freaks, etc.).
Message me on the other side, and I'll be happy to give you some links to some helpful pages on "serving" and some good books, and I'll give you any advice I can  (which won't carry near the experience of others, but I know from my own experience that it can be hard to get advice on the CM boards).




colouredin -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 1:08:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Catgirl711

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin
Im not going to bother because to be honest you probably wont listen.

quote:

ORIGINAL: alysia
alysia is not going to attempt to go into anything else, as like colouredin says, you probably wouldn't listen.  

I mean... you just can't get advice more helpful than that.  I only hope more people begin to fill this thread with such knowledge and consideration for someone who is asking sincere questions....
which one is the eye-rolling smiley?



Dude I did answer her question, she didnt ask for people to analyse the validity of her relationship (as you just did) and my point was that other people would come in and do that (like you did) you see her question was how to satisfy his desire, scroll up and notice when I answered I actually said the same as you, I just decided to not tell her how fake her relationship was. But yup you take the moral high ground. [8|]



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 1:38:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

quote:

Assholes can smell desperation.

you can't blame people beeing assholes when a girl is desperate and offers herself. She is an adult and it is her own responsibility too.


Yes exactly. That was the point of my post. Here it is again in its entirety:

"Laylah, you joined CM almost three years ago. It says on your forum profile stats that you joined in February of 2006. In my book, that's not "new to the scene".

As others have said, use your common sense. Assholes can smell desperation.
So don't be so desperate to be owned.

Take time. Get some self- esteem, so you don't give yourself away so quickly and easily. Make sure your prospective Dom is worthy of your time and attention."

Was I not perfectly clear?



Catgirl711 -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 2:03:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin
Dude I did answer her question, she didnt ask for people to analyse the validity of her relationship (as you just did) and my point was that other people would come in and do that (like you did) you see her question was how to satisfy his desire, scroll up and notice when I answered I actually said the same as you, I just decided to not tell her how fake her relationship was. But yup you take the moral high ground. [8|]


*shrug*

 "but you probably wouldn't listen anyway" is rude,  why even mention it?
Why not just stop at, "Well to satisfy him you do as he says, simple really." (<--- which IS good advice)
But a snarky comment was needed?.
I'm wondering that if you say "well, I wouldn't have taken it as rude", if that would actually be true (don't answer, I've seen you get defensive over small stuff).
That's all I'm saying.

Whether validity of her relationship was asked or not it would be nice if the "new girls" were subject to such information.  As I said, there are certain things "I" would have liked to know, but couldn't ask a question without getting an answer that didn't REALLY answer the question, or some other yahoo telling me follow my common sense.  (if I followed "common sense" I wouldn't even BE in bdsm, so please understand my confusion when I'm not sure if something is "normal").

The answer to her question is, "Only He can tell you how to serve Him"
The answer she is most likely looking for is "How does one serve a Master" which she can find info on ALL OVER THE PLACE.
If the first answer was the only answer then we wouldn't have a swarm of books and sites for just that thing.

Ya'll know newbies don't know how to ask the right questions. Quit playing with them.



ODschainedangel -> RE: Serving my Master (1/30/2009 2:37:02 PM)

I would not worry so much about how you will please him as I would worry more about will I live to see another day.
If you have time while on line with this dude in between him jacking off to telling you what to do. I suggest you look up some stories about girls who go meet a man they have only chatted with online and phone and allowed them to tie them up and collar them. Most end in death or so hurt they wish they were dead.

It amazes me that people even would allow a person they have never meet before in person to do things like this.

It also makes me sad

If you are going to go through with this. I hope you have set up some safe calls  and if not that you have made out your will.
Angel



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