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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/2/2009 4:02:48 PM   
Morniel


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Status: offline 		What do you mean "how do you remain submissive"? A person either is or isn't submissive.  It has nothing to do with any other person.

Do you mean, "How do you retain your feelings of submission to that person" instead?

If so, I personally just think about him, talk with him on the phone, and sleep with his tee shirt.

It wouldn't occur to me to break any "rules" or anything like that, or to act in a manner inconsistent with what Soltic expects whether he is here, at work, or on the road.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/2/2009 4:07:25 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		Him being away has no effect on my submissiveness to him. We do not live together, and I maintain the same level of submissiveness whether we're together or apart. I don't need external motivators to be submissive, it's an inherent part of me.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/2/2009 4:46:36 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		My M is going in for surgery this Friday. He won't be home until Saturday night at the soonest. This may not sound like a big deal to some of you, but it is to me. Am i still going to be his? Yes. Am i going to be able to sleep without the little nightime rituals? Maybe? Am i going to miss his presence so much it hurts? YES. Will i do anything that is on the "no" list. I really really doubt it. why would i when he is hurt and far from me?

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/2/2009 6:57:46 PM   
DesFIP


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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

 I can easily imagine doing things he wouldn't approve of..and I sometimes do them too. I don't make a career out of it but there are times when I am going my way, whatever the consequences.

agirl



He doesn't care if I eat a fried egg sandwich for dinner when he's not here. He just cares that I don't ever serve one to him! If he's away for a week in summer, I buy peach ice cream. He doesn't mind if I indulge myself when alone, but if he's here I get chocolate of some sort because he likes that.

But I can't imagine doing something that he would disapprove of. I'm not the sort to get drunk and spend all night out. He doesn't micromanage me.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 8:04:02 AM   
agirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

 I can easily imagine doing things he wouldn't approve of..and I sometimes do them too. I don't make a career out of it but there are times when I am going my way, whatever the consequences.

agirl



He doesn't care if I eat a fried egg sandwich for dinner when he's not here. He just cares that I don't ever serve one to him! If he's away for a week in summer, I buy peach ice cream. He doesn't mind if I indulge myself when alone, but if he's here I get chocolate of some sort because he likes that.

But I can't imagine doing something that he would disapprove of. I'm not the sort to get drunk and spend all night out. He doesn't micromanage me.


That's just the way I am. It's no surprise to him. I'd never be able to promise that I'll never do things he'd disapprove of. Sometimes I want my head and suffer for it.

As far as icecream and fried eggs or food of any sort.......I'd have it whether he was here or not ......he doesn't have to have it just because I am.

There's a difference between managing and micromanaging.

agirl

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 8:08:50 AM   
Aynne88


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Status: offline 		Only if I expect to retain and remain in this relationship. I don't "remain" submissive, I either am or I am in the wrong relationship. In a short while we will be 24/7, but until then, if he wants to find me I better be where I am supposed to be and doing what I am supposed to be doing, unless I have asked otherwise.    



quote:

ORIGINAL: Anastasia25

In a long-distance D/s relationship or when your Master is out of town.

How do you remain submissive?
Do you go places only he allows or see people he approves of?


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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 9:30:40 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

How do you remain submissive?


by remaining alive. 
His #1 hard limit...no dying before Him.  this slave makes sure she takes extra safety precautions while He is gone to do all she can not to die before He returns.

quote:

Do you go places only he allows or see people he approves of?


yes...but that's SOP for all the time, not just when he isn't around.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 12:42:02 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I cannot change the fact that i am submissive anymore thn the fact i have green eyes.  i don't have to check in with Master where i go.  I have to go i go.  I mention to Master i am going to get my hair done or food shopping.  it is just mentioned in passing.

Master lets me talk to anyone whom i wish to.  The only restrictions he has on friends, is that i am not allowed to see anyone whom i have played with unless he is with me.  Master knows i can make little day to day decisions, and he has no desire to micomanage me.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 8:17:35 PM   
oSinfullySweeto


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Status: offline 		You are either submissive or you are not.  Being with your Master in person or if you are afar, should have no bearing on whether or not you are submissive.
 
My Master and I are not fortunate enough to be in a 24/7 relationship but this does not lessen the love and respect we share for each other.  Also, he does not feel the need to micro-manage my life.  He is very aware of my daily routine, he knows my circle of friends and knows that I am honest and can be trusted.  My Master knows my thoughts, my emotions and can finish my sentences before I am given the chance to do just that.
 
I am his and will always be his submissive first and foremost, I yearn for the guidelines, boundaries and limits he sets for me.  I will gladly wear my hair how he wishes, dress in clothes that he desires and share with him my innermost thoughts.  I do all this ... because I am submissive and his submissive ... it does not matter to me if we are together in person, or if we are apart.

< Message edited by oSinfullySweeto -- 2/3/2009 8:19:08 PM >

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/3/2009 8:26:45 PM   
RealSub58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Anastasia25

In a long-distance D/s relationship or when your Master is out of town.

How do you remain submissive?
Do you go places only he allows or see people he approves of?


I am sure others have said the same thing ~~I don't need to think about how to remain submissive, I just am that type of woman.Sir lives out of town by 35 miles.  I don't consider that long distance, I think some might.He allows me to be the woman I am cause he knows me.He allows me to email with anyone I wish to or go anywhere I wish to.  I am not a prisoner.  He knows where I am 99.9% of the time.  And this is reciprocated.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/4/2009 12:24:10 AM   
littlecubsub


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Status: offline 		I am submissive to my Master and that does not change whether we are together or apart.  My work takes me away for 15 days at a time and then i am off for 7 days.  During the time i am at work, we text throughout the day and use cam, msn and phone in the evenings. I have certain tasks that are done daily and let him know when I am going somewhere and with whom. We talk about the day every evening. Master does not micromanage but trusts that i will tell him everything.  When i am home on my days off, it is not a hard transition, as by then i am anxious to see him and our communication is such that the day to day things are always taken care of.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/11/2009 8:55:10 AM   
sensura


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Status: offline 		Whether Master is away or at home I remain submissive to him. It really depends on the expectations you discussed when you met. Also on how much dominance he has over you. I am free to do as I like in general, regarding business, finances, family, career. I have my own friends as he does his. If he wasnt to like someone then I wouldnt expect him to be in a situation with that person. He offers me guidance and advices me if I am doing something he disagrees with. Being a true submissive to him I will do as he wishes if it makes sense in my head.  Its really about the level your at. I had a Master once that required to do homework whether it was a story or a poem or a scene and email it to him. We were long distance. I think in long distance its the same mentally he just isnt there to physically control things. The one part of my life that I submit fully and no questions asked is sexually. I do as he wishes and of course he dosent make me do anything that is uncomfortable or traumatizing for me. On a final note if you are in a relationship where he controls every part of your life then I would say that you should act the same when he is away as you would when he is there. 

Sensura

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/11/2009 11:30:38 PM   
AlkemieJane


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Status: offline 		many have said "i don't have to think about it, i just am". while this is true, if i'm understanding the OP correctly, it's more asking how to serve your Master/Mistress from a distance than how to stay a sub. (please correct me if i'm wrong)

i find that once you get familiar with your Master/Mistress, you can anticipate what they want, what makes them happy... in my mind, the best way to serve Them from a distance is to simply do that, with or without Their express request. (for example, sex-slaves sending dirty picture messages to their Dominant on occasion (hehe Master loves that! :-P ), house-slaves keeping things in order, even when their Dominant is away, etc).

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/12/2009 5:25:21 AM   
favesclava


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Status: offline 		 i'm expected to make smart choices that in no way will bring harm to His property.  otherwise i'm free to visit friends , hang out, dance , or do nothing at all.

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/12/2009 5:45:05 AM   
starshineowned


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quote:

when your Master is out of town.

How do you remain submissive?
Do you go places only he allows or see people he approves of?


I dont remain submissive because I wasn't submissive to start.

I am however, obedient to his directives for me whether he is home or not.
I don't go many places or see many people but if I should..yes, permission to do so is required first.

starshine


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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/13/2009 7:03:26 AM   
Serenelysmiles


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Status: offline 		I just spent a year in a long distance relationship with my Master before moving here to be with Him 24/7, and even now it's more like 24/3 as His work schedule takes Him away from home 3 1/2 - 4 days a week, though He does come home in the middle of those four days to sleep if He's not too tired (He works 24 hour shifts in an ER,  four hour urgent care shifts in between the two days He works 24 hours, and He works 90 miles away from home) so I'm always in this situation.  I think there are times that I may do something like slack off on a workout (these are mandatory in our house), but I'm never not His submissive, and if He wants me to do something I certainly get it done before He gets back home, or whatever time frame there is for completing an assignment.  He never places restrictions on me as far as where I can go, or whom I can see because He trusts my judgment in those two regards (He does, however, check the chocolate supply and the supply of monster drinks to make sure I'm not over indulging on those two commodities...it's pretty obvious when He returns and I haven't slept for three days...)

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/14/2009 12:30:58 PM   
slavemira


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Status: offline 		mira and her Master are LDR right now - he's in the US and slave is in the UK.... although she is flying out to see him very soon - yay!

anyway - Master gives his girl rules and rituals which she follows and help her to remain connected to him even with the darn time difference... but it is hard and sometimes life takes over and the focus can drop a little... but the desire never does and so long as mira has that then she remains as his slave....

mira always keeps in her mind that she is a reflection of him in everything that she says and does and would do nothing that would let him down if was here....

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/14/2009 7:00:00 PM   
KyttynTheMynx


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Status: offline 		I too, am in a LDR for the moment.  I remain submissive by doing as He wishes (like no sugar after 8pm because it gives me borderline nightmares), and surrounding myself with things that are His like clothing, and the ring He gave me.

In general, I am allowed to go anywhere I want, as long as I remain safe, and dont do anything stupid (well, more so than my normal level haha!).  He has in the past requested that I not spend time with certain people, but that is because she was a serious bad influence.  In that respect, I am ok with it because she really did attempt to put my ass on the line and almost got me into a very unsafe situation that could have ended in 30 flavors of disaster.  Other than that, he doesnt care what friends I hang with.


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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/15/2009 4:23:36 AM   
InTonguesslave


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Status: offline 		he's so in my mind all of the time that the feelings dont go away atall.  thats not to say im always good, but like a few have said, im mindful not to do things that will harm his property.  i go to bed when he tells me to and i try hard to do the tasks he's set me, but im not always self disciplined enough - like now, its a nice day and im going to ride out with some friends instead of doing my boring paperwork - but i will be thinking about the fact that im not doing my boring paperwork at least

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RE: When Your Master Is Away... - 2/15/2009 9:21:07 AM   
wordstoponder


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From: New Hampshire
Status: offline 		At this point of time, my Master lives an hour and a half away, and I see Him only during the weekends.  Although I spend a lot of time with Him, I still consider our relationship "long-distance."  Relationships have always been difficult for me, especially when there is some distance involved.

Now to reply to the OP. 

I wear a collar - a chain necklace that I can wear in public, at work, around the house, etc.  However, the collar is only a material object that, though it has meaning, its comforting effect is limited... The most important thing for me is to hear His voice.  Keeping in touch via the phone lets me wrap His voice around me in a blanket of security.

My Master is a relaxed natural dominant that does not want to "micromanage".  Sometimes I have had hard times when I crave that domineering guidance or strictness, and I feel lost, not sure of myself.  I am learning to be more independent and am finding myself, which pleases Master more than micromanaging.  I am a submissive, not a puppet.

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