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how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve a M... - 8/12/2004 4:32:42 PM

knees2you

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Was just wandering When it was that You decided You wanted to, or perfered to Serve a Mistress or a Master.
Where you a Male slave~sub, and wanted to serve another Male, or Female who was Dominate. Or You where a Female sub~slave Who wanted to serve either a Male dominate or a Female Dominate??

"What made You decide which one You where more Attracted too~??"

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RE: how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve... - 8/12/2004 8:13:49 PM

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Well for myself, it was after walking out on an abusive M/s relationship that I found that I actually in retro spect enjoyed some of what happened. But that was after being out of the lifestyle for several years, recooping.

For myself, I was not able to serve another female, it just didn't work, around other female's I'm rather dominant in nature, but get me with the right male and though I might show some of my dominant nature at times, I go all sub for the one who I love and am owned by.

As to what made me decide to return to service? Simple many in the vanilla world would not acapt my past, it squicked them out to much, also I just was not able to give all of me that I new I could give, thus I came back and ended up finding my other half.

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RE: how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve... - 8/13/2004 5:27:43 PM

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I think you're asking how one decided to be bi or heterosexual, is that correct?

Though this topic is much debated in psychiatric literature, I believe that one is "wired" to be gay or straight. It is possible for the inherent inclination to be repressed and supressed, but that does not make it go away. I know that being homosexual was considered a mental disorder until a couple decades ago and one could "take a cure" or deny and repress to avoid social pressure and embarrassment. However, I think one is what one is.

I have never *chosen* to find men sexually attractive and therefore pursue any relationship in general or a D/s relationship specifically with a male dominant as a result of that choice. "I yam as I yam" and I think that applies to pretty much everyone.

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RE: how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve... - 8/16/2004 10:35:03 PM

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When I was 16 I decided I didn't want to be the one in control in a relationship.

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RE: how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve... - 8/17/2004 10:38:10 AM

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well, I started exploring this lifestyle several months after having my first girl/girl experience. I knew since i was about 10 I liked boys and girls, I didnt have an actual eperience until i was 27, but I knew from after the first moment i spent with her that i would always be in a realtionship with a Female from that point on .. so when i can into the lifestyle, i never looked for Anyone other than a Femme Domme ... and for those that think finding a Mistress is hard .. finding a Femme Domme for a femme subbie girl .. is damn near impossible .. chuckles .. but they keep telling me patience is a virtue .. lol

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RE: how or when did you know whether You wanted to seve... - 8/17/2004 5:14:23 PM

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