TwilightsKitten
Posts: 55
Joined: 2/10/2009 Status: offline
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For me, as a switch, I am either the Dom, or the sub, depending on who I am with. I may, for example, let a pet that is feeling a little frisky be the top, or maybe even a little dominant with me, but at the end of the day, I am still the Dom, and they are still the pet. So for me, while I am comfortable with and enjoy both, I may strictly be one or the other, or sometimes maybe 90/10 but I don't do 50/50. I want my role and my partner's defined, but that is something that changes with each individual partner. With one person, they may be totally submissive, and I'll be totally dominant, or maybe they are mostly dominant with submissive streaks, so I'll be mostly submissive, yet willing to be dominant when her submissive side shows. All switch truly means is you are capable of both to some degree. Some can do one or the other 100%, some are 50/50, 80/20, and so on. So a person that can be all Dom or all sub, is a switch. Most people make 2 different profiles to avoid the negative reactions associated with switches being unsure or not knowing what they want or who they are. For me, I know exactly who I am, and proudly label myself a switch. If people can't see past stereotypes within a community that is already stereotyped....do you really want to spend your time on them? I know labeling myself a switch has caused me some grief before, but that's what profiles are for, right? If a switch is able to tell you what they want as both, they are probably sure of and comfortable with who they are. Making a bunch of profiles just leads to people thinking you are insecure. If you are a switch, be proud of knowing that is who and what you are. You can't explore with someone else until you have discovered yourself. As always, just this kitten's humble opinion. Mew!
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~*Kitten*~ Friend: "So, you're a cat boy?" Me: "Cat girls need love too" Mew! [Straight, Male, Switch]
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