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I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/6/2009 9:14:37 PM

zombiebabe

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Its my first one! I'm a little nervous!
I'm excited though as I've met some of them and talked to others via email.
The topic is polyarmory. I have nothing against those who practice but the lifestyle is not for me - I'm a one-man kinda girl. I'm not too interested in the topic but I think I will go cause I want to meet the others.
What if I'm just not interested or really repelled? I dont think I will be; I've met the guy who's in that kind of relationship who is giving the talk and he's really nice and he told me about his love life the first time we met.
Advice for first time munchers? Anything I should wear, or bring, like deviled eggs and green beans? (hey, I am a Southern girl)

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RE: I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/6/2009 11:49:27 PM

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Most people find that learning about new topics, especially the ones they aren't actually into, can be a refreshing and eye opening experience.

If you were asked to bring something, then bring something reasonable. You should wear clothes appropriate for the venue. Since there will be a talk, it's likely that slightly more obvious kink wear is ok, but it's good to err on the side of caution.

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RE: I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/7/2009 4:36:45 AM

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You're pushing into uncharted territory for me. I have attended munches, and they did not have topics, especially not BDSM related ones. It was just a vanilla get-together attended by kinksters.

The usual idea behind a munch is to relax. Make sure you wear clothing that does not show any kinkiness, and you are comfortable in. Do not expect to hook up. It has happened, but the idea is to meet others without the meat market pressure. Look to meet friends, and enjoy conversations.

There's no rule regarding what food, if any, to bring. Contact the organizer and ask.

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RE: I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/7/2009 5:14:50 PM

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Hi.

The thing I learned about munches is that everyone there will have different opinions, fetishes, and lifestyles so go with an open mind and be accepting of other people's choices. Hold off on ranting until you get home to those who share your opinions.

Hope this helps.

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RE: I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/7/2009 7:14:16 PM

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Send a message to the host/hostess asking about appropriate attire.
Is the munch in a home as a pot-luck or at a restaurant? There should be guidelines on what to bring.

People usually dress nice and tend to wear black but do not wear anything overtly kinky. Of course this can change depending on the venue.

You are a Southern girl so clean up good and put on some nice clothes and your best smile and remember your manners.

It will all be fine.

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RE: I'm getting munched on Sunday - 2/7/2009 7:43:48 PM

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Sounds more like a discussion group than a munch, but whatever it is, it sounds like it'll be interesting and educational.

What to do if confronted with something that shocks or repells you:
1. If it is just a presentation, just sit there and smile and nod. Act the way YOU would want to be respected if you just presented some intimate detail of your life to a stranger... be non-judgemental.
2. If approached to participate in something that you aren't interested in, or are repelled by: Simply be honest, but poilite. "Sorry, not really my thing, but thank you for inviting me."

Good manners are rarely out of place.

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