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Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/8/2009 5:02:51 PM   
Chongo


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Status: offline 		Speaking for myself, I’ve learned that I become extremely turned-on when being dominated and denied sex all the while submitting to the demands of a superior female, no matter how demeaning. Staying home in chaste knowing that my mistress is somewhere enjoying herself with some hung stud keeps me in a state of heightened arousal anticipating her arrival with her stimulating account of her evening. My question is, is my mistress equally turned-on from knowing how much I enjoy this?
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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/8/2009 5:09:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Chongo

Speaking for myself, I’ve learned that I become extremely turned-on when being dominated and denied sex all the while submitting to the demands of a superior female, no matter how demeaning. Staying home in chaste knowing that my mistress is somewhere enjoying herself with some hung stud keeps me in a state of heightened arousal anticipating her arrival with her stimulating account of her evening. My question is, is my mistress equally turned-on from knowing how much I enjoy this?


The only way you can know for sure is to ask her.

Personally, the mindset of total surrender and suffering is very, very erotic to me.  Aside from bondage (which is sort of my end-all, be-all fetish), I get incredibly turned on at the knowledge that a man is voluntarily enduring something painful, uncomfortable or humiliating - just to please me.  The less likely he is to EVER engage in that act without the "carrot" of pleasing me makes it even more intense.

I think what makes this over the top for me, though, is when a sub can articulate it and/or show me this humiliation, shame, and feeling of use - but still maintain some level of dignity on top of it all. It's a fine line to walk. The men that can do this are somewhat mindblowing to me.  I just want to "break" them again and again, when in reality they are never really broken to begin with.

Get in touch with that vulnerable side tho - and show it to her. Through words, emotions, eyes.

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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/8/2009 10:19:11 PM   
iSyllogism


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Status: offline 		Being able to communicate feelings, emotions, ideas is a powerful force in any kind of relationship, but perhaps especially in BDSM interactions. Being able to give a true account of yourself and your feelings and being able to explain them in a clear and concise way ought to be appealing for any dynamic, female dominant or otherwise. I know I am far more interested in someone who is able to explain in a positive and thorough way what they are looking for than someone who is vague and/or guarded.

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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/8/2009 11:00:40 PM   
FullfigRIMAAM1


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My question is, is my mistress equally turned-on from knowing how much I enjoy this?
Only your mistress could answer this.   This doesn't do anything for me, but I suppose if you had the house spic and span clean while chaste, I could get turned on.    M

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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/9/2009 9:25:37 AM   
Nikitaa


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Status: offline 		If your mistress did not enjoy then why would she have you as a submissive? Maybe she does not enjoy all things she does to you but she must enjoy most or she would not have you.
She probably enjoys knowing her submissive is back in home waiting for her arrival while in Chasity belt.







Or maybe she not enjoy you. Maybe she does not enjoy house work so she pretend she is dominant to receive free maid service.

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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/9/2009 9:55:49 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Do dominant's realize their submissive's pleasure?  I would hope so!  Sharing kink/pleasure is a common goal in my world.  Catering to something I am not into is not something I would do, so knowing his kink would come before I was his mistress and he would know how I felt or if I had a change of heart even.

But what you are talking about is YOUR pleasure and a hope that your mistress would enjoy it too.  If you are that far into things of this nature, I would assume that she would enjoy it as she shared her evening with you.  No one here can answer for your mistress (real or imaginary).

Are the kinks of a submissive important to dominant's?  That depends on the people involved...

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RE: Do mistresses realize their subs pleasure? - 2/9/2009 8:13:00 PM   
SimplyIsaac


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ORIGINAL: Chongo

Speaking for myself, I’ve learned that I become extremely turned-on when being dominated and denied sex all the while submitting to the demands of a superior female, no matter how demeaning. Staying home in chaste knowing that my mistress is somewhere enjoying herself with some hung stud keeps me in a state of heightened arousal anticipating her arrival with her stimulating account of her evening. My question is, is my mistress equally turned-on from knowing how much I enjoy this?


That's hot. I don't see why she wouldn't find it arousing, either, especially if she's already using you that way.

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