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ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 6:22:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have looked on many woman dominant profiles on collarme. Many (not all, I not write all so do not wad your panties) of the dominants write mean profiles. They write harshly and many appear rude.


They only seem rude because, uh... they are.

Nikitaa, you're doing exactly the right thing. By writing a profile that reflects who you really are as a person, how you really feel and communicate, you'll attract men who are interested in you for who you really are. Follow your instincts. From what I've seen of your posts so far, I'd say they're extremely good instincts. Trust 'em.



ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 6:24:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I not annoyed if people in forum think I am cute and adorable. I just pretend I am annoyed.


Ah-ha! So, you are a fake after all, eh? I knew it...



lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 6:28:03 PM)

No you have common sense and respect for others actually, nothing wrong with that. More doms should be like you. :)



DesFIP -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 6:31:15 PM)

A lot of inexperienced male subs draw their view of what a domme is from porn. It's easy to play a mean uncaring person on camera for half an hour at a time. In real life, decent people do care if the sub is sick, do want to take off the latex and stilettos and wear fuzzy bedroom slippers.

Show yourself to be who you are, because if you pretend to be someone else you will only attract a sub who doesn't like the real you. And life is too short to be with people who don't like you willingly.



MusicalMaster -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 7:18:41 PM)

I'm not mean at all.  There are times where I'm strict and unyielding, and a slave or submissive of mine that charges me just to see what happens will wind up sitting on the ground, rubbing her head and wondering where the last thirty seconds of her life went.  I don't bluff with submissives.  All that said, I prefer NOT to be mean because I'm someone who gets the most out of a submissive when she's doing what she's doing because she -wants- me to be happy - not because she has to.



Nikitaa -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 7:30:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I not annoyed if people in forum think I am cute and adorable. I just pretend I am annoyed.


Ah-ha! So, you are a fake after all, eh? I knew it...



Go fuck yourself.


I not like smart-ass pandas. Sit around all day eating bamboo and making smart-ass comments.



ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 7:34:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa


Go fuck yourself.


Tryin' that fierce thing on for size, eh?



quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa
I not like smart-ass pandas. Sit around all day eating bamboo and making smart-ass comments.


Yeah, well, when you can't get the front door open because your yard is so full of bamboo, who ya gonna call? A panda, that's who! And you'll appreciate us a little more then, I promise you.



BalletBob -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 8:04:00 PM)

Nikitaa, PLEASE stay the way you are. Some of the Dommes on here, act so superior and pretty nasty at times. I am not sure if they are doing this to show they are the Boss, or to attract a certain type of sub.

My Mistress was never like this, and she was always very kind and understanding. It was a pleasure having sessions with her, and knowing her. You seem very nice, as she did. Just keep having FUN !

Sincerly, sub BalletBob



Nikitaa -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 10:57:23 PM)

Thank you for sweet replies everyone. I read all even ones I not comment about individually.

I have solution. Next week watch the news. Every night when I watch television I see show named cops. Is where they show policemen chasing bad people. I will be on the show next week. I am going to rob doughnut shop while wearing a leather dominatrix outfit. Then I will drive away fast. Then I will drive over spike strips. Then I will run. Then I will hide under a kids swimming pool in someones back yard. Then the cops will find me and handcuff me. I will hide my face with my shirt.

I will receive 6 years (3 with good behavior.)

I will then be known as Fierce Nikita master doughnut bandit.

The End

(until sequel, maybe I not do sequel, sequels never as good as original)



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 11:11:34 PM)

This should be good.  Where do I get tickets to this show?

[sm=popcorn.gif][sm=chug.gif]



MistressRouge -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 11:45:59 PM)

Hello Nikitaa :)

The best way to project yourself as a Dominant, is by being yourself. Submissives actually prefer a more genuine approach, and a profile is really a projection of you.

Being approachable, by being genuine in your descriptive works.

Those that are text aggressive believe that shows a more Dominance, and it must be quite hard to keep up a facade in that way.

They believe Dominance is all about verbal abusing everyone in contact, that is not in my case.

So good luck, dont compare yourself with others, be genuine, and yourself, works for me :)



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/11/2009 11:55:54 PM)

I wondered the same thing when I began learning/recognizing about this side of myself.    Plenty of people told me I was too nice to be dominant, except the ones that fear me because of my size and what's in their head about me.

Firstly, from what I've read of yours on the boards (remembering ice and ass), you're definitely mean enough for a lot of guys, and I mean that in the nicest way possible. [;)]   Secondly, being dominant is about being yourself, and very little to do with what others expect you to be.     M



Vendaval -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 1:27:50 AM)

Your profile is fine as it is, Nikitaa.  You do not have to pretend to be meaner or nastier or anything else.  Just be yourself. [:)]



piratecommander -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 1:51:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

being dominant is about being yourself



How very true

Pirate



chezzy71 -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 5:14:57 AM)

I will echo what most have said here..be yourself..be true to your own heart.There is no guide to the mean Dominatrix book out there and if there was,why would you bother reading it when clearly you are a Domme with a good insight as to who what she wants.



CatdeMedici -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 5:56:32 AM)

There are bitches and bastards in all walks of life, there are people who respond to, seek and need to have that/be that. People in this life mistake domineering/arrogant for dominant/confident--some seem to think its a great place to "get even" for past wrongs-nope not Me. I lead-- end of story, I dont need to stick My stiletto in a subs throat for them to get that, I also don't have a desire to be a pissant.



thetammyjo -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 6:06:20 AM)

In my very strong opinion, the only want to be a dominant is to be yourself fully and completely.

If you are a rude person, be rude.

If you are a polite person, be polite.

If you like fetishwear, then wear it.

if you like bunny slippers, wear them.

If you are what makes you feel most comfortable and most empowered then you will become the best dominant you can be. Beyond learning to be safer, don't care so much about how others are doing things.

The only person you will always need to answer to is yourself so be proud of and pleased with yourself first and foremost.



MarcEsadrian -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 7:25:47 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

Are dominants supposed to write mean? ARE WE SUPPOSED TO YELL IN OUR PROFILE AS MANY DO?



Assertive, articulate, unapologetic, yes, but in a general profile or in meeting for the first time, gratuitous "meanness" feels a little theatrical. Business transactions aside, mean is more relevant when it has personal context, in my mind, just as deeply servile gestures of devotion do. She should be dominant from the beginning, yes, but actual heartfelt cruelty in my mind should be seen as a gift bestowed; liberties she takes when she's comfortable enough with you to abuse you.



SmokingGoddess -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 7:54:47 AM)

I think Doms/Dommes that yell (in profiles or real time) are compensating for their inability to lead and control (or insecurities of that ability). They sound like bullies, IMO.
I think a whisper can be much more effective than a scream. If I have to yell to get their attention, I won't be able to hold their attention for very long.  What's the point in that?



chiaThePet -> RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? (2/12/2009 7:55:21 AM)


I've seen no mention of the required Xena Warrior Princess Breastplate, replete
with leather clad My Favorite Pony.(not a sybian, minds out of the butter)

Nor the BeastMaster Leather Loincloth with accompanying Calve Strap Sandals.

Amateurs.

chia* (the pet)



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