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Aenigma -> Emotional Play (2/16/2009 8:56:25 AM)
Just curious on what everyone's thoughts, feelings and experiences were with emotional play. Thanks!

Lockit -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 9:07:14 AM)
Can you be more specific? For me, all play is emotional.

Antheia -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 9:24:38 AM)
I agree with Lockit. All play can be emotional. Some more extremely emotional than others. When I was owned Master could actually make me cry while playing and seconds later have me laughing uncontrollably. That kind of emotional play was wonderful to say the least. Another type of emotional play is when a Dominant uses ignoring the sub or slave, or humiliating them .This can be very harmful to the one on the receiving end if not done right and thought put into it. Then there is emotional play that can be one sided and leave the sub or slave with feelings of worthlessness or even depression. Those , to me, can be terribly harmful but I am sure others here see it in a good light too. ymmv A

marie2 -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 9:26:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aenigma Just curious on what everyone's thoughts, feelings and experiences were with emotional play. Thanks! I think there's a time and a place for the headfuck, if that's what you're refering to. I'm ok with it if I'm feeling secure in the relatioship, otherwise, it can wreak havoc and be destructive.

allthatjaz -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 10:04:00 AM)
Recently I had been through some very tough emotional times (not within my relationship) I was left feeling like the combination of a raging bull and miserable wreck. Things were actually getting quite out of hand and I was losing all control and reasoning. Steve took me hard one night..... he just seemed to know the right time to step in and do something about it. It was a highly emotional session where all my anger and self doubt were spent, curbed and dealt with. I will always remember that night and the renewed energy it gave me. It brought us closer together than I ever thought possible, so yes, I believe emotional play has its place.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 12:09:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aenigma Just curious on what everyone's thoughts, feelings and experiences were with emotional play. Thanks! Depends on what you are referring to. I'm with Lockit in the feeling that most play I do has some emotional component, whether it be with a serious partner or a friend. However, I separate that from the mindfuck which is a deliberate play on emotions which can include fear, humiliation, anxiety, etc..

oceanwynds -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 2:27:27 PM)
i not sure what you are referring too either. Sir has used mind-fucks occassionally, but he seems to be able to know when the right time to do those are.

silkncarol -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 2:33:09 PM)
What she said......what kind of emotional play are you talking about? quote: ORIGINAL: oceanwynds i not sure what you are referring too either. Sir has used mind-fucks occassionally, but he seems to be able to know when the right time to do those are.

softness -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 2:45:39 PM)
Intense emotional play ... it has an edge for me which is much sharper than purely physical play. Its not better or worse, but it is very different and appeals to a very different headspace. It's something I don't mess around with though and obviously it only happens within longer term dynamics because that emotional connection needs to develop. If a casual play partner enagages in emotional manipulation, humiliation, fear play anything of that nature its not going to take effect because they dont have that handle on me. It takes something deeper and more connected to reach that place.

DesFIP -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 4:57:19 PM)
Are you talking about emotional sadism? Humiliation? Degradation? Mind fucks? Fear play? Please explain what you mean.

DavanKael -> RE: Emotional Play (2/16/2009 9:03:18 PM)
Wouldn't have the tiniest shred of interest in play that wasn't emotional. Davan

allthatjaz -> RE: Emotional Play (2/17/2009 10:26:49 AM)
I understand what the op is asking. Emotional play could be anything that involves the emotions and although some will say that all play has an emotional element, I only believe you can do this with someone you are emotionally involved with otherwise it is just superficial.

NessunDorma -> RE: Emotional Play (2/17/2009 11:58:02 AM)
I'm not entirely convinced it's superficial...but then I guess the depth of it also depends on what you mean by 'involved.' I suppose I don't see 'involved' as a switch flipped after a certain point with someone (this being a forum, I also have to say I don't know if anyone -did- say that). I think there can be a certain level of emotional involvement, especially during play where the emotions are heightened, with anyone you have a sense for as a person. That might mean you've known them for years...or only a few days. If the latter, then play might be based as much on exploring that emotional connection/rapport (better word) as indulging it. So I suppose outside of a few circumstances (you know, the kind where the scene just fizzles) all play, for me, is based on some kind of emotional involvement. I suspect that the more 'involved' the parties, the more intense...but I'm not even convinced of that. Scenes are a way to express and share an emotional connection based on impulses each of us have, the kind that lead us to Dominate or submit. The intensity of those impulses, and the potential strength of the barriers we have to keep them in check seems to require most scenes to have a significant emotional element to them.

antipode -> RE: Emotional Play (2/17/2009 6:14:41 PM)
Ah. Another oneliner. How exciting.

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