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Tempestspet -> RE: BHM?????? (1/18/2006 8:46:10 AM)
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BHM, doesn't exist because, like some women who created BBW, some guys did not create BHM. For some reason, it's not looked at as the same thing. Guys can have a pot belly, to some degree, and it's ok. On a woman, that same sized belly, is generally frowned on.
Fair or not, right or wrong, that's basically the way it works.
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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML
My answer is that men don't want to turn a fault (being fat) into a beautiful quality.
Put another way, a man would want a woman to love him anyway, despite his faults. He doesn't try to turn his fault into a strength.
hmmm... not everyone looks at it as a fault. I'm not skinny, I'm not huge. I'm what I have been told is called chunky. Whatever..., I call it fat, and they all roll their eyes at me.
Some do look at it as a fault. That's why there are people of every shape, size, color.
Health... is a different reasoning for size all together. I know a lot of skinny people...and yes I mean small!!... that are in such crappy health... I don't don't how they get around. I know some people who technically would be obese, have better heart, blood pressure, and colesterol scores than most people, no matter the size.
Hmm... I said it before that I'm not a little girl... so I guess this thread does pertain to me, though not in the extreme. By extreme, I mean I can touch my toes.... and flatten my palms to the ground about 4 inches behind me. (something a lot of skinny people can't do either... and somehow I can get aorund my fat..hmm) and tie my own shoes, in the center, not on the side cause it's all I can reach.
My opinion is that everyone's different. There's someone who likes big people, and there's someone who likes small people out there for everyone. Unless you are an ugly person inside. That...well that just sucks to be you..lol... what I have to wonder about it though, and their opnions.... is why it seems so many skinny, or fit, people are always the ones jumping up and down calling foul, at the bigger ones. Who's ego, and self esteem is on the low side of the totem pole there??? Perhaps that's the thing we need to wonder about....and ask for opinions on.
With this thread though, you will create a whole lot of nastiness.... whether it's out of insecurity, or anger, or righetous indignation.... likely all of the those combines. This is a touchy subject. Good luck, and just remember...don't take it personally, though it will likely try to get that way. But you will get what you seek.... opinions.
Tempest's pet
jennifer
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