CatdeMedici
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In this scenario, he is. However, this is an interesting thought to ponder--no one goes in to this with out selfish motives--I don't care what anyone says--there is an intent on everyone's part to get something out of it for them. To continue to maintain a relationship--it has to be mutually satisfying---the challenge is--how to define and develop that mutuality. I steer the ship, I chart the course, I direct and decide--but to do so without consideration to chezz's needs doesn't provide him room to grow, doesn't allow him to maintain him as a person, doesn't pay attention to his basic needs and when that happens, how good can he be to and for Me? I personally don't equate My FemDom with selfishness, because I think to make it work well, you have to know where and when someone else's needs have to be looked after. However, he also knows that it isn't on his design, its not an option to say " I don't wanna" " or " I only want to xxx" but it is his option if he feels he is being totally forgotten to speak up--is that selfish? Probably so, but as I stated, everyone who goes into some kind of relationship, D/s or otherwise does so with some self gratification motives.
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