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Sexycelticlady -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 11:27:44 AM)

To the OP. Even if I had been interested in joining a couple (I am not looking at present) the responses you have made in this post show me that you have not reached a level of emotional control that I would expect from a couple looking for a third. I am currently involved in a poly-type situation but am not joining a couple, I am serving the Dom and have no interaction with His slave. People were offering you advise, you take or leave it as you chose, the over-reaction you had in this thread to what you percieved as being negative would make me question your ability to have the balance that is necessary for a poly household.



SailingBum -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 11:37:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: deviantcouple14

We have been searching for quite a while for a bisexual submissive/switch woman. At first we dont want her to live with us, we want to start off slow...she may never live with us. It is a new kind of experience for us. Why cant we find anyone? Can anyone give us any advice on how to find more women like we are looking for? Know any meeting places or sites we can go to, to meet  people??


STOP whatever it is your doing!  It clearly ain't working for ya.  Try another tack.  I guarantee it will work better than what you have been doing.

BadOne



MstrssScarlet -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 12:00:02 PM)

We've been looking for at least 4 years now.  We've run into several problems.  Most of the people who replied were interested in me, but not my husband.  I used to have a picture of him posted with mine, but removed it when we decided to try another approach.  Because I'm the one wanting the sub more than my husband (I'm bisexual), we decided it would be best to try to find one mainly for me.  I've had more responses since we made that change, but none that have worked out.  That brings me to another problem....Most of the submissives I've talked to are hoping to be taken care of financially.  My husband and I insist that the sub be self supporting.  We just can't afford to completely support another person on our income.  I'm sure there ARE a lot of dominant couples out there who can afford to take care of all the submissive's needs, so that moves us down on the list.  I used to attend a LOT of sloshes and events, but most of the submissives I met there were attending with their dominants.  I did, however, meet my current male submissive at an event.  At the time, I had even given up finding a male submissive and there are tons of them out there. (Sorry guys)  There are also the man haters that can create problems.  They would love to serve a woman, but don't want a man in the picture AT ALL.  I've seen quite a few profiles like this and I refuse to accept anyone who can't at least be polite and respectful to my husband.
As I've stated on my own profile, I would rather go without than try to make it work with the wrong one.  I would suggest this to anyone out there looking.

Mistress Scarlet



vagabondduo -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 12:02:56 PM)

I like your Mama.  She's a wise woman.  



Prinsexx -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 12:19:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: deviantcouple14

We have been searching for quite a while for a bisexual submissive/switch woman. At first we dont want her to live with us, we want to start off slow...she may never live with us. It is a new kind of experience for us. Why cant we find anyone? Can anyone give us any advice on how to find more women like we are looking for? Know any meeting places or sites we can go to, to meet  people??

Everybody wants us that's why.
But there's more to life than being a Cinderella.



domiguy -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 12:59:17 PM)

If your past profile was written anything like your current one I can see why you failed miserably. Do you see how you broke up your thought here.. "no this is not how our profile originally but" It makes it rather difficult to follow. Were you going to allude to how your previous profile was well written or completely ineffective when it came to producing some top quality "bi" gash? 

I can only guess as to whose idea it was to pull your profile...I can't imagine that it your sub would take such a drastic action all on her own...I also can't fathom how she could respect a man that is so thin skinned.

Lil' subbie come to Domiguy.  We can tidy you up...If it worked for Eliza Doolittle I'm sure there is hope for one from Arkansas. 

“Deviantcouple." A sub. A woman barely alive. We can rebuild her. We have the technology to allow one to actually adapt outside of Arkansas. We can make her better than she was before. Better...Subbier...Sexier.



WyldHrt -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 1:28:21 PM)

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Mama always told me:  You catch more subs with self-control and charisma than you do with whines and bile.

*smooch* Add me to your mama's fan club [:D]
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this post will be deleted.

Ummm... if you mean this thread will be deleted, that's not up to you. That said, your reaction was way out of proportion to the criticism you received (most of which was constructive and aimed at helping you improve your odds). Nice change to your profile as well. As a female sub, I would not get involved with someone who had so little self control.



ELUSIVE1 -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 2:17:20 PM)

wow--the anger rings through on your 'changed' profile. I can see why you aren't having any luck.



LadyPact -> RE: Why so hard to find bisexual submissive/switch women in our area? HELP!!! (3/1/2009 2:25:47 PM)

Do yourself a huge favor.  Scrap the profile and the screen name.  At this point, you have left such a bad impression that most people won't forget it.  You've done the net equivalent to making a fool out of yourself in public.  



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