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A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:08:40 AM   
truesub4u


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You know, there are alot of threads, post, on here about people bitching and complaining about not getting no responses from e-mails they send out.

I'm going to pop off a twist here. I'm going to bitch about the e-mails that do get returned. My profile states I am under consideration. Ok, to a point it does. Master knows I talk to others on here. Locally and long distant. He doesn't ask what we talk about, and I don't tell him about all of them. This doesn't mean I'm hiding anything from him. It just means there's trust. And he knows I have friends. Male and female alike. But that's not the topic I'm discussing. The discussion is the ones that do respond to e-mails. Or when e-mailed and something stated in an e-mail strikes them good and they reply back. And conversation moves on from there.

I had told another on a different post, that he should be thankful that some do not respond to an e-mails. Because they're either not interrested really, and just bored. And an e-mail shows up just in time to break the boredom. Married, or not. Gay or not. Dom, or sub/slave. No matter ones status in the life or vanilla. (Sorry KoM vanilla needed mentioning here)

Ok, you e-mail someone. They respond. You hit it off. Things are going great. Conversations are intelligent, witty, humorous, flirtatious. And then serious. You find yourself looking forward to the next conversation. You look forward to seeing them on line. Or when the phone rings you hope it's them. And if it's gone this far as to hope the knocking on the door is them. Ok, back to the e-mails though. After a few days, weeks of communication. You find yourself willing to go a step further and work out a meeting. But you keep this to yourself, not wanting to seem pushy. You wait for the other to bring it up. (Specially if you are a sub/slave talking to a Dom.)

It's all coming together. Butterflies in the stomach, excitement running high. Then POOF!... notta.. nothing.... You left standing there wondering what the hell just happened. Or even more so you get a message stating..."I have to go... and say good bye... But I like You." WTF is this?

Or the ones that spend weeks, months, pulling you in. Talking after awhile of real time. How your life will be together in real time. Only to finally ask the question... when. ... to find out.. there's not going to be any real time.

So many bitch about NOT getting replies to e-mails. Some should be damn thankful. Doms and subs alike that not into games, fakes. Real (Sorry KoM another needed word here). Actually do respond to an e-mail to only be played a fooled. A sucker. Time wasted, that could of been spent on another.

Yes I know there's been other threads on this. But they're most on why people DON"T reply to e-mails. Well, here's a few nice example of why.

Again, be damn glad that some do not respond to your e-mails. And be thankful to the few that do... and hope like hell you're not getting fucked with by the ones that do respond after all.

Ok, I'm done ranting.... thank goodness my search is over. And I don't have to worry about this shit no more. I just feel sorry for those still going through this. No matter if you're a Dom, sub, slave. Sometimes you just want to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:23:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Ok, I'm done ranting.... thank goodness my search is over. And I don't have to worry about this shit no more. I just feel sorry for those still going through this. No matter if you're a Dom, sub, slave. Sometimes you just want to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I gotta say, this is why when I was single I had a rule that we had to meet for coffee within a month, preferrably earlier. I simply didn't and still don't have time for cyber courtships and long emails.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:25:34 AM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs



I gotta say, this is why when I was single I had a rule that we had to meet for coffee within a month, preferrably earlier. I simply didn't and still don't have time for cyber courtships and long emails.

C~

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:25:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		wow...I agree...

it's hard to -finally- trust someone enough to open up to them...and let them get to know you, and -hopefully- you them, and to find out later, it was always just a game...well...I'd rather know up front, personally.

Thanks for the post!

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:30:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

After a few days, weeks of communication. You find yourself willing to go a step further and work out a meeting. But you keep this to yourself, not wanting to seem pushy. You wait for the other to bring it up. (Specially if you are a sub/slave talking to a Dom.)




Gosh, guess I am one of those pushy submissives. When I was ready to meet, I simply said "I want to meet you." *w*


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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:34:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nicely put truesub4u

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:38:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists


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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

After a few days, weeks of communication. You find yourself willing to go a step further and work out a meeting. But you keep this to yourself, not wanting to seem pushy. You wait for the other to bring it up. (Specially if you are a sub/slave talking to a Dom.)




Gosh, guess I am one of those pushy submissives. When I was ready to meet, I simply said "I want to meet you." *w*



LOL ok kyra... I know you and your sister and Lord are the exceptions to most rules.. I guess I should of worded it differently. but yes, I have to say if I really want to meet someone, I'll state the same as well. I'm not known for following the rules and protocols of life. BDSM or others.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 10:44:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Here's a cautionary tale; one i am almost embarrassed to say. He called frequently and emailed often but even after a YEAR we had not met (i was speaking to others; not really dim) and when i pushed for a real life meeting He went *poof*.

i felt like an idiot; and swore "never again".

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 12:15:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had someone do that he was in LA but he was going to fly me out treat me right give me a time of my life, but soon when he told me to call even tho I was told to he wouldn't answer his phone or return any of my messages and he kept me strung along for a long time and I'd had a lot of hopes for this cause I crave bdsm relationships and deeper meaning and finally he just disapered all together.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 3:14:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		meh, I just figure they either, got cold feet, are too afriad for anything, cant do it, or found someone else nearby. Long distance is too hard a relationship to keep up. Those who can are the exception, and honestly, I give these people a hats off. Not many can do it sucessfully, vanilla, bdsm or otherwise.

Granted, I tend to be able to separate myself from people rather quickly, once I realize whatever, isn't going to happen, or isn't happening. I guess because I was on the recieving end of being outcast for so long, such a transition from hoping for something to whatever, is easy for me.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 5:24:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Slipstreme

meh, I just figure they either, got cold feet, are too afriad for anything, cant do it, or found someone else nearby. Long distance is too hard a relationship to keep up. Those who can are the exception, and honestly, I give these people a hats off. Not many can do it sucessfully, vanilla, bdsm or otherwise.

Granted, I tend to be able to separate myself from people rather quickly, once I realize whatever, isn't going to happen, or isn't happening. I guess because I was on the recieving end of being outcast for so long, such a transition from hoping for something to whatever, is easy for me.


Be glad that you can. Not all can. And depending on ones situation, one can't. It differs to each induvidual. Not only that... how can you tell it's going to happen or not.. till it actually happens.. each and everytime. I know I can tell someone is trying to mind fuck me... SOMETIMES. But each and everytime. (Thank you Master... lol)

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 6:06:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		i see the scenario you set, of emails, calls then poof, as still being basically, not replying. But i get what you mean.

If you want cyber, go cyber. If you want to live this lifestyle, meet within a month for coffee sounds fab. Id go with that, if i were looking.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 6:39:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

FUCKING WITH SOMEONES EMOTIONS


Ok, I'm done ranting.... Sometimes you just want to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Great rant! It can happen to us all. Funny thing is, when you try to put some kind of "time limit", telephone numbers (HOME!), or meet for coffee, you can come on being too pushy, but then better to find that out early than months or even years down the road playing the "waiting game."


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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/21/2006 6:44:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		WTF? On another thread, some nine women were taken in (whatever that means) by one guy at the same time on this site who did the calling duty the honey it's all about you..........yadda yadda yadda thing if the witches are about being believed and they are all known to each other as friends.......

So these foolproof methods of protecting your virginity seem to be some lacking in truth, Ja?

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 9:52:54 AM   
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Never expect people online to share any values or manners that you do.

Be happily surprised when they do.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 11:08:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

WTF? On another thread, some nine women were taken in (whatever that means) by one guy at the same time on this site who did the calling duty the honey it's all about you..........yadda yadda yadda thing if the witches are about being believed and they are all known to each other as friends.......

So these foolproof methods of protecting your virginity seem to be some lacking in truth, Ja?

LoL,
Ron




LOL....... i really wish i could get this response translated.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 11:25:35 AM   
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Guess it's time to repeat this.

Never expect people online to share any values or manners that you do.

Be happily surprised when they do.


LA, for most part I agree here. but I got to ask... just what are we to expect then?

When you contact someone, you expect (when the respond back) to be themselves. Be honest. Just as when you respond back to them, they expect you to be yourself, to be honest. Bump that open shit, that comes later.

And I wasn't refering to someone you just started talking to a day or two ago. I was refering to ones you spend weeks talking with. Or even a few months because of the distance.

I've always tried to stay clear in the past of long distant relationships. So that a possible sooner than later coffee meeting could take place. Just so happens, taking a chance and being open minded to a more distant relationship paid off for me. It took longer for the meet, than it would of if locally.... but it was worth the wait.

I was refering to.... in my OP. Wasn't the non replying ..... it was the bullshit replyers. My girlfriend is sitting at home still in a total rage over the bullshit games. Now this was no long distant thing,,,,, this was purely local. She would of been better off if he had not replied. Let me stand corrected.... he didn't reply... he contacted her first. So this was his game from the get go. I'll give her another day or two before I tell her to step back and laugh about it and be thankful she found out now..... and not later. Shame it was waste of a good 2 months.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 1:15:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		up until the r/l meet, anything online is just flirtation, take it at that. Of course you may start dreaming and hoping, but in the final analysis, it is just what I said: flirtation. Rather than lament the "lost time" think of it as time spent having fun while waiting for something/someone better to come along.
There is no way to know who or what is on the other end of an online connection, it could be your true master....or it could be his 14-year-old who knows the old man's password (no kids live here btw)
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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 3:49:23 PM   
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For most part I would agree with you, had that of stayed on line and not taken off line to the phone.

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RE: A Twist On E-mails.. - 1/22/2006 3:58:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, to be truthful I do not expect any more from any online dating service, vanilla or otherwise. There is a reason why they are there, and you have already discovered one of them. That is why I do not come on here to hook up with people. I come here to chat. If I want to find someone, I look in real time. It is a lot harder to play games face to face (although it still happens admittedly).

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