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ThoughtfulSwitch -> RE: dom and slave (3/6/2009 2:55:20 AM)
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It is difficult to describe how it feels to be a switch... Do you like cooked or grilled flesh? Do you like vegetables and a good salad? Grilled beef and cold salad are completely different, but you can like both. And moreover the combination fits great for a hamburger.
What I try to say is that you can like both, because both sides have their own attraction. Moreover you don't need both sides permanent, you can eat a meatball OR a salad and either meal makes you saturated.
Now let's see how this affects D/s-lifestyle:
To live out both ways with the same person is quite difficult. Well, I've forsaken my D/s-life for a vanilla relationship, but that doesn't mean that we have never played... [:D]
If both partners are able to switch or to tolerate this, it is indeed possible to live out both ways. It's a more laxly life than strict D/s, but an additional reason can be that our relationship is vanilla-based. This sounds very EPE and game-playing-like, but a switch can really grow into his (time-limited) role more and more, it's no switching during a session or something like this. Anyway, a visual sign of the current role helps.
Another option would be to separate these roles on different people. I've once been able to try this and I guess that it would work longtime as well.
This way keeps the desires satisfied and the roles kept strict.
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