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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 1/24/2006 9:10:27 AM

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oopsie edited, saw you said not every relationship......and Gor is so different than BDSM...in terms of well alot,lol.

this one doesnt wish a screwdriver to pry her foot out of her mouth,lol

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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

Collaredheart, it sounds like you are in a good situation and I wouldn't disagree with your happy trial period. However, there are two different things being discussed on the thread. One, we all agree is good. If a sub puts "under consideration" on her profile, it means she doesn’t want mail or whatever. The other discussion is that Doms often use the carrot of putting a sub “under consideration” for some no strings play while keeping her from possibly developing other relationships. These arrangemenst can end with nothing for the sub. Not every relationship, but some and that is all I’m pointing out. Again, though, if it makes a Dom and sub feel as if they are doing something according to the mystical book, more power to them.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 1/24/2006 12:15:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
It's most often just another romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.

Yeah, and of course THAT should be opposed at all costs!!!

The "Under Consideration" sign just means someone wants to be left alone for a time - they are involved with something and do not require nor seek any interference from YOU, the reader. How hard can that be to understand? Have none of you ever been to a hotel and then put out the "Do Not Disturb" sign? Would you then have been eager to be disturbed every few minutes while trying to sleep or play? I think not...

Courtship is often accompanied by signals that allow others to know your level of availability - some signs mean "green light" while other signs mean "red light." The "Under Consideration" sign is a red light signal meaning stop, do not contact me, I am not available right now. It is a courtesy notification.

There's a clue for y'all...the fact that this issue comes up as routinely as it does just tells me that some of you have no clue, in fact, as to how to behave in polite society.

Personally, I am very respectful of any such "red light" comments in someone's profile even should I be feverishly seeking someone. Why waste time with someone that doesn't want to be contacted? It seems a simple enough concept to me - why not to some of you others?

Hit em high. Hit em low. Hit em in the balls if they dont know!

Man, I dont always agree with everything you say, but, I agree with much of it and even if I don't I respect your views. Good on yer mate. Keel them thar chains rattling and a length of Gorean steel swinging....

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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

How do you know it is "no strings"?
Why should you care if the sub ends up with nothing?
Why don't you care if it is the Dom that is being led to nothing?

Do you know how to mind your own business?

Life is full of risks. Enjoy your life. Leave others alone to enjoy their own lives.

Amen to that.... Pitty a few over here in Aussie don't follow that too.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 1/24/2006 12:23:40 PM

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Man..what'd i miss?

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 1/24/2006 12:32:35 PM

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I have the utmost respect for Goreans. Masters and slaves.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 1/24/2006 12:44:37 PM

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aye, a girl can not deny that....

she has seen for herself

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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

I have the utmost respect for Goreans. Masters and slaves.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 2/1/2006 3:57:00 PM

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I've always thought it funny when a female sub has "under consideration" on their profile.

Mainly, because male Doms outnumber female subs 3 to 1 in the scene. With a lot of male Doms to choose from it's actually the Dom that is under consideration.

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it funny when a female sub has "under consideration" on their profile.

Heh Heh!

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 2/1/2006 6:57:27 PM

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I could care less what they put in their profiles. They could announce to the world that they are celibate for all I care. If I like their profile I drop them a friendly note to say hi, how are you doing, I really liked your profile, you are very intelligent and pretty, I hope the one that is considering you makes the right choice, etc.

It is entirely up to them what protocol they choose to use. As far as I am concerned I consider "under consideration" as "we go to the movies", or at the very most a promise ring, which really means nothing. But that is not what is important. It makes them happy and that is all that matters.

Why the heck should we care? We put up with your bitching about it. You can put up with their protocol. Fair is fair, after all.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 2/2/2006 4:53:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It's most often just another romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.

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romantic trapping/ritual to make the sub and dom feel fuzzy about what they are doing.

That is probably not bad if they are new to the lifestyle.

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RE: "Under Consideration" ??? - 2/2/2006 5:07:51 AM

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Personaly I tend to read it the same as someone who has made it known that they already have a master, with one exception..... namely that if it is someone who has caught my eye I will check back to see if things worked out or if they are back to looking.

Neither side has fully committed yet but they are looking to see if the potential to do so is there.

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