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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/22/2006 10:04:27 PM

IronBear

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Padriag me old China, you just earned youself a slab of Fosters. Excelent post. I guess the only thing I can say is that I treat emails the same as snail mail which i do write to some people. Each one has a point and purpose even if it just t'say Hi or I love you or just to tell some one to poiss off. No more, no less.

BTW If I forgot earlier, Best of the New Year and hope the Holiday season went well for you.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/22/2006 11:40:49 PM

greeneyes1962

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i'm guilty of not really filling out my profile. when i joined, i wasn't looking for a dominant.
it was just another site for me to hang out and learn about the lifestyle. i had just started
the profile so i could participate.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/23/2006 2:45:16 AM

Oberonrex

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Well said! Brava! Bravo!

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/23/2006 3:54:03 AM

cloudboy

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

***************** Email ***********************
quote:

The upside of email:

1. Instead of relying on another's profile, you can engage in protected back and forth.
2. Seeing one's inbox is a small happiness.
3. The written word without a face fires one's imagination.
4. One can be more candid and revealing while anynomous.
5. Its a great way to build a foundation.
6. It trains one to order his thoughts and think something through.
7. Its an efficient way of passing facts back and forth.
8. Its, for the most part, harmless.
9. You can think about messages and your responses to them all day.
10. Like posts, you can construct and send them anytime, like when you cannot sleep.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/23/2006 2:41:16 PM

MistressSassy66

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The only time I am snotty about getting an email is when a person is looking for something I'm clearly not giving.Sometimes they get a rude answer, sometimes its pleasant but 'NO' and other times no reply is needed just hit that block button.

I also know people who have joined just to read the posts so that they may learn,without getting picked on as "newbies" often do.

Of course its possible to fall in love online...the question is can you stay that way in Real Life?Some do.Some dont.I know of both.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/23/2006 3:17:37 PM

candystripper

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i get email that says "lovely woman, lovely profile, too bad you are [fill in the blank]." i never kniw what to say; i assume i'm getting complimented and say "TY".

i just adore Padriag's posts and would like to see other Doms and Masters take His advice. i so rarely see a well-written profile. "Looking for slave" is like no information.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/23/2006 11:07:56 PM

EvilGeoff

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*chuckles*

Well then... someone check out my profile fer crying out loud, and tell me whether it's worth a damn!

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/24/2006 9:59:49 AM

MistressSassy66

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Okay I read it.Very nice from My point of view.Clear and to the point.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/24/2006 12:24:41 PM

CelticPrince

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Padriag,

awell thought out with on point considerations.

Well done lad!

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/24/2006 6:48:11 PM

LadiesBladewing

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quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn

Well, since you are, in my opinion, easily one of the two or three best writers here ... I can hammer one of your points without mercy and not look too foolish.

Your statement above only makes sense if taken from the point of view that everyone making a profile on COLLARME, is looking to hook-up ... which probably isn't true. I know at least one person that is here for no other reason past liking it here. Amazingly, this person has as much right to be here, for whatever reason they are here, as anyone else here ... and probably doesn't have to answer the question of "why" to anyone.

Perhaps they do not -have- to answer the question, but still, I must agree with Padriag that failing to put together a profile (even if all one is seeking is perhaps some friends, or even just an opportunity to speak on some subjects that interest them) does any individual interacting here that makes that choice a dis-service. The profile's content and potential are mutable, but having a well-considered profile gives an opportunity to let people know what is important to you, and therefore has value, whether or not it is being used as a "dating" tool.

Just my few cents,
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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/24/2006 6:54:33 PM

LadiesBladewing

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ORIGINAL: seaturtle50

i for one would never wish a lustless love on anyone.

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I would... The love "agape", which is that love which does not depend on lust, and is as unconditional as is humanly possible... I would wish this on anyone -- a treasure beyond price that few appreciate. A love that will not fade when lust fades, and will not diminish when shape changes or years pass, and a love that values the dreams of one's lover as deeply as those dreams one holds for oneself.

Oh, yes... I would wish this on all of my dearest friends, and on all of my enemies, for their lives and perspectives could only be benefitted by having such a love in their lives.

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/24/2006 9:18:57 PM

EvilGeoff

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

Okay I read it.Very nice from My point of view.Clear and to the point.

Thank you Sassy! Appreciate the feedback. *chuckles*

YIK,
- Geoff

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/25/2006 8:11:14 AM

truesub4u

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Couple of great responses here.

Padriag, nicely written.

Another rant, no different than mine, or others that have ranted about the e-mails and etc..

Nothing will change, they'll always be these "Problems" so to speak. As soon as one turns on the interent, there's going to be someone complaining about things on here. Most things happen because we set ourselves up for them.

A profile will cause ridicule from some, laughter from others. A Profile will cause one to like you and try to presue you. It will also make other stay clear from you.

People come on here for their own reason. No one knows everyones reasons for this. Not untill communications start. Some get pist because they're contacted. (Shakes head) Some get pist because no one contacts them. Ok, it happens.. it's going to happen. And life goes on.

I posted a thread on actually being contacted by players. Ok, it came and it went. My girlfriend learned a hard lesson. But too, her life will go on. Yes it was a rant, that's all it was. Others rant bout things, it's just nice to know it's ok to be human.

We throw out the words ignore, block, delete. On the interent, this works great. But life isn't Office Max commercial where you can hit the "EASY" button and make it perfect.

But out of all this post..... what tickles me the most... is the Holler than thou attitude. (Not on you personally Padraig)

Sense we're suppose to all be adults here... Let's talk like adult. We have all types on here. Old, young, middle. Rich, middle class, poor. Red, yellow, black or white. Educated, slightly educated, and poor schooling. Northern, Southern, Eastern, Western. Ok, now that all this was covered... Not everyone is going to like a way one talks, not everyones going to like a way a profile is written or not written. It tickles me that others think that everyones profile should be written a certain way. Not everyones going to agree with everyone.

I don't make people happy on here. My life goes on. Others piss me off, their lives go on as well. We all choose to post. And voice our opinions on the subject at hand. Some agree, others do not. But when a PC gets turned off, life goes on. Some make us think, cry,scream,swoon. That's what makes this the place it is. So all because you don't like, and because you don't want..... (now i state this after reading past alot of other threads... including my own ... so i state this about me as well)........ Get a grip and be happy with what you can control. And be happier than you can rant over things you can't control or understand completely. Just also know when making said post... you're going to get it from all sides. Good , bad, indifferent, you posted..... they're going to respond to it. And after it's all said and done..... life is going to go on for all.

Again Padriag... nicely written. But a rant is just a rant.... no matter how well written it is or is not written... LOL

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RE: Email, Relationships, Profiles and other nonsense - 1/25/2006 9:10:32 AM

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