HeavansKeeper
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ORIGINAL: sodsta I actually honestly don't like it. Titles in general I find a little too forced. Mistress, Goddess, Ma'am, Madam, My Lady, etc... they're all just words to me. Unless I am engaging with a Domme in a scene (or some other intimate set-up) and she specifically tells me to refer to her as "Title A", then I'm happy just using her name. I actually find using a given name more intimate, because "Mistress" almost allows you to disconnect from a person... "Mistress" could be anyone, but "Rebecca" is always going to be Rebecca. That disconnect can accentuate the power exchange (agreed, sometimes at the cost of intimacy). If I want to humiliate a submissive, I will detach them from me. When I become "sir" (as opposed to Master, James..) I could be anyone, and that's the point. She is an object who anyone can use. It's a very submissive feeling. I find calling someone by their first name at best seeing them as an equal, at worst demeaning. In my house, play is done to accentuate the power exchange, meaning its not for the fun of the act - we're not equals before, during, or after. One is up, one is down.
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