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How do you feel?

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ORIGINAL: dominika

Hello all. I have a few questions as a domme for submissive peoples, especially submissive men.

I finally met a submissive who really seems to be about service to me and willing to completely submit to me. No dumb sub games, selfishness or topping from the bottom. He just laid it all at my feet for the walking. This isn't a small thing, very powerful position to be in. I know it's going to take lots of time and trust building to get where I think I want to be in a D/s relationship, but this boy claims he wants "real" enslavement. No not total debasement and abuse, but wants to learn to be an extension of my will, a true servant, relocate and live and work for ME.

I want to know what is tpe "real" enslavement.

Sounds like what he may want is for you to take complete control over every facet of his life. Total control over what he eats, friends, serves you practically hand and foot every day. You make all the major and minor decisions that he's normally make for himself from from how he dresses to is he's allowed to orgasm at his whim or yours. In a sense you will be micromanaging his entire life from the time he wakes up in the morning til he's allowed to go to sleep at night. Now this is one extreme and each M/s relationship is built according to the parameters which the people involved have negotiated.

There seems to be no limits there or the limits should be built by the dominant, right?
Maybe. Everyone has limits of some sort. It's a matter of a person having an idea where theirs are and determining which are agreeable to change and which are not to change.

I know it depends on an individual situation, but in general, how do you know how fast to go?
I don't think there is a general guideline to follow when determining how fast or slow to go. That is solely dependent on the people in question according to what they want and need

If I had my way (which I think is the way he wants it to be) he would be put in chastity right now, locked him in deep, but this could be going to fast because I haven't met him yet, but he claims he wants to be taken. I'm no crazy or criminal, but I want him to feel like he is going to fast, I want the fear. I don't want put around trying to earn his submission, something I think should be innate in a servant.

How do you feel?
How I feel about the manner which you want to proceed is not important. You have to determine if you want this relationship to continue and how you want the relationship to be built.

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ORIGINAL: velvetears

If you have to ask these questions on a message board you aren't ready for that level of ownership yet 

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ORIGINAL: dominika

Hello all. I have a few questions as a domme for submissive peoples, especially submissive men.

I finally met a submissive who really seems to be about service to me and willing to completely submit to me. No dumb sub games, selfishness or topping from the bottom. He just laid it all at my feet for the walking. This isn't a small thing, very powerful position to be in. I know it's going to take lots of time and trust building to get where I think I want to be in a D/s relationship, but this boy claims he wants "real" enslavement. No not total debasement and abuse, but wants to learn to be an extension of my will, a true servant, relocate and live and work for ME.

I want to know what is tpe "real" enslavement.

There seems to be no limits there or the limits should be built by the dominant, right? I know it depends on an individual situation, but in general, how do you know how fast to go? If I had my way (which I think is the way he wants it to be) he would be put in chastity right now, locked him in deep, but this could be going to fast because I haven't met him yet, but he claims he wants to be taken. I'm no crazy or criminal, but I want him to feel like he is going to fast, I want the fear. I don't want put around trying to earn his submission, something I think should be innate in a servant.

How do you feel?