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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:08:21 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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Status: offline 		Ah...but he DID do all the research...clearly it is you who needs to do your research...





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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:10:06 PM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		The funny thing is that men get shot down all the time in bars and clubs.  Are the negative/positive response ratios any worse here?

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:15:12 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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Status: offline 		I think it has more to do with expectation.  When you are at a bar, what might you have in common other than location?  Maybe you happen to both live nearby or like similar drinks/beers but its all so random as to be meaningless.  On a site like this, there is far more chance for fellow compatibility even with all the different kink variations.  SO I could see the 'sting' being more pronounced.  I get return reply emails like that, you know, the "but...but...we BOTH like foot worship!!"...yeah, you and most on this site   

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:16:20 PM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		In contrast to finding someone who would be perfect but lives in another city, state, country or continent.  lol

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:17:31 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl

Hi everyone. I am new to the site and the lifestyle. I have done My research and am ready to take My first step.

How entirely big of you.

However, I am really disappointed with this site so far. I joined (exactly 2 days ago), searched through all the profiles (truly amazing....all multiple thousands of them), and emailed three women (Hmmmm.....%....I'm thinking 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000175634298%?). One women (woman) responded by asking Me if my email was cut and paste. I spent a half hour responding to that with a lengthy, thought out ("thoughtful") email. she (caps {"She"} are typically called for at the beginning of a sentence) then replied by telling Me that My email was deleted unread and so will (be) all future emails. she (see above re: previous) never even viewed My profile.  (About this time, paragraphs would be mandated) Another women responded by telling Me obviously I hadn't read her profile. My email to her was in direct correlation to her entire profile because the entire thing was ("of") her complaining about how no one was reading her profile and she was sick and disgusted of everyone who emails her. She has been complaining for almost three years now. (And forgive me but...you've been on this site since Monday last, 03/23/09...how exactly have you deduced that she's been "running on" for all these years now?).
So why are these women on here?  (My personal opinion....{anyone can jump in now and correct me if I'm off base here} is....just to piss you off). Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?  (I do indeed....but most have to do with antigravity machines....so I suspect they may not be pertinent to this discussion).
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. (That's exactly right...every chic on this site is just entirely fucked up...can't find their ass with 3 hands....and thank GAWD you've been able to put it all together!)  How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?

Fuck if I know...but I'm overwhelmingly glad you were able to put all this shit together in such a succinct manner....I've been confused about all these chics for years.

Thanks for putting it all in perspective for me.



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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:21:29 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

In contrast to finding someone who would be perfect but lives in another city, state, country or continent.  lol


That is why I 'imported' my boy from the Sunflower State; never let the great ones go!


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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 7:51:26 PM   
slaveboyforyou


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I almost never get negative responses to my emails.  I rarely write anyone.  But, I've almost always received pleasant responses to my queries.  Of course I am picky, and I'm not a prick.  My best relationships started off as friendships, and my worst ones started off completely sexual.  So my advice is to treat others like actual people, not conquests. 

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:04:32 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		I will admit to not having read all the responses in this thread, mainly due to a primary lack of interest.  Just about everyone spends a lot of time making contacts and potential partners around here.  It isn't just you.  It is a hard medium and I became very frustrated several months ago when it seemed like all this was really going nowhere.  A female with an completely empty inbox???  Can you imagine?

Unbeknowns to me, there were two people out there waiting oh so patiently, but, like me, were about ready to give up.  Did I know this at the time?  No.  I would learn of this for some time after we connected.  One had planned to close his profile the very next morning, which is when my message reached his inbox.  We nearly missed each other in our frustration.  These two wonderful partners are what has made it all worthwhile and why I continue to meet and learn and connect.

I will also say that the one thing all three of us had in common was that our profiles did not reflect the frustration and disgust we were experiencing.  There was some mild mentions in journal entries, but nothing resembling a rant.  We kept the portrayal of ourselves positive and open to the possibilities that were out there.

This is just my real and personal experience.  Take it as you will.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:04:51 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl

Hi everyone. I am new to the site and the lifestyle. I have done My research and am ready to take My first step. However, I am really disappointed with this site so far. I joined, searched through all the profiles, and emailed three women. One women responded by asking Me if my email was cut and paste. I spent a half hour responding to that with a lengthy, thought out email. she then replied by telling Me that My email was deleted unread and so will all future emails. she never even viewed My profile.  Another women responded by telling Me obviously I hadn't read her profile. My email to her was in direct correlation to her entire profile because the entire thing was her complaining about how no one was reading her profile and she was sick and disgusted of everyone who emails her. She has been complaining for almost three years now.
So why are these women on here? Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?



I have only read your post thus far, so forgive me if this has already been answered, but, I'm I understanding that you contacted "THREE" whole women and now you are judging "all" by these three?  Not to mention you are whipping out your degree and labeling them as to how they have been treated by partners in the past as well?

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:07:15 PM   
twoisnotenough


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Status: offline 		Lookie, were you a school teacher in a previous life?  You know if you wanted to, I who is atroshus at spelln and grammar
would be more than willing to allow your violent red pen to bleed all over my profile. Actually i dont suck at grammar but my spelling really is semi atrocious. At least I can kick mucho ass in calculous.
Oh, and no that was not a shameless attempt to get myself publicly ridiculed for jacking a thread.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:11:11 PM   
Juliannadelion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl

Hi everyone. I am new to the site and the lifestyle. I have done My research and am ready to take My first step. However, I am really disappointed with this site so far. I joined, searched through all the profiles, and emailed three women. One women responded by asking Me if my email was cut and paste. I spent a half hour responding to that with a lengthy, thought out email. she then replied by telling Me that My email was deleted unread and so will all future emails. she never even viewed My profile.  Another women responded by telling Me obviously I hadn't read her profile. My email to her was in direct correlation to her entire profile because the entire thing was her complaining about how no one was reading her profile and she was sick and disgusted of everyone who emails her. She has been complaining for almost three years now.
So why are these women on here? Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?



It's always hard when you start out.  And discouraging, especially if you are a man.  But - I met my Master here on collarme (under a different profile) over a year ago, and we are about to celebrate six months of living together.  So, it does happen.  There are couples here - who met here.  It just takes some time and patience.  I do wish you the very best of luck.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:13:11 PM   
Juliannadelion


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Status: offline 		awww, the myspace has been set to private Sylv!

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:20:08 PM   
DrkJourney


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Juliannadelion

awww, the myspace has been set to private Sylv!


Not Sylv...we just share a set of fangs....lol

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:20:27 PM   
sirsholly


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From: Quietville
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

quote:

ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl

Hi everyone. I am new to the site and the lifestyle. I have done My research and am ready to take My first step.

How entirely big of you.

However, I am really disappointed with this site so far. I joined (exactly 2 days ago), searched through all the profiles (truly amazing....all multiple thousands of them), and emailed three women (Hmmmm.....%....I'm thinking 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000175634298%?). One women (woman) responded by asking Me if my email was cut and paste. I spent a half hour responding to that with a lengthy, thought out ("thoughtful") email. she (caps {"She"} are typically called for at the beginning of a sentence) then replied by telling Me that My email was deleted unread and so will (be) all future emails. she (see above re: previous) never even viewed My profile.  (About this time, paragraphs would be mandated) Another women responded by telling Me obviously I hadn't read her profile. My email to her was in direct correlation to her entire profile because the entire thing was ("of") her complaining about how no one was reading her profile and she was sick and disgusted of everyone who emails her. She has been complaining for almost three years now. (And forgive me but...you've been on this site since Monday last, 03/23/09...how exactly have you deduced that she's been "running on" for all these years now?).
So why are these women on here?  (My personal opinion....{anyone can jump in now and correct me if I'm off base here} is....just to piss you off). Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?  (I do indeed....but most have to do with antigravity machines....so I suspect they may not be pertinent to this discussion).
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. (That's exactly right...every chic on this site is just entirely fucked up...can't find their ass with 3 hands....and thank GAWD you've been able to put it all together!)  How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?

Fuck if I know...but I'm overwhelmingly glad you were able to put all this shit together in such a succinct manner....I've been confused about all these chics for years.

Thanks for putting it all in perspective for me.




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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:27:57 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WantAPetgirl 
So why are these women on here? Obviously they have no intention of doing anything but telling people off for no reason. Anyone have any theories?
The only thing I can think of is that they have no interest in the lifestyle, but they had abusive or controlling relationships in the past and are seeking revenge on anyone they think is like their previous partners. How am I supposed to meet anyone on here when the only people who respond to me are bitter and unapproachable?



After 3 replies you come to this conclusion? Have you considered that 1) You are ahead of the game getting 3 responses back this quickly and 2) Maybe the problem was in what you wrote vs what they said?

You capitalize your own words, but lowercase any refering to the women. Not everyone finds this appropriate, and some even find it disrespectful. Dont expect everyone to appreciate being refered to that way just becasue it works for you. Also, what you say and how you say it counts. If you are demanding from the first message, you are likely going to lose points. Likewise if you do not put effort into your letters, punctuation and proper spelling and (gasp) capitalization. Just because a girl lists herself as submissive, that doesnt mean she is going to automatically be interested in you just because you list yourself as dominant. And coming to the forums to whine about your lack of responses is a bad start. Those girls you are trying to interest can read up on what you say as well... what sort of impression would this make? Sweeping judgements of anyone not taking an immediate interest in you?

DV

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:30:10 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Okay, my lust for slaveboyforyou continues unabated, though he fails mom's mean eyes test.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:30:59 PM   
untamedshysub


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Joined: 2/26/2005
Status: offline 		To the OP go back and check what you said to them. perhaps it was your approach.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 8:33:43 PM   
Juliannadelion


Posts: 869
Joined: 7/25/2008
From: circusofthedamned
Status: offline 		lmao, wow, my apologies - i am more tired than i thought.  can I just blame it on the boobs and keep going?

nice to meet you by the way.  im not usually this thick.

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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/25/2009 9:25:22 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		OP, a Dom must have a certain degree of maturity, and a Master more than that.  This means spending the time to sift through profiles that are not a match, and in spending time with your submissive to develop her to your liking.

You are on cm for two days and contact three women.  Then you whine about it in a post and in your journal.

Who would want you as a Dom?  You would be complaining all the time.  When she asks you what you want, you would tell her to go read up on it.


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RE: Question about the women on this site - 3/26/2009 3:07:30 AM   
VanessaChaland


Posts: 362
Joined: 11/23/2008
Status: offline 		Damn sarcastic Bitches!!!
(Oh wait, that would be me, lol.).. :)

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