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TorinFalta -> Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/25/2009 9:39:00 PM)

Being as sadistic as I am it is easy to think up punishments, playful and otherwise. But when it comes to rewarding proper behavior I have a highly difficult time. What I want to ask is what are some playful punishments and rewards that might seem suitable for most occasions? I'm looking for fresh and helpful ideas. I know not everything will be accurate or proper for my situation but I would still like to know.
What are punishments and rewards that you enjoy?



peppermint -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/26/2009 12:04:01 AM)

Punishment....real punishment..... is NOT fun nor is supposed to be fun.  However, awhile back someone combined the words fun and punishment to make funishement....which is pretend punishment that is really based on fun rather than punishment for some indescretion.  Perhaps that is what you are talking about. 

The worst punishment I get is not being able to read my books for a specified length of time.  Reading is almost an addiction so this punishment is just plain awful. 

For a reward he'll tell me I did a good job, or thank me. 



TorinFalta -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/26/2009 2:30:22 AM)

Even when dead serious I am usually in a playful state of mind. The not being able to read books is probably the worst punishment I would be able to enact. It is one that I have thought of doing before. Reading is an addiction here. Not allowing the purchase of the next book in a series was one that has been used before. A reward has been getting a book from a series. I would consider, in my mind at least, this to be a more playful punishment. Even though the punishment is serious.



DesFIP -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/26/2009 5:34:05 AM)

Punishing people for any and every possible mistake leads them to stop trying. Is this what you really want? Someone who won't talk to you for fear she will forget to end a sentence with the word master? Someone who won't try cooking a new dish for fear she won't get it absolutely perfect and will get punished?

Setting someone up for failure for your own amusement will destroy the relationship in the long run. If you want to do this, it has to be obviously for fun only, like hobbling her knees together and having her cook dinner like that. And even so, if she's insecure, you could still reduce her to tears.

Rewards? A smile, thank you, pat on the ass, etc. Sincere gratitude, and she will know if it is sincere or not.
Beyond that, doing a chore for her, seeing she's tired and saying you'll cook or take her out or order in. Bringing home flowers, or a chocolate bar because you know she's had a long day. Stuff that says he notices and he cares.



kuriouswitch -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/26/2009 12:25:27 PM)

it depends, one of the best "funishments" i get is when Master calls me smartass cause it shows that he knows i'm playing and it's being allowed, high protocol isn't being inforced at that moment. one of the worse though for me was one day he was especially pleased with me and allowed me to be on top of him and just take my pleasure from him, to touch, kiss, and cum as much as i wanted. I had no idea what to do, i kept waiting for permission and for him to start telling me what to do. i'm glad he doesn't do that one often lol.

some fun rewards are being allowed to sit in his lap, "free touch" where i'm allowed to kiss and caress him to my heart's content for the day. Being called pet or good girl. being allowed to stay up later than normal, and some that are "special" because i have special needs are being allowed to color or get a treat like a gummi bear ect. oh being able to go out with friends is always a good treat i don't get asked out often so he generally allows me to go even if it is last minute.



girlygurl -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/26/2009 3:01:18 PM)

Punishment and enjoy do not go together in my opinion.

As for rewards:
Orgasms
Gentle touching, cuddling ect
Toys
Going out to dinner
Going out to the movie theater
Going on vacation with Him
Day or weekend trips with Him
Jewelry

girly (spoiled)





AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/28/2009 6:27:21 PM)

We've found the best rewards to give are the things that the sub likes.

The sub should learn that if the sub does as told then a reward might be given, but only when and if the sub obeys.

Rewarding with fetishes is a good choice because then the sub learns that the dom will not cater to the sub's fetishes, but might reward the sub with those fetishes. There is a difference.

Learn what your sub likes and use those as rewards.

Hope this helps.




DesFIP -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (3/29/2009 1:22:24 PM)

I don't want a tit for tat relationship. I don't want to get something solely because I did something for him.
I do things for him because I love him, I would hope he has the same motivation.

Being promised one orgasm if I scrub the floor? Major turn off here.



heartbound -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (4/15/2009 10:44:40 PM)

I think one of the things you need to examine is your sub's psyche.  Punishments and rewards are different to every sub.  Personally, I don't do well with emotional types of punishment.  Some examples of this would be Mistress telling me she is disappointed, getting the silent treatment, humiliation, withdrawal of affection or Mistress being angry.

Personally I don't believe in "playful punishment".  If I am being punished I don't think it is anything that I should be looking forward to.  I need punishment to be only physical in nature and I need it differentiated from play.

As far as rewards, I am not a highly reward driven person in my relationship with Mistress.  The things I do for her are because I love her and not because I am going to get some reward.  However, allowing someone to orgasm is certainly a reward, and not allowing someone to orgasm could be a punishment [;)].

-heartbound



allthatjaz -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (4/16/2009 1:22:34 AM)

Hi Torin
It sounds like your in a fun relationship and I think thats great.
Of course you can have fun punishments if your both feeling playful! I find its great foreplay.
Sometimes my man will look at me seriously before pushing my arm up behind my back and forcing me over his knee for a spanking. I know that he's probably got a big grin on his face and in turn I am part laughing, crying, screaming and wriggling. That may be followed by him using me quite forcefully for sex and then telling me to remain naked and at his disposal for the rest of the day.
One of the ways he instigates this at the moment is by questioning me about yachting. I intend to take my 'yacht master' exam and I need to study and learn. If he used real punishment for me getting the answers wrong, then it would spoil my concentration but fun punishments makes it much more of a challenge.

When I get things right he rewards me by telling me how proud he is of me. He simply lifts my spirit and gives me very positive encouragement.



master4subbie -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (4/17/2009 4:22:04 PM)

My sub used to say that the worst punishment is if she is ignored for doing something wrong. As far as rewards it may be allowing her to cum, if she is under cum control, or watching a movie together instead of playing hard, or relief from her daily diary, or relief from household chores.



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (4/17/2009 7:02:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I don't want a tit for tat relationship. I don't want to get something solely because I did something for him.
I do things for him because I love him, I would hope he has the same motivation.

Being promised one orgasm if I scrub the floor? Major turn off here.


OP, what she said.

I don't have a punishment/reward dynamic with my slave. He is very obedient, so he doesn't need to be punished. And there's no way I could reward him enough for how good he is, so that won't work for us either.

   We're just good to each other. We treat each other well.

Now,  funishment is yummy, yes... That, we do.

    But that's a different subject.



ranja -> RE: Playful Punishments and Rewards (4/18/2009 4:34:57 AM)

The worst punishment for me is to be ignored...i absolutely hate being blocked or ignored. Sometimes this might happen by accident and might not be a punishment at all...like He is simply too busy or tired to spend any time with me...i might not always know the reason...but it is the most difficult thing for me to deal with...dangerous too because i might try to find comfort...
As for rewarding good behaviour...i need the opposite of ignorance...i need to be acknowledged...also about the little things...and not always and every little thing...but if i feel that i do more than gets noticed i know i get resentful...how extremely normal this all is...

And i like to cum or a good spanking anytime really those would be very nice rewards too mmm



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