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Aneirin -> What is it ? (3/30/2009 5:57:44 AM)
Hi, I am new to the subbing thing, but after a session, the next day, I am walking around with a definite lift of spirit, being nice to people, very friendly and ultra polite. It feels like I am in a daze, that I am there, but not quite there if you understand what I mean. This effect lasts, but gets less as the days pass by, maybe upto a week of feeling good and then back to normal life, but life with less anger or at least the anger of life and lives bothers me less. I feel my experiences are doing me good in some ways, but what is it, what is this effect, does anyone else get it ? I have been warned about the comedown from such activities, but so far, no ill effects that arnica does not sort out, mentally, it's more up than down, but I wonder if the down could be the normal life, a life I already know and am used to and can deal with and so doesn't bother me.

eyesopened -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:02:58 AM)
I could be wrong, but I think it's called "Happiness". I feel that way after a visit with my grandsons, receiving flowers, having a fabulous day at the fair, or a 'session' with my Master. I do believe others have felt happy also. Enjoy!

Bstardsbitch -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:10:57 AM)
I agree with eyesopened, it's happiness........and those wonderful endorphins. When everything is right in my world.........yup I feel the same. xx

cpK69 -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:21:45 AM)
When I first started being a sub, I referred to it as “energy filtering”. For me, it is caused by have a lot of pent up energy and frustration, being in a session allows me to let it all go for a while. By the time the session is over I am able to forgo the less important things, so that what is left is much lighter. Kim

subangi -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:25:05 AM)
I love that feeling!!!! It reminds me of Tigger from Winnie the Pooh, bouncing and flouncing all over the place! I have also experienced almost a form of depression the day after an intense session. I guess that is from using all your endorphins and your body hasnt replenished them yet....much like the person who does drugs and uses up those endorphins and comes down, only to try again to get that original "high".

Mercnbeth -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 7:39:44 AM)
not everyone experiences sub-drop. this slave has never been able to relate to it when folks talk about it happening to them and warn others about it. sort of like when folks go on about how they "feel" submissive during certain activities or how terrible the sub-frenzy is that makes them lose all rational mental faculties---this slave can't relate to that, either. some folks get the opposite of "drop"---an "up" feeling, instead. this slave, for one, enjoys it very much!!!

littleone35 -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 7:57:21 AM)
Well right after a session with my Master a friend called me and when i answered she said you sounds so happy (she does not know about Master) so i told her i just feel really good right now. So i guess it shows through. Matt's littleone

chamberqueen -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 11:05:08 AM)
It's a pretty wonderful feeling, isn't it? For me, I consider it part of my sense of fulfillment. It is proof that I am getting what I need out of the relationship even though my life is centered around pleasing another.

aravain -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 2:07:24 PM)
~FR~ That's how I feel after it, too :) Wonderful, isn't it? I don't know what it is... but it's sort of like an extra haze on the world while I move around with the 'pleasant filters.' I liken it to when you're "falling in love" and how that feels, on a much smaller, and shorter scale.

CatdeMedici -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 4:11:30 PM)
maybe relied that the bondage, hanging, water tank shibari trick really did work as planned?[8\|]

lovingpet -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 5:13:57 PM)
I would well imagine it is the endorphines hanging around for quite some time after the fact. I tend to have a lot of longer term benefits from play that are more or less just bonus features. I have significant pain reduction for about a week or two, except wherever those lovely marks are and, of course, that is welcomed and brings on even more warm fuzzies. I am calm, sweet, cuddly, and positive. I am these things as much as possible any day, but it is just at a different level after play. This means you've got a good Dominant for one thing. It also means you getting fulfillment from the relationship. I do have a downside to play because I am usually on my own after play, taken care of prior, but back to my every day which is miles away (literally). Play is such a togetherness and emotion and attention for both. It is an intense aloneness that gets me often after. I also pay with severe fatigue for a few days due to my health which can cause some issue as well. All in all, it is a good thing for me and I enjoy my relationships and the experiences within them very much. I am glad your exploration of your submissive side is going so well! lovingpet

pinkwind -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 5:19:27 PM)
Sounds like happiness tinged with an slowly decreasing endorphins/adrenalin high post session. Enjoy the slide back to normality, and don't look for what some of us get rarely, if at all, the ubiquitous sub drop. Yes, it can happen, most often when folk don't have the "luxury" of cooling down over the days it can take for hormonal rushes to decline naturally. The more you looks after yourself and understand those natural highs and lows the more you can enjoy the former, and avoid the latter.

chicagoswitch -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 5:22:28 PM)
I find play to be very stress relieving, much more so than any other activity I have found. I am left calm and relaxed and feel this way for up to a week. This state puts me in a much better mood and leaves me able to handle life's other little problems with ease. Maybe this is part of what you are experiencing?

cpK69 -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:25:44 PM)
Adding: It is humility, and it feels 'normal'. Kim

kiwisub12 -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 6:33:23 PM)
hehe - when i was vanilla this was called the "fresh fucked look" - and isn't it wonderful? I think of it as being stress relieved. I usually sleep better after a session, and am all mellow and sleepy. Nice - very nice. [:D]

crazyredhead1957 -> RE: What is it ? (3/30/2009 8:49:14 PM)
i think it's called happiness and fulfillment. It's wonderful and kind of addicting. [:D]

puppypauer -> RE: What is it ? (4/9/2009 5:46:24 AM)
I am fairly new as well to the subbing thing and in the last 5 days I have not been happier. I am less quick to anger, to get mad, little things don't seem to bother me as much.

colouredin -> RE: What is it ? (4/9/2009 5:58:56 AM)
I like when you are doing routine things, you have that secret inner smile. It is a wonderful thing, like you know something the rest of the world doesnt and feel like a fool giggling about it.

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