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RE: is extreme bad? - 4/1/2009 2:41:54 PM

tazzygirl

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As to how "normal life" gets accomplished, I don't understand your question, this would mostly consist of "not normal" life, I should think, can you elaborate?

i mean like bills, my family (who does not live near by), a job things like that

thank you all for replying i am very grateful

i see nothing wrong with this desire. i do see pitfalls. if its gained over time, then im sure you can feel with some certainty that trust is established, that he does know what is best for you, and you both are willing to go into that kind of micro-managed state.

however, the pitfall would be someone who has abusive tendencies. there is a reason why almost everyone will say, never allow someone to cut off connections with your family/friends. thats because, initially, you dont know each other, trust isnt established. giving up everything in the beginning can cause just as much harm.

my advice....take your time, explore each other... suggest a time table of things you desire to be managed by the dominant. always, always err on the side of caution. the potential hazards, in my opinion, arent worth the twinge between your thighs. you can start off with small things.. such as when you get up, what you will wear, what chores and when dinner is to be ready. once those are established, then you can go into jobs, friends, finances. your family should be the last territory given over.

then again, im sure some will disagree with me.

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RE: is extreme bad? - 4/1/2009 3:22:43 PM

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My opinion, and it is an opinion, is (and I am a 24/7 style) that the situation works best with guidelines, and not specific, micromanaging orders barked for no good reason other than to bark them.

For example; dinner will be on the table by 6PM. It does not mean that dinner will be on the table exactly at 6pm....but that it will be served prior or at 6pm. It also does not state what dinner will be (assuming that the one making it knows preferences, etc).

Or, to use the example of doing the laundry. Making the rule that she will be responsible for the laundry, means that I don't have to decide what detergent to use (unless you have a specific allergy, etc), nor do I tell her what time of day, how long to dry it, etc.

Providing guidelines makes more sense from a few different perspectives.
1. It manages both my time, and my slave's time better (I don't have to be bothered to tell her to do something that she obviously knows how to do, and she doesn't have to waste her time asking me how i would like it done when it is the same EVERY time).
2. It prevents micromanagement. Micromanagement, no matter how slaveish you are, will annoy you. You know you are smart enough not to need to be told how to do the damn laundry, because you have done countless loads of it in your lifetime.
3. It allows the slave to be responsible for a task, which is providing service to her Master. If you are truly a slave, and not just a submissive, these tasks of servitude will be the most important thing you provide in your relationship. You should take pride in doing them well, and not requiring constant direction.

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