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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/4/2009 12:02:21 AM

MasterRaid

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I am still not understanding what you mean by beat....

If you are speaking competitively then I am happy for her. A game is just a game. Not much of a Man if you throw a hissy fit because someone can outplay Me at cards or Chess.

If you are talking about physically like boxing or wrestling......I find it whimsical and usually chuckle when she tries because she knows she cannot compete with Me on that level. (when/if she tries it is usually in a jovial spirit.)

If you are describing at play with a flogger, paddle, whip. Then she would not like Me then. I am Dom she is sub. she wears the collar I hold the cane. Any Dom who allows a sub to beat them is no Dom. At best they are a switch or a confused sub. Now where My belle has switch tendancies they are limited to other females not towards Myself. she knows her place.

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/4/2009 12:18:17 AM

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I can't imagine punishing a sub or slave for beating me at a game. Maybe we mean different things by the word "punish." I certainly might get in a spank or two--just to prove I can. But I wouldn't punish her; that would be absurd.

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How do you handle competative situations in which your sub or slave beats you?

I'm sure we're all adults here and act accordingly, but have you ever heard of a sub or slave being punished for beating a Dom or Master?

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/4/2009 5:57:47 AM

SirJ40

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I don't play a lot of games /cards things like that, but if she wins.. she wins.
It wouldn't be a lot of fun if I won all the time! There's no challenge there.. and she kicks My ass at backgammon all the time.. she's way better at it.

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/4/2009 7:13:28 AM

DomImus

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As long as I do not challenge her to a tennis match or accept her offer of same the odds are usually in my favor.

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/4/2009 10:13:46 AM

DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: MasterRaid
Any Dom who allows a sub to beat them is no Dom. At best they are a switch or a confused sub.

Or not. Getting your feet rubbed doesn't mean you're a sub, neither does wanting a harder massage with a dowel even if that goes by the name of bastinado.

Liking sensation has nothing to do with wanting to be in charge. You may be both dominant and sadistic but your experience is not universal. There are nondominant sadists, nonsadistic dominants, masochistic dominants, and sadistic subs. If you had an itch on your back and told her to scratch it hard, up on the right side, little more up, harder, harder, ahh that's it you would not suddenly have turned into a submissive personality. Even if you had red welts up and down your back as a result of getting a back scratch the exact way you wanted it.

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/6/2009 7:06:23 AM

Interesdom

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My last girl was fiercely competitive and a keen and capable sportswoman. I was very proud of her achievements. To be beaten in a ballgame with her was an inevitability and I would not have liked her to hold back, unless I had made clear that the point was to teach me and give me a chance to improve.

To punish someone for being better at something than I would be ridiculous. The only scenario I can imagine doing so is if I had already ordered them to loose (which seems an unlikely thing to do) and even then I would be punishing the disobedience, not the winning.

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/6/2009 8:37:32 AM

OrionTheWolf

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I give her praise and then play/compete again. There are certain card games my slave is excellent at, and I am proud that she has areas she excels at. It improves her self esteem, which in turn improves her value to me.

Not sure why someone would punish for something like this, except for insecurity and ego issues.

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ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist

How do you handle competative situations in which your sub or slave beats you?

I'm sure we're all adults here and act accordingly, but have you ever heard of a sub or slave being punished for beating a Dom or Master?

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/6/2009 9:39:53 AM

fantasy69maker

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You try harder next time? LOL I dont expect to be better than a sub at everything,so what difference would it make? A Dom is silly not to take advantage of a subs gifts so most know that their subs's are better at them at some things so why would a game be any big deal?

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RE: Competition and D/s relations - 4/6/2009 12:19:43 PM

LordShadow

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Greetings,

I require any girl in my collar to do and be the best she can at all times, what kind of Master would I be if I got angry because she beat me at a game?
Just makes me work harder at whatever it was so as to better myself, and vice versa if I beat her.

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