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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/6/2009 6:38:01 AM

AngelGeena

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I serve one who is a good chunk of years younger than me. It is all about the particular individual. He really has his act together and knows what He wants and what He is going.

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/8/2009 1:40:31 AM

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i dont care but do feel more natural submitting to someone older

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/8/2009 1:21:34 PM

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I would like to ask subs here, how they feel about this. Do you feel age is important in choosing a dominant? Are you willing to submit to someone younger? how much younger is the limit?

There was a point I preferred to submit to a domme older than me because of the assumption that age equals knowledge and experience. In fact, if a domme was younger than me, it was a major turn off. As I've grown older, I realized that my way of thinking was flawed to an extent. While age can be a gauge for determining knowledge and experience, it is not always the case. My domme is 7 years younger than me. I'm 31 and she's 24. She may be younger and not quite as experienced as most dommes out here, but she more than makes up for it with her curiosity and her diabolical nature. She's very eager to learn new tricks and techniques to make suffer just a little bit more for her. LOL Ultimately, age should be a factor, but certainly not the be all, end all.

As for what my personal age limit is, I'd have to say that depends on the person. Generally, 25 is my cut-off point, but every person is different. I'd give the person a chance to prove me wrong if they were younger than 25.

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/8/2009 4:12:36 PM

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As someone who has the same issue (being a male Dom at 22, but started a few years earlier), it frustrates me when I see an 18 year old girl looking exclusively for "someone older," say 35 or so. From this thread alone, you can see that large gaps in age can work, and it's a good thing to be open-minded about age in relationships, regardless of tastes in kink.

The problem is that for most of us most of the time, perception is reality. Person A sees their peers, and assumes from random group of peers that such people cannot be dominant/submissive, and therefore they need to find another age group. This is how you get the 18 year old girl finding a 40 year old "dom" who has been married and divorced six times with rumors of abuse tied to several of them (the drunk and call the police kind of abuse, not the fun kind). Why does she do this? Because the literature and her perceptions lead her to believe young people cannot be dominant.

Usually I'm fine with people jumping to conclusions and getting burned, but things like the above scenario (which happened) annoy me a lot.

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/8/2009 5:16:05 PM

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The major thing that would turn me off a MUCH younger dom would be (of all things!) the physical differences. I don't think i could get past the fact that i have had two children while looking at a person who could be one of my kids. I think i would always be self conscious about my shortcomings compared to the way i looked at 22. And since i would be only interested in a long term relationship, i would have to wonder how he was at changing depends when i am 75 and he is .....40ish.

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/8/2009 11:39:19 PM

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If I was with someone for occasional play and nothing more, I don't think age would be a large factor. As far as D/s relationships, I need someone who is mature and intelligent who can give me insight to my life beyond the D/s part of it. I was in a previous relationship where I had a Domme who was a few years younger (about 5) and the maturity gap was difficult at times. I am an educated professional and it was hard to be submissive when my previous Domme needed my advice and assistance in everyday matters. My ideal situation (which I luckily have) is to have someone who is at least as mature and more experienced in life than myself. I could not find this match in someone 10-15 years younger.

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RE: How do you feel about submitting to someone younger? - 4/9/2009 4:03:55 AM

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In my case it's not really any rocket science.I just don't date people younger than myself....so I wouldn't submit to a younger person. However if I did date people younger than myself I probably wouldn't find it to be a problem.