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Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:32:52 AM)
GotSteel, I don't think any of us are ridiculing him for seeking a relationship online, at least I'm not. My comments are more focused on the fact that he is complaining about a valid kink and knocking women whose choices do not match his. In my opinion, men who claim to be submissive should A: be open minded to the fact that there are numerous kinks out there that may not be interesting to him, B: be respectful of others desires, C: not be a whiny do-me bottom. If one claims up front in their profile they are a whiny do-me bottom and D types start posting messages crying about all the submissives who advertise they are do-me bottoms instead of looking at other profiles, do you think we'd get a break? [:D]

LaTigresse -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:34:31 AM)
Oh good grief Red, I missed that. If I have to actually DATE people from the site to belong, I am soooooooooo screwed! And not in a good way....

chiaThePet -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:39:10 AM)
I come here for those pretty little flags at the top of the page. And the macaroons. Yes, definitely the macaroons. chia* (the pet)

LadyLupineNYC -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:43:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet I come here for those pretty little flags at the top of the page. And the macaroons. Yes, definitely the macaroons. chia* (the pet) Oh how funny....I was going to make some today [:D]

Lynnxz -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:46:53 AM)
I'm still wondering why he was so offended at this "girls" profile. If twenty is so young and immature to you, why would you even search her profile? And yes. Generous typically means that you are going to pay for a session. Get over it.

chiaThePet -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:51:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet I come here for those pretty little flags at the top of the page. And the macaroons. Yes, definitely the macaroons. chia* (the pet) Oh how funny....I was going to make some today [:D] OMG! You're going to make some flags today? Oh how fun! chia* (the pet)

RedMagic1 -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:53:26 AM)
I would scene with you, Lynn, if you bought me coffee, and wore a brand-new starched nurse's uniform. OMG that's hot. You could even buy me decaf. I'd be ok with that.

Lynnxz -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 7:55:32 AM)
Hehehe Red ^_^ I'll bring my gurney too.... o.o

LadyLupineNYC -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:04:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet quote: ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet I come here for those pretty little flags at the top of the page. And the macaroons. Yes, definitely the macaroons. chia* (the pet) Oh how funny....I was going to make some today [:D] OMG! You're going to make some flags today? Oh how fun! chia* (the pet) I am into hardcore semaphore- anyone who doesn't make their own flags is TOTALLY fake!!! [>:][>:][>:][>:]

OriginalRemi -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:13:10 AM)
It seems to me that they are giving fair warning that they are acquisitive to a fault. Thus warned, how can anyone complain (other than that they are cluttering up the field)?

stella41b -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:17:05 AM)
I dunno about all the dommes seeking 'generous males', but one thing for sure is I'm sick to the back teeth of the whining and carping of so-called submissive males who have nothing better to do but bitch about not being able to find that 'domme' to share their kinks and fantasies on a freebie. Where do you guys get these ideas? Is it something discussed in the gents at munches? Does it come to you while you're slapping your salami browsing porn sites? At what point did you ever get the message 'you don't need a grasp on reality to be kinky'? Why not get over yourselves and over your own fantasies, get a f*cking grip and start living in the real world for a change? If you were genuinely submissive it wouldn't matter what you get up to, and if you really wanted to be with a domme, and I mean REALLY wanted to be with a domme, you would make the effort and cough up a few readies in the process. But no, it would appear that the word 'submissive' actually means licence to engage in kinky sex where the only thing you're being submissive to in reality is your bell end or pork sword. That's why it doesn't matter does it? Because in reality it can be anyone with a good pair of tits, a pussy, corset a place and the time and inclination to indulge you in your fantasies so as you get the woodie and you get your rocks off. This is what it's all about, isn't it? The woodie and being able to cum? FFS even out in vanilla to get laid you need clean underwear, good aftershave, enough in your wallet to have a good time out and a decent personality, so what makes you think we eschew all of these things in this WIITWD and BDSM community? To be honest it's not a domme you need, but a 'dumme', and to be honest hardly any women are so thick as to fall for that. But the thing is you're so far gone from reality you actually believe you have the right to bring what other people write in that personal space provided for them and have a go at them for daring to seek 'generous males'.. So what if they are? What's that got to do with you? Yeah and far easier to come on these boards and have a go at a whole load of people rather than look to yourself and what you're doing and trying to work out what it is that you're doing which is contributing to your own lack of success. Yeah right, submissive male. Pull the other one. It's got bells on it.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:20:52 AM)
I heart Stella.

Rover -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:34:20 AM)
Stella, you go girl. The world needs more plain talking. John

MsFlutter -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:40:44 AM)
Oh my - I last saw this thread yesterday afternoon when it was at 2 pages. Apparently it grew legs AND running shoes while I was off doing other things. Most of these threads are very entertaining - this was in downright funny - I LOVE the responses from all the ladies ! 'All?' really? Did you type that with a straight face? Not only am I not looking for generous men, I have been known to pick up the tab for coffee at a first meet because by doing so I eliminate the opportunity to ever say 'you used me', or 'you accepted - and I interpret that as you being amenable to everything else that follows.' Generous, no. Keep your wallet in your pants, dear, as I dont need it. Intelligent, funny, rich in his own intangible values? yes. If you measure your worth by the bulk in your pocket, we'd have nothing in common. :)

LadyLupineNYC -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 8:47:54 AM)
LOL...yeah...I fronted the money so my boy could come to NYC for the first time (though he did pay me back, that was up to him). Power comes from the access and use of money; that might mean your money, but it can just as easily mean MY money too.

xxblushesxx -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 9:04:09 AM)
I'm not a Domme' but I play one on the phone, and yes, I prefer those who want to do a phone session with me (Me? lol) to be quite generous. It's amazing how quickly the wankers quit emailing me (Me!) when I tell them to tribute Me or shut up... Then again, sometimes they do tribute nicely... OP, I suggest you ignore the ones who you feel are not "real", and move on to those who are. How is it hurting you if some woman wants to capitalize on her assets? Unless she's getting the $$ from you...

Andalusite -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 9:36:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dennidson I'm also quite certain that when I created my profile the site rules stated that asking for money/gifts is not allowed. One thing I really don't like though is when a profile has no mention of expecting money but then after an e-mail or two they spring it on you. At least be up front about it. You can flag their profile for one of the moderator types to check it, if money/financial slavery is listed. That is precisely why many of them don't list it right upfront - they are obeying the site rules on it. As to time spent filtering, I and other women need to do that, too! There's no separate category (or at least they don't seem to fill it out) for single vs. married or in a relationship, and some men aren't straightforward about that. There's no separate category for "looking for an LTR" vs. "seeking playpartner/fuckbuddy/booty-whip call." BTW, specifically saying in your profile and your posts here that you don't have much money makes it come across as "I have a minimum wage job, so I can't afford to take you out on dates and stuff." Saying that you aren't interested in financial slavery would probably get the message you prefer across better. Also, you may be getting a lot of interest from gay and bi men because you didn't list your sexual orientation, and your picture comes across as "looking for anonymous hookups."

Andalusite -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 9:39:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz In my opinion, men who claim to be submissive should... C: not be a whiny do-me bottom. If one claims up front in their profile they are a whiny do-me bottom and D types start posting messages crying about all the submissives who advertise they are do-me bottoms instead of looking at other profiles, do you think we'd get a break? The CM interface doesn't have a separate category for "bottoms" than "submissives." Personally, I'd be fine with dating someone who was a bottom, without any D/s connection whatsoever, as long as they met my criteria for a relationship partner. I have seen a lot of threads that complain about bottoms, especially the "do me" type.

GotSteel -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 9:43:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz GotSteel, I don't think any of us are ridiculing him for seeking a relationship online, at least I'm not. My comments are more focused on the fact that he is complaining about a valid kink and knocking women whose choices do not match his. In my opinion, men who claim to be submissive should A: be open minded to the fact that there are numerous kinks out there that may not be interesting to him, B: be respectful of others desires, C: not be a whiny do-me bottom. If one claims up front in their profile they are a whiny do-me bottom and D types start posting messages crying about all the submissives who advertise they are do-me bottoms instead of looking at other profiles, do you think we'd get a break? [:D] LOL well actually a number of dommes on this thread have been complaining about the whiny do-me bottoms and nobody has jumped on them. I got the impression that the OP was complaining about the scammers which I have been hounded by on other sites, to the point that I closed my my-space account. Yeah he's whining, but being pestered by guys posing as women to rip you off gets annoying when you constantly have to sort through it to find the legitimate emails. There was a poster that came off a little strongly (at least to me) telling th OP that he shouldn't use this as a personals site and should go to munches. Collarme is really setup as a personals site, yeah I'm not using it that way either, but I took exception to someone being told not to.

Andalusite -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/5/2009 9:46:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MmeGigs quote: ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy Sounds like high school. Does he have a car? Did he buy you a ring? Did he take you out (as in spending money on a date)? I guess things don't change much for us guys. They've certainly changed for us gals, if the cmails I get are any indication. In high school, a fellow would at least introduce himself and engage in a little conversation, maybe take me out on a date, before asking for a blow-job. Here, the vast majority of fellows who contact me ask for specific sexual favors before they even say hello. I understand that it's the same for most dominant women here. Tslaveboy, exactly - treating women as women (or better yet, as individuals, and finding out what they specifically want is by far preferable to treating her like a FemBot 2000 whip control mechanism or a walking, talking, RealDoll slave, particularly on the first date, when no roles have yet been established. MmeGigs, I've been pretty fortunate so far - most of the men who've contacted me have been reasonably polite and treated me like a person, though for some reason the Dominant and switch men seem to be better at that in general than the submissives, even though the submissives are supposedly more focused on what women want. [8\|] I've usually been able to screen out the online fantasy types and such fairly easily. [:D] GotSteel, I agree - I personally am using CM as a personals site, since I am currently single and looking for someone, and it's been working reasonably well for me so far. :) I see nothing wrong with other people using it that way, too! I went to a lot of munches a few years ago, when I was single and looking to date, and didn't find munches useful places to meet potential partners at all. The conversation tended to be centered around a) small talk, b) computer talk, or c) gossip about other people in the Scene. Whenever I was able to get an interesting conversation started with someone, a bunch of people would cluster around us and change the subject back to one of those three topics! It was a bit frustrating and annoying, especially since even if I got away from them, and re-started the conversation with the same person, or found someone else to talk with, they usually did the same thing again. I particularly don't see how it would be useful for the OP - it's very unlikely he'll find what he wants there, either, though for different reasons. There aren't a lot of hot single chicks looking for casual sex there, either (if anything, there are probably more here on CM, though he has to filter out the ones who aren't actually female).

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