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need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:17:53 PM

InTonguesslave

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appologies for this because i know this has been done to death, i have been searching around for a good description of top drop or dom drop and i cant really find one that doesnt include sub drop or has some other element thrown into the discussion.

just a plain and simple description of top drop from someone who has would be greatly appreciated. thank you.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:20:26 PM

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Just my feeling but the reason it tends to include sub drop in the description is because its a similar thing

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:25:27 PM

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yes, i know

, but apparently Sir is going through it and id like to be able to cut and paste something for him and i cant find anything succinct enough, hence my request here.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:33:38 PM

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When we have increased adrenaline such as the case with intense physical or emotional stimulation bought about by playing there is a high in the moment. Often the body then relaxes and there is a drop in mood, feeling low or down because of the dramatic chemical reaction in our bodies.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:39:59 PM

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thank you - im aware of the chemical whooha, i was just kinda hoping someone might come along whose been there from the D side and can explain the drained, tired, flat feeling from their perspective.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 3:50:57 PM

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dom , sub drop is a mild form of depression. Do a search on that plain and simple. color gave you the answer you didn't seem to want to "hear it". Depression can be caused by the chemical imbalances.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 4:04:35 PM

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i did hear it SB, was why i said thanks, i was just hoping for something more personally experienced. x

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 5:23:57 PM

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The rush of hormones with adrenaline and endorphins kind of get all used up, and your body needs time to replenish them....it is like the person who takes a "feel good" illegal drug...it uses up the endorphins and then when your body has depleted itself of them, they want more drug...but since they used up the endorphins, the high is not the same. This is a simple explanation.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 5:38:02 PM

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I will try to give it a shot and try to explain it. For me it is a feeling of being drained, down, depressed after having an intense high. It is like something is missing, a sadness and it doesn't really make since because I just had a fantastic time flying high and now it all feels like it didn't really happen and something is missing. It is kind of a low feeling and not really anything that anyone can say/do to help. Feels kind of like I am just pulled inside myself and alone. Usually, some time alone works for me. This is not something that has happened in long time for me, when it use to occure was when I was in LDR and either was going to have to leave or he had to leave. Sometimes it would happen when I played with casual play partner, because somehow it wasn't the same as being with "him".

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 6:27:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

appologies for this because i know this has been done to death, i have been searching around for a good description of top drop or dom drop and i cant really find one that doesnt include sub drop or has some other element thrown into the discussion.

just a plain and simple description of top drop from someone who has would be greatly appreciated. thank you.

Very mild depression,a sense of isolation and there can be a period of self doubt of my actions.
None of which last very long ( a day or so) so any longer term effects could be a result of something deeper .

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 7:00:36 PM

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For me, it is like the focus I had on my submissive during play turns inward after play. I become critical of myself, my abilities, my submissive to some extent, and worried about whether I did a "good job" or not. It is kind of self destructive as I am just starting to get my bearings in the dominant positon. It is great all the way up and even when I am guarding over my charge after it is over. After, about an hour or two it seems, a scene once my submissive is no longer in need of so much attention that the drop starts to settle in. It is down and bluesy, too, but it is the self critique that gets to me most. I am very harsh with myself at that point. It is as if I can't shut down my extreme focus and let my mind wander to other things. I hope the post scene shift will begin to come easier. It may just be my way of debriefing after a scene.

I think it may be why I discuss and like to discuss things after regardless of what position I have been in. It is a processing mechanism. Speaking with my partner helps me feel better when he is thrilled with the events of the evening and helps me know what will work better in the future. This kind of reflection is a good thing and I hope I continue to do so, but hopefully in a more constructive manner. It does good things in the long run for me, but it is a painful process at the time.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 7:27:12 PM

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Ok, here we go.
I get this after a scene. Usually I focus super tight on her when I am playing, so tight that I fall into the equivalent of a TM state.
Breathing and heart rate slow down, time collapses and I lock in on her completely.
Coming up is similar to emerging from meditation, colors are brighter, the world is a touch shinier, my senses are elevated, but there is also somewhat a sense of loss
A sense that grows, usually emerging as a mild state of the blues. Every once in a while it hits harder, no rhyme or reason, but it's pretty much a given that I am going to get some backlash effect.
Touch helps a lot, but usually its just a thing I have to sift through for a day or so until I get my bearings totally straight.
Hope that helps.

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RE: need some info please - 4/6/2009 8:25:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

i did hear it SB, was why i said thanks, i was just hoping for something more personally experienced. x

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 12:34:49 AM

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thanks guys, youve come up with exactly what i was looking for -

.. SB, youre a grumpy feck, but i cant help loving you for it.xxx

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 12:59:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

i did hear it SB, was why i said thanks, i was just hoping for something more personally experienced. x

Nice assumption there.

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 2:26:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

quote:

ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

i did hear it SB, was why i said thanks, i was just hoping for something more personally experienced. x

Nice assumption there.

assumption?

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 2:58:11 AM

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opps sorry Lal I wrote that first thing this morning and was in a pre coffee grump looking for a row and misread it. Sorry

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 4:34:24 AM

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i know that feeling!

- no probs - just relieved i hadnt put my foot in it again. x

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 5:56:58 AM

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The only time he's had it was when we played for a very long time, almost no sleep, not eating, and then separated immediately afterwards. Ouch. We spent a lot of time later on talking on the phone both of us miserable as hell.

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RE: need some info please - 4/7/2009 7:39:39 AM

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Although it differs from person to person, I get tired, quiet, a bit lethargic, and feel a distinct need to care for babygirl. I want her close to Me, and I am more likely to ask her to be My wife instead of My sub at that time. I may be irritable, I need a lot of food and water, and the weirdest for Me is.. it usually takes 2 days to set in. The day immediately after a strong scene I'm ok.. but the day after that.. often it hits.

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