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TahoeSadist -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/11/2004 9:23:35 PM)

I don't understand the completely blank profile either. I've been reading the earlier posts, including the lecture about how I (and others) should be "open-minded" about the enlightened blank-profilers. Frankly, if I browse a profile and it is simply blank (or worse) then I discard it out of routine. Is that discrimination? Am I being judgmental? Yep, you're damn right. I look for people who have mutual interests, or can express themselves (I love a well turned phrase) so why waste time playing guessing games? (maybe this person just won the lottery and is just shy to reveal who they are?)
Not sure how others feel, but to me the mind is the most attractive part of a person that can come across online. A profile, postings in the forums, and maybe chatroom conversations all are good ways to see a person's wit, wisdom, and even how and what they think on things. If anyone asked me for advice on what to put in a profile, I'd simply answer "Just say whatever's on your mind".........and I reckon the blank profilers have taken that advice.

TS



lilninotchka -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/11/2004 10:12:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: happypervert

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i am not suggesting you do anything other than as you choose when you find a blank profile, i am simply suggesting that you think more carefully before blanketing all who have a blank profile with the same negative character traits.

Your posts are all a bunch of pseudo-philosophical crap trying to defend your own choice to have a blank profile, ninotchka. Just like this snippet -- if Laura or anyone else wants to assume the worst about you and others with blank profiles, then why should they have to think more carefully about it? You made the choice to let them think whatever they want.

Oh sure, it's fun to act mysteroius and say "if you want to know more, just ask". But that just justifies your own laziness to say absolutely nothing at all, and puts the burden on others to make the effort to discover how fascinating you may be. So if you want to leave it blank, then that's fine. But don't start lecturing others for forming a negative opinion when you and the other "blank heads" can't be bothered to write even one word so folks might think anything else.


i am so very sorry to have upset you with this. i will take my lazy, blank head, fake, whatever else self and leave this place immediately. i had no idea that i was not entitled to keep information private here, or that i would be subjected to such rudeness for speaking my mind. Sorry to have burdened, bothered, lectured or anything else anyone. Please take care and good luck in whatever your endeavors.



proudsub -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/11/2004 11:56:03 PM)

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i had no idea that i was not entitled to keep information private here,


You have every right to remain private and have a blank profile, IMHO.



TahoeSadist -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/12/2004 7:36:12 AM)

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i had no idea that i was not entitled to keep information private here,


Of course you and anyone else have a right to keep whatever you like private. No one suggests otherwise. Keeping with that, others have a right to decide how or if they wish to proceed based on the information (or lack thereof) at hand. You say you didn't expect such "rudeness" for speaking your mind while just as rudely denouncing as "closed-minded" people who speak their mind and opinion? Sounds like the proverbial pot is on the cellphone to the kettle....
Anyway, share your opinions and thoughts, just realize that while some will agree, others will not.

TS



Mercnbeth -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/13/2004 11:35:02 AM)

I don't care what picture is on the profile. From first hand experience I don't trust any picture I see anyway.
To me the most important piece of information that's missing from profiles is if the poster is a poser. I don't see anything wrong with people wanting to enjoy this lifestyle exclusively in the internet or solely as a masturbatory tool, but I think the profile should say that. I've never been hurt or took personally any response I received from a profile I've posted or a reply I've sent to a profile. It's the discovery that the 35 year old submissive from Pasadena is really a 58 year old retired postal employee from Des Moines, that really pisses me off.
Merc



lilninotchka -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/14/2004 8:47:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TahoeSadist

Of course you and anyone else have a right to keep whatever you like private. No one suggests otherwise. Keeping with that, others have a right to decide how or if they wish to proceed based on the information (or lack thereof) at hand. You say you didn't expect such "rudeness" for speaking your mind while just as rudely denouncing as "closed-minded" people who speak their mind and opinion? Sounds like the proverbial pot is on the cellphone to the kettle....
Anyway, share your opinions and thoughts, just realize that while some will agree, others will not.

TS

First let me point out that i did not call anyone 'close-minded' because they have an opinion or because they voiced that opinion. i applied that attribute to someone making a broad negative generalization (ie "blank profile = blank brain" or "leaving a completely blank ad just goes to show their general apathy"). i did not think i was rude about it, i attacked no one personally and i did not call someone 'lazy' or 'blank head' or any other name, negative or otherwise...i did not call someone's thoughts 'psuedo-philosophical crap' nor did i strongly imply that their brain was a blank. i simply disagreed and backed it up with examples and personal knowledge...and what i specifically disagreed to was making negative generalizations that could not possibly be true, i did not disagree with anyone's personal opinion of how they should handle those blank profiles, nor did i disagree with the right of everyone to have and defend the opinion of their choice.

i voiced my opinion, defended it and accepted everyone's right to choose their own way of seeing it, their own opinion or whatever else they cared to choose...with the exception of one thing - i am not going to accept anyone making personal, rude attacks. i chose to leave because it seems that behavior such as that is acceptable here, but it is not acceptable to me. Nothing personal, just exercising my right to not be in a place i do not fit.

Now if i could just figure out why this account is actually still here (i closed it once, i thought) - if anyone has any idea on that and would not mind clueing me in, i'm posting it under "Feature Suggestions...". i would definitely appreciate any assistance with it.

Take care and good luck. :)



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lilninotchka -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/14/2004 12:25:02 PM)

Thank you...and i don't think i'm that compelled. i hadn't realised that the two were completely separate and if this one is not visible, i'm not going to worry about it.

Take care. :)



temptation -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/14/2004 2:02:31 PM)

I've actually recieved alot of email from people who have taken the time to read my profile..

and usually its just some sort of congratulatory remark. "Great profile" or something about being intellectual, or knowing what I want..

but then on the other side, I get alot of email from "twue" dominants, who assume that their way of BDSM/Alt Lifestyle is the only way. "Nice try girl, but you're really just a slut even if you dont know it yet". etc.

Or people calling me fake, because apparently you have to have a terrible body, or take oh-too modest pictures to be real.

Sigh.



sweetpleaser -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/14/2004 4:59:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: temptation

Or people calling me fake, because apparently you have to have a terrible body, or take oh-too modest pictures to be real.



Your profile is fine and the pictures are great! Possibly they call you fake because you have such a great body but do not show your face. I'M not saying you are fake, I'm just envious[:)]. I think some of us women are around 40, had children, and having a hard time keeping a figure at all. Envy can cause some nasty comments.

Good luck,
ann



knees2you -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/29/2004 11:21:08 AM)

When a profile says,

MMMMMMM. What does that tell You.[&:]

And that was all it said.

Sincerely, eyesofAslave[;)]

[image]local://upfiles/19655/A5D750B79E8E4648B0542686D4FD01D8.gif[/image]



Mercnbeth -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/29/2004 11:31:20 AM)

We assume a blank profile is listing in great detail, what the person is good at.



kiki blue -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/29/2004 12:46:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

We assume a blank profile is listing in great detail, what the person is good at.


Heh, I like that.

I run by the theory that you've gotta know what you want to get it, and to me, blank profiles don't know what they want. A simple "Not looking at the moment" is better than a blank page, imo.



Synocense -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/29/2004 1:36:35 PM)

I think a picture of a pair of breasts or penis is saying alot actually.

SEX : inquire here. hehe



Maltor -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/30/2004 11:53:45 AM)

I've been away for a while, but I think I'll chime in on this one...

I have a blank profile... I will explain my reasons for this.

1. I am not looking for anything but discussion, I have a girl... Syn, who I just replied to. Why do I need to post my interests to appease someone else. I do not need to, and I will not.

2. I am here for discussion, in such, those I discuss things with on this board will learn about me in what I share.

3. If you will not speak to me because I don't have a profile, I'm okay with that... Enjoy your day.

4. We have alot of good people here, I do not need a profile to speak with them on these boards. I will answer most questions posted to me if I can, and I do enjoy a good debate... I will not do something because someone or a crowd thinks I "should".

This isn't meant to upset or offend anyone, and if it has... I apologize... I can only be who I am though, take it or leave it.



masterzpet -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/30/2004 2:40:42 PM)

I agree that someone should put *something* in their profile to garner interest and spark some sort of conversation if they are looking.

BUT, the Dom that I am currently exploring with contacted me, and had I just ignored or deleted due to his lack of profile, I would have missed out on a wonderful thing.
Some people are just more private than others I suppose. He did list some interests and such and was very open to answering any questions I might have. I never got the idea he was a poser. In fact, he is the most real person I have ever chatted with online and then met in person.

I think that if someone takes the time to write an email to you and you like what it says, perhaps one should have an open mind and see what else might be interesting. You can gather a lot of information from someone in how they interact with you and how respectful they are of you.

You NEVER know who you might be deleting or ignoring ;)

Just my 2 cents



kiki blue -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (9/30/2004 2:58:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: masterzpet
I think that if someone takes the time to write an email to you and you like what it says, perhaps one should have an open mind and see what else might be interesting. You can gather a lot of information from someone in how they interact with you and how respectful they are of you.


It's the ones who write to you saying 'would you like a gangbang for your birthday?' that I have no problem deleting.

Denise



Chaos -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (10/1/2004 6:20:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kiki blue
It's the ones who write to you saying 'would you like a gangbang for your birthday?' that I have no problem deleting.

Denise



Damn. I guess I have to come up with something ELSE for you now, huh? Some people are so hard to please.....


[8D]



cynnacent1 -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (10/1/2004 7:03:02 AM)

i am no longer 'looking' and when i was actively seeking ( less than 24 hours for me [:D] yes, i lucked out big time in a wonderful way) i skipped past blank profiles, didn't care for one's including nude pics, and didn't even reply to those who sent me email yet had obviously not read my profile as in reading their's it was determined that our interests conflicted or were not compatible.

Profiles are very important. In contacting the One i know know as Master ( INSIDEYOURMIND ), i actually responded to every point in his profile as an opener for correspondence (would have liked to include the actual profile info He had posted originally but can't find it) :

To:

INSIDEYOURMIND

Dated:
6/26/04 2:26 AM


*ponders.. smiles softly.*

Hello,

one feels compelled to respond to Your profile. This girl does not initiate nor tolerate the games. Lives with the inevitable existence of natural submissiveness, and is no doubt in need of training. Does not share, yet works and plays well with others and is certainly not a man. Is submissive and is well aware that this trait does not dictate one as being weak or daft, and would rather wish that more might understand and recognize that a truly valuable, submissive woman is confident, self respecting, noble, strong and intelligent. This girl understands all too knowingly just the type of replies a profile might draw (has already edited one's twice this evening as a result of such awareness). One found Your's to be appealing as well as intriguing. Since this girl did 'make it through the ranting' she is confident that a reply would be worth the accumulated bandwidth spent simply in reading it and then responding. one is equally quite as real as it gets, finding cyber and phone sex not holding any enticements at all. This girl knows her place, & has a great desire to, yet has simply not found an opportunity in occupying it. Should You decide to chat with one, and then discover that 'we hit it off', one is in no need of her expenses being paid as she is quite capable of providing for herself beside the fact that she is possibly quite local to You (Swansea, MA). one does not waste anyone's time as she wishes her own not be taken for granted either. ( Real enough so far? ) *proof reads, runs through spell check, crosses her T's and dots her I's, counts the total of lines, assuring You, this is not a tacky form type response* I am picky myself, and actually view any picking or choosing to be a mutual endeavor. This girl is no doubt happy at present, yet is always seeking to engage in the possibilities of meeting One who is capable of enhancing one's state of contentment, just for starters.

cynnacent1@______.com (my picture can be made available upon request if You so desire).

be well, Sir.

cynnacent1

A well written profile can be very important.



sweetpleaser -> RE: No idea Profiles?? (10/1/2004 7:21:31 AM)

That was very good cynnacent. Thanks for sharing. I also believe that when one is seeking a partner their profile should be warm and touch on different aspects of your life to invite further correspondence. You and Insideyourmind sound like you had the chemistry right from the start.[:)]
Congratulations.

Sincerely,
ann



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