AtlantaMistress
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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
*snort* "Domination Therapy"?
I suppose a domme could help with behavior modification if she was working with the right person. There are a lot of people who make a few dollars as "life coaches", "personal trainers" and "weight loss coaches" who are essentially being paid to exert low-key dominance over their clients.
Actually, as a Pro Domme, I do these things! I have put boys on weight loss programs, given them sales goals for work, and have a wonderful gurl now who hasn't had a drink in over 6 weeks. As a Dominant, I take my responsibilty very seriously, and I don't play the "angry evil bitch" role. It may sound "cliche" to boil it down to some of the basic things that I do, but just to give you an idea: I know that my subs find happiness in my pleasure, and in turn, I teach them to do things to make me proud and love themselves, which makes me happy - a cycle of positive energy if you will. I help them explore their fetishes, push their boundaries, and realize that if they are pleasing me, there is nothing "wrong" with the things we do. I make them understand that the only person you can truly control is yourself, and I only have control over them because they give it to me, that worrying about things you cannot control is a waste of negative energy. I use discipline, rewards, punishment, but not just to get them to serve me better, but to become happier in doing so. I cannot tell you the power I feel when I read in one's journal the differences I have made in their life and how devoted and loyal they are to me because of that.
As for this being a "business opportunity" - I am very selective with who I see, and just do this as part of the D/s relationship I build with my subs. I try not to do "fantasy or fetish fulfillment" sessions, but rather Power Exchange and really try to build something real - most see me on a very regular basis. I suppose Domme's certainly could market it...but I think honestly the reason it really works for me is that my subs know that Tribute, although necessary for me to live my life by my rules, is not my primary motivation, and pleasing me is not just for the time in our session, but we communicate in between sessions. That is just me though...and there are plenty of people who will go to a hypnotist, personal trainer, weight loss club, etc - so if you are submissive and "bottoming" can be your motivation, I certainly could see there being a way to market it. I would think the problem could be that what is reward to one is punishment to another, and you really have to find what buttons to push. After all, a sub could continue doing whatever it is he says he needs help stopping just to get the punishment!
Also, my kids know what I do...and if anyone asks them, they would say I am "a life coach that trains men to respect women and have balance in their lives" - which is true!!
MistressSandy
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