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aravain -> RE: Anal Fisting (4/19/2009 8:09:29 AM)
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~FR~
Like malloves69 said, enemas before are essential... I've only had it done to me once and it was by surprise (don't ask) but I hadn't properly 'prepared' (only did one D:) for it, so >.> there was mess. Unless you like that, I'd suggest at least 2, if not three, normal enemas spanned out with an hour between. It's a real sensitive area, and you've got to go *slow* (that's probably the most important aspect). If you've got nails, trim them as close to the quick as possible since they can (and most likely will) tear something. *Unlike* mal, I'd suggest a glove (the person who did it to me used a magnum condom up past his wrist) because even with proper preparation it can still be a messy subject, and even with your nails trimmed there's still a chance for tearing... so it reduces that chance.
There's two things that men get out of anal fisting the most (assuming you're doing it to pleasure him in some way)... prostate massage and the feeling of having someone/thing *up* there. Both are pretty powerful. The biggest benefit of prostate massage is that it actually works the prostate, which is something that men of a certain age are suggested to do, now, in order to avoid it enlarging. It also lets you 'milk' ejaculate out of him. Some men can orgasm from this (I actually did, more on that in a bit) but most it'll either drip out, or shoot out a bit more lazily than normal. Those that do orgasm will find it a lot... different than normal, more mute is the only way I can describe it, if it's there at all.
Mostly, just be careful, listen to your partner... if he says slower, don't keep going, actually slow down. If you have gloves on, try going finger by finger, first the middle, then add the ring and pointer, the all of them. One of the best ways to loosen up is to sit there for a few seconds to let the muscles get used to the new size and then push forward a little more. The knuckles will be the hardest part to get past, but after that, you'd be amazed how far you can actually go... just be careful.
(on an interesting side note, some women have a spot back there, too, that's not the Gspot that can be stimulated. It's actually more mythical than the Gspot XD But I can't remember what it's called, I have it written down somewhere)
And the most important thing? LUBRICATION! Don't be afraid to use *lots* of it. Use lube especially made for Anal sex (it's a lot 'heavier' than normal lube) if you can and I would reapply a little at a time during the 'opening up' phase, and, if it's water or oil based, reapply some more during the main event. Silicone based... play it by ear.
Of course, the person being fisted will then have to do Kegals for the next day or so to get his normal tightness back, but I never had any leakage or anything like that from it. Then again, I do them every day to keep the muscles exercised *shrug*
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