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InTonguesslut -> 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 3:59:42 PM)

I'm curious about something lol [:D]
During a convo with my sis lally this evening we talked about offering ourselves as a pair should we ever be dismissed by Sir. Just for clarity it was all theory not going to be put into practice. We've had our moments don't get me wrong but we both believe we work really well together and think the world of each other.
It got me to thinking though that you never see that kind of thing or i haven't anyway. We quite often see dom / domme couples, dom / sub couples etc but never slave / slave wanting to serve together.
Do they exist or would lally and i (should we do it) be the exception and a rarity?



DesFIP -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:05:21 PM)

Hey, there is something new under the sun!

I don't think I've ever heard of both being dismissed or requesting dismissal at the same time. Usually things break up and one has to move for work or family reasons, or else communication breaks down and the primary, the one who was there first, stays and the third is asked to go. Occasionally the dominant will divorce the wife to go live with the third.

But it's rare for two to be dismissed together. And even if he got hit by a bus, God forbid, I wouldn't think you would both be ready to move forward at the same time because people grieve differently and take different amounts of time to move on. So you might be ready for a new relationship two years before she was. And we tend to get involved when we're ready.



InTonguesslut -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:07:20 PM)

All good points [:D]
Maybe that is why you just don't see it then lol.



InTonguesslave -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:26:04 PM)

but, if Sir was beamed up by scotty and we knew he was happy flitting from one world to the next brandishing his lightsaber at aliens -

how rare would any of this be..  [:D]

have to say here that Sir is away and we're getting a bit - um - well - [&:]



InTonguesslave -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:34:34 PM)

joking apart though, why are there no slave/slave duos.

friends who feel they wish to serve together rather than apart.  in many ways introducing a new slave into a relationship can be a bit fraught.  it would be a job lot with two slaves who already work well together - just seems like an opportunity missed for slaves and Dominants alike, if poly is youre thing of course.



RavenMuse -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:36:52 PM)

I Owned a fem sub/sub couple at one point. So it isn't 'new' though most sub/sub couples that I spot tend to be male&female partners 



InTonguesslut -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 4:45:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

joking apart though, why are there no slave/slave duos.

friends who feel they wish to serve together rather than apart.  in many ways introducing a new slave into a relationship can be a bit fraught.  it would be a job lot with two slaves who already work well together - just seems like an opportunity missed for slaves and Dominants alike, if poly is youre thing of course.


I completely agree [:D]



LadyPact -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 5:21:41 PM)

Interesting concept, though I do agree with quite a bit of what Des said above.

Another thing that would be an issue with the idea would be, although you both obviously have your individual reasons to want to be serving your current Master, the next one you might not be so agreeable on.  The potential future Master might only suit one of you.

So, while the sister thing might still continue to work for you both, the M/s part might not be as fulfilling for one or the other of you.



SailingBum -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 5:40:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

joking apart though, why are there no slave/slave duos.



Uh cuz it's never double the pleasure.  However it IS double the Bull Shit.  I can hear it now.  You whipped her harder than you whipped me.  Master loves me more than he loves you...  blah blah

Uhhh NoFuckingThankYou

BadOne



GotSteel -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 8:43:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslut
It got me to thinking though that you never see that kind of thing or i haven't anyway. We quite often see dom / domme couples, dom / sub couples etc but never slave / slave wanting to serve together.


Maybe because those who practice bdsm are a minority of the public, those who practice poly a minority of those into bdsm and those whose relationships that end in such a was as to possible produce a slave/slave couple a yet smaller minority.

Or maybe because a bi female slave/slave couple looking for a male dom is such a cyber "masters" wet dream that they get spammed off the internet in the blink of an eye. [;)]



NihilusZero -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/22/2009 8:53:38 PM)

Due to my geographical location, I recently happened upon this profile:

http://www.collarme.com/personals/v/845894/details.htm

So, it does happen, yes.



InTonguesslave -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 12:55:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Interesting concept, though I do agree with quite a bit of what Des said above.

Another thing that would be an issue with the idea would be, although you both obviously have your individual reasons to want to be serving your current Master, the next one you might not be so agreeable on.  The potential future Master might only suit one of you.

So, while the sister thing might still continue to work for you both, the M/s part might not be as fulfilling for one or the other of you.



yes, good point. 

plus if you boil any relationship down to its most common denominator there is usually something that runs through everyone involved.  even if its just a personality trait, like sense of humour, that works for them but wouldnt work for any other mix.

i think that Ms is one of those things a slave or submissive adapts to, depending on who she is with, i might be wrong, but thats how i imagine it would be.  but yes 'demands' on the Master involved would be different and its unlikely youd find someone who would enjoy a pair of slaves for the same reasons.

turning up as a package deal would only be possible i think if both slaves were committed to adapt and after reading NZ's link there, arriving with preconceived ideas about what they expect and want 'as a couple' really wouldnt work out well.

possibly then the way poly works is how its settled into being.  finding one and then finding another who fits in whatever way that fit is required.

hm! - makes you realise just how unique any given situation is.



HollywoodExecDom -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 1:08:24 AM)

Yes, I've come across duos, they aren't unheard of, but of course this is hard to find because:

a) How often do even regular vanilla relationships work out, much less two subs?

b) BDSM is a small subset of the population, bisexuality is a smaller subset of the population, and polyamorous women are an even smaller subset. The math narrows down the number of "twosomes," because you have to accept all those different minority status stipulations.

c) Polyamorous relationships are generally harder to maintain than monogamous relationships - as there are unique stressors in polyamorous relationships that don't exist in monogamous relationships.

d) Frequently the psychology of D/s causes subs to vie for the Doms or Dommes affection - often creating an atmosphere of jealousy and one upsmanship that means its more likely should the relationship dissolve, that the two subs go their separate ways, or a subs stays with a Dom, and less so that the two subs remain romantic.

Nevertheless, I've seen this enough to typify some of the psychology behind it...

More often from the psychology I've observed, duos seeking a Dom consist of two bisexual leaning lesbians who are turned on by the idea of the mutual experience of sacrificing themselves together to a male or more broadly maledom in general. In a large sense, going in, the emotional bond is between the two women and the male Dom is objectified as a physical challenge for them to face together, which the fantasy suggests will deepen their bond together.

In older duos or more experience duos, the difference is that the two women are more often seeking the convenience of having another person and are acting more from fear abandonment of one another, so they seek out each others kinship and utilize their duo status in hopes of incentivizing getting another Dom.

In your case, however, it really sounds more like you have a real special appreciation for one another.



NormalOutside -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 1:17:07 AM)

I've heard of it, and seen maybe 2 or 3 profiles, but yeah... quite rare.
Just because it's rare doesn't mean there isn't a market for it. Sometimes it's easy for a dominant to find two separate submissives or slaves, but that's no guarantee they'll mesh well together. For a dominant looking for a poly relationship with two subs/slaves, that would certainly be worth looking into. I have no doubt the two of you would be snapped up quickly (said without knowing much at all about you as people, although I'm sure you're excellent!)



InTonguesslave -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 3:03:12 AM)

I have no doubt the two of you would be snapped up quickly (said without knowing much at all about you as people, although I'm sure you're excellent!)

well thank you [:)], but we're not on the market as such, just need to clarify that, it was just something we kicked around at about 1am in the morning cos we were bored and fidgity

i think that when sister slaves connect it is quite special, they share in their Master and in themselves.  misst and i arent actually bi, but we share in the pleasure of serving one man and that has taken some ups and downs, insecurities and jealousies - its a journey like no other ive experienced.

once the focus of each other is dealt with the focus then turns more fully on serving the Master, it then feels like a team, a pulling together and a shared responsibility.  that sort of teamship, i would imagine is hard to reach for some poly sisters and for some an impossiblity and for many a very rewarding thing.

i guess the thought of ever losing that teamship made us think about this and why its rare to find two slaves/subs who with the right mindset, settled into themselves and focused werent more common.

the above reasons make alot of sense.



allthatjaz -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 3:04:25 AM)

I had two submissives at the same time for some time and although they didn't come as a joint package, they did become almost inseparable. I loved the fact that they became such good friends.. I used to call them 'partners in crime'
When you start off with one submissive and then take another one on you have to deal with all those vulnerable emotions that they both go through and more often than not it becomes so exasperating that one of them or sometimes even both have to go.
Therefore I think that having two submissives that already know, share and care about each other like sisters, is a big attraction.

I have to just add that a friend of mine had a male and female submissive who ended up falling in love and who have recently announced there engagement. I know its different because of the gender but it goes to show that two submissives within the same household can and do become extremely close



InTonguesslut -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 8:02:36 AM)

quote:

Another thing that would be an issue with the idea would be, although you both obviously have your individual reasons to want to be serving your current Master, the next one you might not be so agreeable on.  The potential future Master might only suit one of you.

 
We have not always agreed on the Sir we have lol. There are things i'm not so keen on in Sir that Lally loves and vice versa. We are both very different people but with the same core needs. I think that would make it easier for us to find someone we would agree on in this scenario. However i agree it could also be extremely difficult.
 
quote:

Uh cuz it's never double the pleasure.  However it IS double the Bull Shit.  I can hear it now.  You whipped her harder than you whipped me.  Master loves me more than he loves you...  blah blah

Uhhh NoFuckingThankYou

BadOne


I think a lot of people in poly would disagree with you there.
 
quote:

turning up as a package deal would only be possible i think if both slaves were committed to adapt and after reading NZ's link there, arriving with preconceived ideas about what they expect and want 'as a couple' really wouldnt work out well


Completely agree with this. [:D]
 
quote:

I have no doubt the two of you would be snapped up quickly (said without knowing much at all about you as people, although I'm sure you're excellent!)


Thank you [:D]
 








InTonguesslut -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 8:28:03 AM)

quote:

In your case, however, it really sounds more like you have a real special appreciation for one another.


Yes we do [:D]
 
Lally, i'm in lust with the poster of this, what do ya reckon? LOL [:D]




LaTigresse -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 8:43:40 AM)

I came very near having a two for one situation, quite by accident. Had some life/family issues beyond one girl's control not popped up, she would most certainly be here. The other, I am not sure.



Whenready -> RE: 2 4 the price of 1 (4/23/2009 8:47:25 AM)

Idly wonders how many Sirs/Masters/Doms are now idly wondering about the names [InsertNameHere]sslave & [InsertNameHere]sslut....



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