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First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 3:42:29 PM   
wildcat07


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Hi I am new to this world and am very curious. I am looking to contacting a Female Dominate (professional) to book a session. I am really nervous about it and not really sure what to request for or if I am even allowed to request anything. I really just want to experience it all.
Any tips out there, or something that people loved for their first couple of times seeing a dominate?

Thanks for any help
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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 3:48:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dominant is what she is.  Dominate is what she does.  Just an FYI.

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 4:08:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello Wildcat,

My first experiences were with a ProDomme.  I enjoyed the experience and am not against doing it again.

Be polite.  Don't message anything that you wouldn't say face to face.  CM does puts you in a place to meet the people you seek.  It does not remove any of the steps of "courtship."  I phrase fee inquiry in terms of "Tribute."  If you ask about activities you will probably get a disclaimer about sex, kids, and animals.  You'll want to know about meeting places and times.  Do not sent a "rooster photo;" Mistresses universally hate cock shots.

If and when you book a session, SHOW UP.

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 4:24:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		www.maxfisch.com  is a good site---there are message boards, etc, so you can get some idea of who you are meeting.   If she will not meet you IN PERSON before a meeting at some neutral place---and not charge you for that!---then move on.  Ask lots of questions, without seeming like a total wanker.  It is your session, you should get what you want from it. 

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 4:32:19 PM   
SnowRanger


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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 4:48:17 PM   
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wildcat07 wrote: Any tips out there, or something that people loved for their first couple of times seeing a dominate?

I'm sure that most pros are used to seeing first-timers so, if you choose a Domme, she should be able to help you, too.

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 4:56:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: beeble

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wildcat07 wrote: Any tips out there, or something that people loved for their first couple of times seeing a dominate?

I'm sure that most pros are used to seeing first-timers so, if you choose a Domme, she should be able to help you, too.

beeble.



I agree,  I saw a lot of first timers, but there are a lot of pro doms who are...  not worth it, shall we say?  So it's sensible to not let play-frenzy take over. 

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 5:09:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		How do I choose the best one, more expensive the better?

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 5:14:38 PM   
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My former dungeon partner and I always screened our clients, and met them for coffee before any kind of session, to see if there was a "click".  We had a lovely space, and those of us working in the area had kind of a "price fixing" going on so that we were not undercutting each other.  We had a "session" price, but if we were having fun, a session could go on a bit.   There was another lady in the area who charged very precisely, and definitely had the meter running, and she had a loyal clientele too.

Look for what you want from the experience---is a fancy dungeon setting important?  Costumes?  All those things are costly to maintain.  What it comes down to is, do you like the dom?  Does she listen to you and talk to you like a person?  Do you feel that you can trust her? 

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/24/2009 7:26:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		When having a session with a pro Mistress don't relax by drinking alcohol and it's best if she's not drinking either.

Don't top from the bottom.

If you get too nervous politely ask her to stop or if you can end the session.

Thank her after the session and you can call her when you get home to thank her too. She might appreciate that gesture.

For more tips loads of info and advice can be found on free sites like GoddessClub.com

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RE: First Timer Tips - 4/25/2009 5:02:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wildcat07
How do I choose the best one, more expensive the better?


It's a lot like choosing a tattoo artist, really.  Do they have an appropriate professional workspace?  Is it clean and well-organized?  Do they use proper safety and sanitary precautions?  Do you feel comfortable with the interview process? 


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