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subsubtle -> You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 8:52:16 PM)
I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity. Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction?

Kaiel -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 9:05:15 PM)
Errr, nope! I don't feel that way!

Lockit -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 9:15:12 PM)
That sounds like a situation where it is something that isn't going to last as a romantic relationship (for example) and the submissive will be looking for someone besides the dominant/top they are having some sort of bdsm or d/s dynamic's with. Would I do this with someone... highly doubtful.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 9:24:12 PM)
The only reason I might imagine this, is if the man in question has a wonderful relationship with his hands, but trouble getting it going, or having energy to satisfy the lady he is dating. Otherwise, not a kink I'm aware of, or would participate in. M

YoungLust -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 9:42:00 PM)
If I were in that position, I'd be totally screwed. Pun FULLY intended.

ShaktiSama -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 10:19:52 PM)
chuckles Interesting training method. I suspect the rationale is to wean the man off constant self-gratification. A lot of guys who flog the bishop too much end up desensitizing it to other sensations, and become incapable of achieving climax without giving themselves a hand.

aidan -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 10:24:11 PM)
I don't know about sex with any woman their sub could have a chance with, but I do know Dommes who say their sub can only have sex with them.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 10:43:31 PM)
Damn right! I think that's what she'd say. [8D] M

peppermint -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/24/2009 11:07:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subsubtle I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity. Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction? Sounds like an order from a Pro Domme. That way the client thinks about the Domme when he isn't sessioning with her and allows him to have sex with his wife or g/f. The more he thinks about the Domme, the sooner he'll pay for antoher session.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 12:07:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subsubtle I've talked to a couple Dommes before who say that subs they have are not allowed to masturbate without permission but they are free to have sex with women if they get the opportunity. Are there any Dommes here that feel this way? If so, why? What's the distinction? I wonder who you spoke too...! It would rather say it is the other way around, and then Not cum of course, because that's the fun of it !! I wish you enough, GoddezzT`

subsubtle -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 8:19:52 AM)
Sounds like this woman I was talking to was pretty unique in her beliefs! I didn't expect many of you ladies to agree with her which is why I asked. Thank you, all.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 8:24:20 AM)
I know a lesbian sub who was told that she could get all the action she wanted but not masturbate... so it is not unheard of! It made the lady pretty flustered at times, too. (and NO I was not the one giving that order!) I can't imagine telling that to a man, especially not a man that I planned on having contact with. I take my fluid bonding seriously!

Andalusite -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 10:40:33 AM)
It wouldn't work for me. I might let him masturbate, but wouldn't want him having sex with anyone except me unless we were in a closed polyfi relationship.

malloves69 -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 11:34:32 AM)
i see my mistress on a weekly basis ..sometimes more [:)] our fluids have bonded very nicely thank you [:)] whether she gets me to cum by a nice long slow fisting [:)] or by her allowing me to cum inside of her ..she does get me to cum for her one way or another [:)] i love saving that for her and sharing that with her and she has told me no jacking off unless she gives me her ok [:)] she loves feeding me back my cum whether its a snowballs kiss or a creampie ...one way or another i will swallow my cum for her [:)]and i dont mind doing so either ..because i want to keep her happy [:)] a happy mistress is a good thing trust me [:)]love our times together ...have fun mal [:)]

PeonForHer -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 12:57:28 PM)
Possibly these women have said to their subs something slightly coded and which might be translated as "You're not allowed to masturbate. If you do, you've failed the test and may as well have sex with other women - in which case you can forget seeing me again." In other words, a test of loyalty. If not that, my bet's on the weaning-a-man-off-hand-shandies idea. But the order still seems odd to me, whichever way I look at it.

LovingMistress45 -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 1:05:19 PM)
hmmmmmmm......how about no masturbating and no sex? I like that much better. I can't see any circumstance in which I would let a sub have sex with other women.

PsyVamp -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 6:53:43 PM)
Okay, I will throw My hat into the ring, for whatever it is worth. My pet and I are not romantically matched. Saying that, if/when he finds a girlfriend, I would not forbid him to have sex with her. I would, however, still put restrictions on masturbation. He already explains to potential mates that he is owned and sex is part of the dynamic. (This does limit his choices but at least he is honest) I would not tell him he was allowed to have sex with any and all women that were available though. Lady Jag

Miyani -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/25/2009 7:08:31 PM)
~FR~ The only motivation I can think of is perhaps that she wants him to -only- get pleasure when he's (hopefully) giving pleasure to someone else. Make orgams a selfless act, almost, and take the focus off himself? Either way, it's not something I'd be inclined to do.

asianintraining -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/27/2009 12:18:26 AM)
That would be torture for me because i have never cum during sex LOL

GabrielleSlave -> RE: You can have sex but you can't masturbate. (4/27/2009 12:41:25 AM)
Master forbids me to masterbate unless He gives permission and when i ask i don't always get it.....however He would never say no to that and yes to His slave having sex with anybody else. To me that scenario would be an odd situation, but then Wwe all do what is right for Uus don't Wwe? i do have to say however, that i would not be able to be romantically attached to someone who said that to me. Another thought however, is that this could be another way of making sure the s type understands that his/her body is not their own to use as they wish. That to me makes alot of sense, but the method of underlining it in this case seem to be suspect. If the s types body is not their own, how then can they make a decision to have sex with someone else? That decision surely should not be taken by the sub... Just some rambling thoughts before the school run lol! gabrielle x

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