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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 5:30:17 AM   
angelikaJ


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ORIGINAL: euroluv

  id otn know quite where to start but its the following thing i am wondering about  I have a Master and we use to see eachother every 2 weeks at least and  have  a very reg contact on msn here hotmail texting or phone . now it has been almost 6 weeks since i've seen him or spoken to Him  altough he has send me 2 mails in the last     2 weeks saying he is extremely busy  and  tried to meet but never happened .


The thing is we don't know what else he might have said in those emails and we don't know what else is going on with his life.

Does he have an elderly parent or an ill family member?
Does he have UMs from a previous relationship?
Is there some big project or major restructuring going on at work?
Is he involved in the healthcare industry or some other occupation that the swine flu outbreak might severely impact?


On the surface, it seems like he may have ended it without telling you. But that does not mean that is the case.

How long have you been together and how long were you together before you were collared?
If you met and were collared shortly after meeting, or if the relationship is still young I would be more inclined to believe he moved on.
If you had an established relationship, then became collared and you have been collared for over 12 months, then not so much.

Best wishes.




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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 5:34:04 AM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Man who WANT to talk to and spend time with a woman find a way. 

When they give out lame excuses like, "I've been busy" for weeks on end, that translates into, "Well, I'd rather do what I'm doing than make time to see you, but I might want to see you in the future if nothing better comes along, so I'll just throw you this little bone to keep you hanging on and hoping."

Amen and amen! i guess some men will always insist on treating women like they are stupid. If i were this woman i would move on and quickly.


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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 9:46:58 AM   
Ialdabaoth


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ORIGINAL: SirMIkeSD

I can't say what is in his head, no one can but him.


Not true! I can say quite confidently that he's been infected by the T'sgranja worms from Juxulon IV. By now they're probably setting up a little conga-line around his brainstem, reweaving his little synapses into a hyperspace beacon to summon their dread Ch'uhgh-grikk thrall-beasts.

Have you heard them chirping in the night, yet?

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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 9:54:13 AM   
GreedyTop


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Seriously, Angelika made some good points.....


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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 11:04:21 AM   
lally2


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she's confused whether to hang in there because he's emailed and told her he's busy or to move on because he might just be letting it fizzle out the cowards way.

its a decent question in my view.  she is attempting to be true to the collar around her neck and remain loyal to her D.

in the end babe, you have to go with youre gut, its youre best barometer in situations like this.  good luck x

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RE: question for Masters - 4/29/2009 11:15:39 AM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

quote:

ORIGINAL: euroluv

id otn know quite where to start but its the following thing i am wondering about  I have a Master and we use to see eachother every 2 weeks at least and  have  a very reg contact on msn here hotmail texting or phone . now it has been almost 6 weeks since i've seen him or spoken to Him  altough he has send me 2 mails in the last     2 weeks saying he is extremely busy  and  tried to meet but never happened .


The thing is we don't know what else he might have said in those emails and we don't know what else is going on with his life.

Does he have an elderly parent or an ill family member?
Does he have UMs from a previous relationship?
Is there some big project or major restructuring going on at work?
Is he involved in the healthcare industry or some other occupation that the swine flu outbreak might severely impact?


On the surface, it seems like he may have ended it without telling you. But that does not mean that is the case.

How long have you been together and how long were you together before you were collared?
If you met and were collared shortly after meeting, or if the relationship is still young I would be more inclined to believe he moved on.
If you had an established relationship, then became collared and you have been collared for over 12 months, then not so much.

Best wishes.






The man may be busy however I am getting vibes that hes taking the cowards way out,I am always up front and too the point..I would suggest that you be honest about how you feel and if you get no feedback from him move on a lesson learned the hard way.... 

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RE: question for Masters - 4/30/2009 8:40:54 PM   
greenearth21


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Status: offline 		Regardless of how busy he is he could atleast send a text (those are quick and reach the other party instantaneously) to let you know how hes doing or what's going on.  I dont know if this is how things are done the right way but if I were in your shoes, I'd have put that collar in a drawer somewhere.  I dont like being the only one who puts in the work or effort in a relationship.  When it gets to that point...its back burner time or just a break till things are sorted out.
I wish you luck and peace in your heart.  I've been there and I feel for you. :( sorry nothing anyone says will help you feel better

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RE: question for Masters - 5/1/2009 4:10:51 AM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		 i've decided to move on . no matter how much I love Him  i am worth more then to be treated  like this . thank Yyou Aall  for your opinions .
euroluv

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RE: question for Masters - 5/1/2009 10:26:27 AM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: greenearth21

Regardless of how busy he is he could atleast send a text (those are quick and reach the other party instantaneously) to let you know how hes doing or what's going on.  I dont know if this is how things are done the right way but if I were in your shoes, I'd have put that collar in a drawer somewhere.  I dont like being the only one who puts in the work or effort in a relationship.  When it gets to that point...its back burner time or just a break till things are sorted out.
I wish you luck and peace in your heart.  I've been there and I feel for you. :( sorry nothing anyone says will help you feel better

This is SO true...every word. i hope you can get some peace with this.


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RE: question for Masters - 5/1/2009 12:54:48 PM   
HCDANDSLAVE


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Status: offline 		It's really hard to say what he is thinking.  Myself I have been this master that gets wrapped up in things outside the relationship and it does suck.  Having said that I always return my slaves messages/phone calls/text messages.  I would say it would be a good idea to kind of rethink how your relationship is.  Is there something going on you don't know about.

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RE: question for Masters - 5/2/2009 3:23:48 PM   
euroluv


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Status: offline 		it only takes but 5 minutes to react on a message nothing more am moving on
even  though i find it so very  hard as  He had captured my inner me in a way no one else ever  had before . but i deserve more  then what he has shown me so far

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RE: question for Masters - 6/23/2009 9:53:45 PM   
SireKane


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Status: offline 		In life people make time for the things that are important to them, and don't make time for the things that are not.

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RE: question for Masters - 6/24/2009 7:48:10 AM   
BarnacleBill


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Status: offline 		Like others have said and sorry! But consider him gone and look for another and this time take your time looking for the right Master. You deserve fun and no stress and you will find it for sure. Good Luck to you!

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RE: question for Masters - 6/24/2009 8:21:36 AM   
Screwtape


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Status: offline 		Was this a general question about how long you should wait before moving on, guilt free?  If your post is any indication about the emails you sent your partner you are complicating your own situation by assuming people know how you are feeling.

Write a well thought out email (don't send).  In it, put your concerns and a suggestion on a way your partner could meet your minimum needs.  Do not try and emotionally blackmail partner and demand their full attention, I would say weekly communication isn't much to ask. Wait until your are in a sound emotional place and re-read it before sending.  Take out anything you are not 100% certain about before sending it.  This could very well end your relationship, so make sure you are proud about what it contains.

Take a little ownership in your own situation.  Find someone that makes you happy, if your master does not take care of their property maybe you should find one that does.


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RE: question for Masters - 6/24/2009 8:34:26 AM   
MstrPBK


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Status: offline 		I think you have one of the hardest issues that either a Master or slave could have. And the issue (I think) comes down to perception and trust. While avoiding my teacher mode; I would suggest that you contact your Master and directly address the issue (if you have not already). Your post suggests that you have some degree of trust with him at this time; so I would say a healthy discussion about where things are at would be acceptable. Keep in mind that he might REALLY FOR TRULY be busy.

I have had to make this call on slaves before; and I fully know just how difficult it is to see where the truth is or is not. I wish you the best in answering your concern.

MstrPBK
St. Paul, MN USA

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