scribeofclio
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For me, getting into a submissive mindset is kind like changing clothes. You just shrug off whatever you were wearing, and don the new outfit: No big deal, as long as the clothes suit the occasion. If you're trying to put on a ball gown for a garage sale, though, it can be challenging. To make the metaphor clearer, make sure you have the ambiance right for submission. I could never go straight from vanilla life to bedroom submission -- the two worlds are just two different for me. If my partner and I put a little work into making me feel submissive, though, I have no trouble. Sometimes, if you're playing the submissive role and you start to waiver (this can happen especially if you weren't entirely in a submissive mood to begin with) these things can help: Your partner sternly telling you off/slapping you/cutting you/ what ever you kink is (For me it was having her grab my chin and yell at me). Focusing on your partner's more dominant aspects. When I'm in relationships with Doms, I tend to keep myself in the scene by focusing on her/his powerful voice/ commanding posture, etc. But to prevent all waivering, I really do suggest TONS of foreplay and scene-setting. That way the switch is really into the sex and less likely to get distracted.
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