From: Sacramento, California
The large amount of these fake subs makes the rest of us completely disposable so that we don't even make it into the running anymore because we rarely promise the world but our devotion, sincerity, friendship and sometimes even our love. We tend to get drowned out by the voices that are a lot better at attracting attention.
Pity there is so much dross our gold can't shine through. Still, the only thing to do is keep on shining. [
I have to say I completely disagree with this mindset.
NO one can affect your reputation or how you are viewed besides yourself and your own conduct over time to those that are worth your attention and time.
Wankers affect wankers. Period. They do not affect how I view or see a submissive that shows me over the course of a substantial amount of time that they are sincere, genuine, honest, loyal, and open.
I would not judge every submissive or bottom by those I would not even deem to label or term a submissive or bottom - just as I would expect folks to not judge all dominants by the predators and abusive folks calling themselves dominants that they have undoubtedly run across.
I firmly believe this, and I apply it to others as well:
The ONLY person that has the power to make *me* look bad or damage my reputation, standing, or whatever you want to call it ... is myself. I will *not* hand that power to someone else. Anyone that is actually someone that would *matter* to me in any sense of the word, is not the type of person to judge me by what someone else says or does, but will judge me by what they have seen me do, what my conduct is over the course of time, by the things that actually stem directly from *me*.
If they are someone that would believe some person talking endless smack, well I'd rather they *didn't* bother to get to know me at all and stay the hell away, lol. I consider it one of my best filters(next to the best filter of all - *time*) - I'd rather know such things before I invest a speck of time in someone, so if they cull themselves, so much for the better I say.
If you are sincere, and genuine in your desire to serve or submit, and patient and honest in how you conduct yourself that WILL shine through *quite* clearly for those looking to *see* it. If a person isn't seeing it, and it is genuine, then that is a person that has culled themselves of their own doing, and it's simply best to move on, they aren't going to be worth the time anyway. Why waste time and energy bemoaning the wankers(or domlets, or posers, or trolls, or energyvampires, or whatever), possible (and quite dubious to my way of thinking) negative impact on you, just move on be be as true to yourself as you CAN be.
Those that are worth it WILL see it. Those that can't, don't even bother with thinking about them.
Trolls and the like tend to reveal themselves pretty damn quickly, I sacrifice them to Goddess Ignora as quickly as they make themselves known. I'm willing to leave the door open, but yeah if you approach me with a hey baby, you're pretty much "slaughtered on the bloody altar for the glory of Goddess Ignora" right off, without getting a single speck more of time or attention than it takes for me to block you. lol.
However, if someone approaches me in a sincere fashion and is obviously able to converse as an intelligent adult - the door is open until such a time as they reveal they are someone I'd sacrifice. Things like asking me what I'd do to a submissive is sooooooo obviously someone seeking pud-pulling material that they are erased on the spot. If I have a profile that says if you IM me without asking permission to in the room you get iggied, and I'm in a room and you IM, yup, slaughtered right there. If I'm not in the room, I might answer, since there isnt a way to contact me, or I might simply not answer at all, and not iggy the person. I tend to only have that condition in my profiles for when I'm in an area that I get quite a bit of undesired and rude attention. AOL and Yahoo come to mind, lol. This site so far has been quite pleasant and I haven't run across a bunch of jerks so it's not something I'd tend to do here .. so far anyway.
But yanno, if you can carry an intelligent and engaging conversation, and you have a polite demeanor, the door with me is open, until such a time as a troll emerges. If you expect to IM kme and then have *me* carry the conversation, I pretty much am not going to say much at all - after all, I didn't IM *you* so I presume you as the IMer have something meaningful to say, or are simply being a troll - otherwise you'd be able to have something interesting to talk about.
And I dare say that many would agree with me when it comes to saying that it tends to be VERY easy to tell a wanker, domlet, troll, snert, timewaster, etc from those that are genuine and sincerely nice people that aren't seeking monkey-spanking material.
So don't give that type the power to affect you, because they CAN'T ... unless *you* allow them to. So *don't*.
Just be yourself and as true to yourself as you can be, and realize that it *will* be obvious and easy to see amidst the churning masses of assholes.
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