littlesarbonn
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I guess a better question is how does a sub approach an experienced domme?
Be honest about yourself and with yourself and remember the dominant is a person, not an attainable or unattainable goal. I made a mistake years ago when I was once owned by a very sought after professional dominant. For the few years I was with her, I kept asking myself over and over, why me? Why would she choose me when she could have any other guy? After awhile, I think I asked myself that question so many times that I managed to convince myself that she could do better, fell into a really bad self-defeating vibe and eventually lost her. And it was all my fault because I didn't realize that sometimes you have to be thankful that the gods and goddesses chose to make something happen.
Your first question to yourself should be whether or not you think you could be a good match for that dominant you're seeking. If so, contact her and see what happens. If not, then don't. But avoid being one of those people that casts out a net so large that he hopes that he'll catch anyone and then suddenly become real. That's a sure way to piss off pretty much everybody.
Your question is kind of funny for me today because nowadays I tend to ONLY contact experience dominants because I know that she's at least had some experience dealing with people, so I don't have to deal with someone who is just trying to figure it out (like the one who decided she wanted to be dominant one day, submissive the next, a switch after that, and then a nun). As an experienced submissive, I have that to offer to a potential partner, so when I make contact, it makes it that much easier. So, to answer your original question, I'd say that the best way to contact an experience dominant is to do your homework before you make contact to make sure you're a match, and then make contact. But don't do too much homework like I did once where I practically freaked out the woman when I contacted her and she discovered I knew where she graduated, what she studied, and that I boned up on the subject so I could communicate well with her on the subject. Sometimes, you can go too far.
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You're "good enough" to approach, speak with, engage or whathaveyou anyone, regardless of their "experience" at anything. If they like you, fine, if not, so be it. If they truly believe you aren't "good enough" to converse with them simply because you're just starting out, I'd say they must have a bit of amnesia about where they themselves once started. I doubt any domme, no matter how experienced she thinks she is, was born holding a whip
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.............luci
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