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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 7:13:09 AM

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Even with that connection it, for me, was a very poor substitute, but if it floats your boat, go for it :)

I think what AAkasha is saying, is that it isn't a "substitute", it's "in addition to."

What's your favorite movie? Do you watch it over, and over, and over ... excluding all others?

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 7:17:27 AM

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Even with that connection it, for me, was a very poor substitute, but if it floats your boat, go for it :)

I think what AAkasha is saying, is that it isn't a "substitute", it's "in addition to."

What's your favorite movie? Do you watch it over, and over, and over ... excluding all others?

In the situation I was describing it was a substitute because we couldn't be physicaly togather at that time. Yes in the overall relationship it was in addition to what else we where doing and only done because of the necessitys of the distance involved.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 7:34:42 AM

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Actually, I never do that. The only exception is the original cartoon version of How the Grinch Stole Xmas. That I watch every December several times. I also don't go back and re-read books, either.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 7:35:26 AM

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Given the choice of NO play, or only phone/etc, which would you pick?

NO play would be my choice, for the reasons sited by others already.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 7:40:20 AM

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the memory of cyber sex is a lot like sitting in the booth next to someone for the first time.

Is it true that in Republican controlled TX, if you have voting booth sex, they strike your vote, figuring in all likelihood you are a democrat?

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 2:01:09 PM

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Only NO play or Phone/online only huh?

That is a tough question. I have not been involved in a distant Ds relationship, and if the Ds was a key part online and phone would be wonderful. Unfortunately for me BDsM is very sexual (not saying intercourse) and whithout the heat of her in the room, the smell of her hair etc etc etc any play other than in person fails to deliver. So for most of my relationships I would choose none. Becasue I have tried phone and online play without a serious Ds bond and was frnakly bored spitless.

Now, using them IN ADDITION TO face-to-face play can be a fun change of pace.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/5/2006 2:17:28 PM

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My Dom and I met online and we did play D/s quite a bit in the beginning. It was a good way to get to know each other and find out our compatibility. Now that we are almost together and life is so crazy right now we really value our phone time where we can reconnect on our D/s level and I can just be his girl.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/6/2006 2:31:24 AM

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The value of words is immense. Interactive, immediate words with someone even more so. I would never discount their effect with those who are literate and good writers. I have, also, seen those whom it is impossible to communicate with on any meaningful level via the written word, cyber whatever included, but those are filtered out eventually. It is never my goal to stay within the confines of a cyber relationship, but words open the door to so many emotions.

An online cyber friendship allows discussions of poetry, literature, philosophy, history, feelings, ideas, sex, beauty, truth and love. Get the idea? You can play poetic thoughts off of each other and spiral entwined, upwards into the heavens. It may evolve into cyber sex, but it is also much more than that. Words only, you say, yeah, but great books and screenplays are only words, too.

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RE: Defending "online" and "phone" ... - 2/6/2006 11:40:43 PM

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Whenever I talk about phone/long distance play, the immediate response is "I don't do that, because I prefer REAL LIFE, real time BDSM." Well, sure, so do I. It's not a *replacement* for real life, it's a supplement. It's an extra. It's a bonus.

Beautifully stated......
And tell me who doesn't enjoy bonuses?

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