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High heels - 2/5/2006 2:09:47 AM

strob

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If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that? Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels or she wears them because that's understandable even if heels create discomfort?
By the way, I have nothing against heels, just checking...

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 2:24:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: strob

If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that? Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels or she wears them because that's understandable even if heels create discomfort?
By the way, I have nothing against heels, just checking...

a domme isnt a domme because of what she wears. its what she is regardless of attire. however the attire can help feed the desired mood for both the domme and sub. the sexy attire is more for the fetish and aesthetic side of play. heels serve other purposes in play too, especially for heel/hose fetishists

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 2:40:43 AM

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I don't have a shoe fetish but I do have a foot fetish. I find women who wear high heels more appealing than women who wear shoes that cover their feet. I guess many domme women know that men like feet so that’s why they wear them, to expose their feet. There is many other ways, as in they wear the shoes that match the cloths or dress they are wearing.

The point is, many sub males are into feet, not all, but a large number. Dommes do it to draw more attention in a way I guess. I am not a female dom so my advice is most probably wrong lol.

It is just my point of view.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 3:45:54 AM

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quote:

If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that?

You're kidding, right?

It's porn. OF COURSE the models are going to be dressed up like some male fantasy of a domme.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 3:54:25 AM

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quote:

The point is, many sub males are into feet, not all, but a large number. Dommes do it to draw more attention in a way I guess. I am not a female dom so my advice is most probably wrong lol.

I think far more Dommes, when they chose to dress up (which is NOT an every day thing) wear things that first and foremost make THEMSELVES feel good, rather than what they think will attract men.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 5:00:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: strob

If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that? Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels or she wears them because that's understandable even if heels create discomfort?
By the way, I have nothing against heels, just checking...

If you look closely you may find those ladies in tht stilletos also have 14 inch waists and hair past their bottom...fantasy is why you go to those sites, reality is why you get off the boards and onto your knees.

I can be Dominant in barefeet or heels, leather or sweatpants, with dramatic make up or barefaced with my freckles showing. It is an attitude, a lifestyle, it is who I am.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 6:25:43 AM

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I like the look of high heels, but they aren't very practical when I am moving around, tying my sub up, and dragging him around. I can use them in specific ways in a scene, but they have nothing to do with how much "power" I have.

Be well,
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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 11:35:48 AM

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I know what our boys have told us about my boots that have heels - they both say that I carry myself differently when I'm wearing them. Not that it changes who I am or how I am feeling, but there are slight differences in how I walk (more deliberately so that I don't break an ankle LOL) and move that alters their reactions, and most of it is subconcious ... the only reason they told me is because I asked them and made them think about it until they each came up with an answer.

There is also the unconcious changes that happen when you have to look up at someone rather than down on them (or eye to eye instead of down). Not that it matters all that much when I know of more than one Domme that is less than 5'5" and has submissives who are 6' and up, but with our boys, one is a little shorter than me and one is a little taller than me, so when I put on my boots, I tower over one and am eye to eye with the other. It's a similar thing to why teachers stand at the board and students sit at their desks - it automatically puts the one who's head is higher into a position of authority. It's a total mind trick, but we've been ingrained with the hierarchy of authority, so the higher someone is (literal or figurative) the more authority they have.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 11:46:42 AM

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I simply like the way heels align a woman's body. Pushes it all straighter. Same with a cinch. I love the feel and look of my body posture in both!

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 11:46:47 AM

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I prefer being barefoot in scening myself. Tottering around in platform heels isn't really helping me focus on what I'm doing to my scene partner. I'd sure hate to trip or stumble if I'm doing needle play or something of that nature. *wince*

Now for some ladies I'm sure platform heels or heels in general are second nature and some of them it's the most comfortable. But for me? I like no shoes, generally, lol.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 2:52:26 PM

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My submissive has a boot fetish, and I don't mind accomodating that. My boot pressed against his neck, or he, naked and on his knees, being instructed to lick them clean snaps him into subspace instantly, and, at heart, I'm lazy. lol

However, I personally like stiletto heels because they can fit into all sorts of interesting crevices.

I missed their use when I broke my foot a few months earlier.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 3:00:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: strob

If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that? Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels or she wears them because that's understandable even if heels create discomfort?
By the way, I have nothing against heels, just checking...

Those women are not female dominants.

They are models, sometimes actresses, sometimes prodom who may or may not be into BDSM too.

I haven't worn heels since high school -- I consider them to be unhealthy for my legs, feet, and back.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 3:38:10 PM

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i will but mention

since "I" am SO used to women acting like men,.,,

it is a rare treat to find a LADY with enough sense to know how to wear heels,...
it is what i respond to.
a LADY ... being ... a Lady.
most females "I" have ever met in MY life are more man than they are woman.
i find that disgusting.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 3:52:44 PM

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Wearing heels has nothing to do with being a Lady - being a Lady is about how one acts and presents herself. I know a lot more women who wear heels who do NOT deserve to be called "ladies" than I care to think about. I also know quite a few women who do deserve to be called Ladies who by far prefer comfort - which means they don't wear heels often, if at all.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 4:25:43 PM

MichMasochist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: strob

If one checks out pictures or movies with femdom related material, in 99% of those, dommes always wear high heels, whether boots, sandals, pumps, etc...
Just wondering why is that? Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels or she wears them because that's understandable even if heels create discomfort?
By the way, I have nothing against heels, just checking...

It comes down to one reason why I like a woman in heels. It isn't because I have a foot or shoe fetish, which I don't. I absolutely love what a pair of heels does for a woman. The heels tighten up her calves and thighs muscles, picks up her butt cheeks making appear to be more firm and round. A pair of heels can give a lady who is starting to loose the firmness of youth to the softness of getting older.

Had a "date" with a stripper this past saturday, with a lady who started out in high heels because afterwards she said it gave her some height. She definately didn't need to firm up her muscle tone any. During the session she had stripped completely naked revealing her delicious form.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 5:23:26 PM

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Well it seems a few of you already posted what I would say...

It is hard to play in heels so most often I would take off the heels & go barefoot during a scene.

Yup... makes the ass & legs look great!

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strob: Does a domme feel less powerful is she wears shoes without heels

I am just as dominant in my finest leather & highest heels as I am in my spongebob jammies... sure one suit may make someone else feel more submissive than the other, but it has nothing to do with my dominance. Lets say I place a blindfold on the sub... does it really matter what I wear?

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 5:36:01 PM

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True a blindfold would make how you are attired irrelevant. Personally I like to look at my mistress as she "enjoys my surrender" to her.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 7:19:39 PM

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dear street rob
a womans heels are the essence of her dominance as a feminine female
like a mans mustache sepparates him from all the females ;more dramatically ,so do spike high heels,on any woman.clothes control the behavior
you want someone to behave like a gentleman you dress him as such and you dress like the delicate queen of hearts which is the essence of femininity amoung all womin

my mom never, till the day she died ,and they still have no death certificate filed,on purpose;
(and believe me ; i'm no insane person and ; she's dead!)
she wore heels and dress or skirt, till the day she was secretly killed.
i want a woman like that too .
she was nothing but female.
fem to the end .
suffer to be beautiful; dress ;nylons; and heels; below zero; snow whatever;
not unlike my usual self ;i have to have my prized image ;leather mc jacket ;and boots; even to the beach!
but ,some diva- top -females are ,so tall; they feel self conscious and ,wear flats ;sometimes diana, wore flats too ,understand?
its ,not unlike the mans executive suit, or someones uniform, or a top diva ;goddess ;pure woman ;a godess worshiped wife ;mother;all under the same thing ;same top fem clothes have heels whenever possible.
they demand it!
so would i,
but arent womin beautiful ,in anything tho ?!
cowboy boots;english riding boots;my used to be best friend loved white pure sneekers on cheer leader types of younger girls ,not me ,tho ....dont move me as much ,on site,as mature dingity and high heels.
you reminded me; how i will never rest, till all guilty-parties pass away in jail ,for taking out my mama; THE- high heels goddess to the end.i'm sure ;even a stranger like you,to me; knows
how deeply i mean this now ,too.

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 10:51:32 PM

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*wonders how much more free wanking material this boy will ask for*

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RE: High heels - 2/5/2006 11:42:07 PM

veronicaofML

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Wearing heels has nothing to do with being a Lady - being a Lady is about how one acts and presents herself. I know a lot more women who wear heels who do NOT deserve to be called "ladies" than I care to think about. I also know quite a few women who do deserve to be called Ladies who by far prefer comfort - which means they don't wear heels often, if at all.
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be that as it may S.D.==
i understand where You are coming from on this,...and i suppose, i kind of agree.
but
all i was trying to say,...and i'll attempt it again...
it is more ultra feminine to wear heels...vs flat shoes. i do not, per se, have a foot fetish...i dont get off on it...
but i do have a great liking for a lady that wears heels vs flats.
in MY mind,...i have seen all the female elders in MY clan wear nothing BUT flats all my life. and i never understood why they marketed heels when i never seen a woman wear em.
growing up i figured it was just a hollywood prop...for movies...and such.
i never seen a real live woman wear em until i went overseas.
bad enough i never seen any of my elders wear skirts either. always pants.
there is just something wrong with never seeing a woman BE a woman.
the way i grew up it was like ALL women were ashamed to be women.
i never could grasp it.

now at 52, i have a great fondness and appreciation for ANY female to BE feminine in heels and skirts.
to ME it is a real treat to see a woman BE a woman and enjoy it.
someone said, put a blindfold on the boy...he'd never know.
oh?
ya figure my ears stop listening for the click click? NOT!
ya figure my ears stop listening for the tell-tale "swish" of a skirt...? NOT!

there are just SOME things, as a red blooded american male that we revel in the little-things You girls do...and we feel more personally attuned to YOU,,,when You DO ...BE a woman...not manly in pants and flats.
just like, although "I" have no sense of smell...i STILL crave feeling long soft hair as She bends down near me...
it's a personal thing for some of us dudes.
Ya wanna talk POWER????
do You even REALIZE the POWER of JUST....BEING...female????
i am not impressed by leather outfits...argh!
but lemme see and hear a Lady in a skirt n heels...click click swish swish...soft silkie sounds as She walks...hip to hip....step to step...long soft hair brushes against ya...soft hands touching..
LADIES!!!!!!!!!

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEZE???????

BE Women...be PROUD of Your womanhood.
THERE is Your POWER...i.e.
dangling a heel off Your foot...
mm
You girls have no idea...what you possess and ya lose a chance at every turn if ya dont USE that Power.

later, huh?
and thanks for being nice in Your posting.

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