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24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 10:24:50 AM

machismounchaine

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I loved the idea of Females owning males since I were a kid. At that time it was all in underground fetish magazines and Femdom houses advertizing in Screw Magazine, Corporal, Lisa's World and etc. I longed for this fantacy life. I have been with countless Pro Doms throughout the decades past. I finally met a true Female Supremicist. I met her on a vanilla dating site several years ago. We clicked right away. Long story short I am her slave. Now collared for 24\7. It is not as easy as I fantacized. Though I am fulfilled with her fetishes and my being used and treated as a dog, object or whatever her sadistic side dictates.Our vanilla lives do dictate mood swings, bad attitudes, depression, "not in the mood for serving". This is on my part. I still serve as best I could. I do all the cooking, dishes, all domestics, laundry, scrub floors, food shopping, assist her with family, and will serve and entertain her guests (in a vanilla way) and in the lifestyle depending on who they are. I am wondering how I can shake these useless feelings. It is preventing me at times to serve her with a 100% mindset. It does upset her and I do get punished. Though she always knows I serve her as best I could and do satisfy her basic requirements. There are other subs and slaves that are waiting to replace me like vultures hovering over a corps. Then sometimes I think, what they say to her. I wonder if they will deliver. She is no nonsence, extremely creative Deity and has me do too, and for her, what most people would not. I won't go into that here. But in her mind a slave is a slave and that is it! No boundries allowed. My questions are, am I normal for feeling this way. Do other 24/7 slaves feel this and if so how do you as the Owner and the slave manage this?
Thank you for your time.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 11:04:20 AM

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Are you happy? She will be able to tell.

Do you think you make her happy?

If I read your posts right, you're giving her 100% of what you have. And you're worried that she'll chuck all that for some other guy?

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 11:43:26 AM

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Wow.

"Vultures hovering over a corpse"?! That sucks.

If you're doing your best, that should be good enough for her. If its not, then maybe you should move on. Everyone has the right to leave an unfulfilling relationship, including slaves.

There is nothing more frustrating than trying to please someone who is never pleased, or who is always finding fault with your best efforts. If that is what's happening, no wonder you are unhappy. Regardless, try some counseling to help sort out your thoughts. We all have our down times. There is strength in seeking help.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 11:49:52 AM

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I think that the idea that a good slave or submissive is instantly replaceable is nonsense. Most female dominants have suitors, that does not mean that they are interchangeable. As for telling a submissive that---what would that say about the dominant's selection process, let alone her valuation of her companions and property!

I've met many people who find negative reinforcement entertaining. I see no reason to set people up to fail, or put them into a mindset where they are questioning the very talents that they were chosen for.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 11:51:55 AM

LadyIce

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This is one of the funniest posts I have read on here in a long time.

You are right, it ain't easy, but I think you knew that when you took your current position.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 12:00:13 PM

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I'm with LadyHib with this one!

A slave/submissive who is doing so much for me, will know he is valued.

Op... in your journal postings, you are upset with men who are being rude to your dominant. Do you really think one of those rude guys can replace you? There are some good men/women out there, but the majority of unknown to us persons emailing us are rude or clueless.

Now if your dominant is punishing you for feeling unworthy.... I kind of find that faulty in my mind and wouldn't use that methoid, but basically she finds you worthy and you need to believe you are. Unless you like the punishment and it is a game, I would say... trust that she finds you worthy and if you cannot, maybe some counseling with a bdsm friendly professional might help.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 12:07:07 PM

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Lockit, I took the time to read his Mistress's profile.
She states she wants a stable of 5 slaves , and she details her expectations.

If this "slave" signed up for his current position, he knew what he was signing up for.

That is why I think his post is so funny.
I wish them good luck.

He knew what was going on, when he accepted the job.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 12:57:25 PM

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Ahhhh... that explains a lot more! Thank you LadyIce! The actual living it out can be a real learning experience. In anything! lol

Op... you might find that you are not cut out to be a part of a poly situation and may need a dominant that isn't poly. For some it is normal to them to feel a bit jealous and insecure. I would suggest that if it continues to be a problem for you, this may not be the type of situation you will find the most happiness in with your slave heart. But if you can find some personal peace in it, some poly situations can be very nice. You need to evaluate how you feel, some situations for some people can create almost an obsessive emotional turmoil. We can't tell you how to do it really as it comes from within yourself. You might take a look at the poly board and read there. You may find some things that help you because you can relate to them.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 12:59:20 PM

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As a 24/7 slave, I really don't feel like it's difficult... In fact, I feel like it's the easiest thing I've ever done in my entire life.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 1:08:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyIce

Lockit, I took the time to read his Mistress's profile.
She states she wants a stable of 5 slaves , and she details her expectations.

If this "slave" signed up for his current position, he knew what he was signing up for.

That is why I think his post is so funny.
I wish them good luck.

He knew what was going on, when he accepted the job.

I'm with you. No point whining about it now. After looking at both their profiles, I'd say they deserve each other. Not sure what the problem is.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 1:35:15 PM

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I really liked the analogy of the vultures circling, Myself. I'm almost sure that it can feel like that at times. When clip finished school and was no longer living here, I remember the distinct feeling of resembling fresh meat in a shark tank. People who either knew Me or knew of Me, were more than ready to start vying for clip's place. I'm not talking about random folks on the net, either. I'm talking about some who I had been acquainted with for years. On the having concern about his feelings that there would be others out there who would pounce if the opportunity arose, I'm more than willing to cut the OP a little slack.

Of course, as others have mentioned, it doesn't really work that way. We do value our submissives more than that. Even when there are bumps in the road, we still know if they serve well or not. Just because some opportunists would hope to capitalize on a rocky situation when things aren't going well, doesn't mean someone is easily replaced.

As for the rest of the post, yes, living this way is harder than the fantasy. Isn't that true with just about anything? In the fantasy, everything is always just the way we want it to be, and not marred by the complications that real life can bring. The bad moods, the times we're tired, the outside influences that can disturb the tranquility. That's part of life for everyone. We're not exempt because of wiitwd.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 2:03:27 PM

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/10/2009 6:05:01 PM

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Good call, LadyIce!

I neglected the obvious- I forgot to read his profile before posting.

My bad.

I still like him for that fabulous line about the vultures, though. That absolutely slayed me.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 3:45:21 AM

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I was insanely curious after LadyIce said something about a stable, me liking horses and everything, so I went to read it. I'd like those few seconds of my life back.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 5:24:59 AM

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Hi folks, note that my slave said, other slaves are circling waiting to replace him. Note also, that nowhere in his post does it say that I have threatened to replace him. In fact he knows he is my irreplaceable soul mate and love of my life. I have in fact NEVER said or thought of replacing him, whether or not others may seek to replace him. As for our poly status, we reside alone together (other Mistresses and slaves we play with dont live with us) that is something we decided on together to satify the needs of us both. However, dominant or not, if he didn't consent to poly, we'd stop it and be exclusive.
I think his real question here was how to deal with his feelings of not wanting to serve for 2 or 3 days sometimes. He will just get in a bad mood. At those times I don't feel good about how I am served or rather , not being served, but I try to just leave him alone and hope he will snap out of it. However, HE has a strong desire to be a complete and total slave and becomes disappointed in himself when he fails me, since he seeks total slavery rather than submission alone. That is why he introduced me to this lifestyle and I dove in head first. It was a good choice. Whether or not you agree, I thank you for your interesting comments.
Dark Empress, True and Eternal lover and owner of this man, whether slave, sub or vanilla!.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 6:46:21 AM

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If I could make a suggestion... When he gets in a pissy or mopy mood, he has a lot of negative feelings inside him that have no healthy outlet. Give him a good spanking or whipping and let those feelings out.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 8:10:44 AM

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quote:

am I normal for feeling this way

you still human...but u knew what a slave was when u became hers...
if a slave feels that way (tired), its best he speak w/ his Owner...and if the Owner notices a change, its best to speak to the slave.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 8:19:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

I was insanely curious after LadyIce said something about a stable, me liking horses and everything, so I went to read it. I'd like those few seconds of my life back.

Geez. And I was even dumb enough to look at it after I saw the warnings. I'm literally sitting here shaking My head now.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 8:43:43 AM

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*smiles*

My slave would agree.

Being a slave, 24/7 in an Ms dynamic, is one of the hardest jobs he's had in his entire life.

It's also one of the easiest and one of the most fulfilling and most frustrating.

It's just part of his life, and life is not easy.

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RE: 24\7 slavery is difficult - 5/11/2009 9:00:03 AM

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Dark Steven's post sounds it could be helpful in Your situation. Scotty

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