LadyEllen
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ORIGINAL: DreamGoddess666
I'm done with this ignorance, especially after LotusSong's post. NOBODY has the right to tell me I'm not a real woman or suggest that I'm delusional for believing I am.
Some more.
Understand now, that regardless of what you look like, act like, sound like and regardless of what your anatomy might be - you will never be a real woman (whatever one of those might be).
At the same time understand that regardless of what other people think of you (or what you imagine they think of you), you were never a real man (whatever one of those might be).
And understand that regardless of all this, there is no profit in thinking of yourself or presenting yourself as transgender.
Who you are is what you are. Who you are is down to your own self perceptions and self esteem. What others think here must become unimportant. And yet, to some extent we are defined in the wider world by others - and for this reason we must present who we are consistently, so that others may accept us for what we are - or reject us for what we are. We must understand that no one else owes us acceptance, still less friendship or love - just as we owe no one else acceptance, friendship or love except of our own free choice.
It is important to present ourselves as who we are. Others will then decide what we are for their purposes. Our own self perception of our own gender is largely irrelevant here - we might be for instance a natal man but if we act effeminately we shall not be dealt with as a real man (whatever one of those might be).
Know thyself and to thine own self be true. The rest really is down to others - with all the defects and deficiencies, prejudices and stupidity which we have in common with them.
We must first present ourselves as rounded, well mannered people. Anyone who doesnt accept us as a person is then simple a jerk not worth knowing. Those who do accept us will then deal with us on the basis of what they see in front of them - in your case a woman.
But what is a woman? Have a go at defining what a woman is and see how far you get - the most extreme examples of this exercise (conducted incidentally by ultra-feminist lesbians) resulted in practically none of that part of the population normally described as women, being defined as women.
Yet we all know who is a woman and who is not, right? And we dont need to go looking in people's knickers to make that distinction.
The truth is - and its a bit of a platitute of feminism I know - that women are people too. All shapes and sizes and shades, displaying all manners of behaviours and preferences, having dreams and ambitions that span every aspect of human endeavour and imagination, and possessed of a spectrum of abilities every bit as wide and varied as men. The importance of that phrase "women are people too" is often lost to men, and also to those raised as male who transition - its well worth contemplation until you "get it", if you dont get it already.
The overall point then is to be yourself, dont let your situation define you. After all, others' situations dont define them do they? Knowing many women on this site and knowing quite a bit about some of their situations, I can assure you that those situations dont define them. Separate the temporary situation which will change as surely as the seasons, from that which is constant - your own self. Dont let the temporary situation define or determine your self - that is delusional.
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In a test against the leading brand, 9 out of 10 participants couldnt tell the difference. Dumbasses.
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