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RCdc -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 2:27:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: allisonludwig
What about other women on here? what have your experiences been? do you have difficulty making friendships with women? why do you think that is?


I am just really popular.
It must be my cooking.
 
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allisonludwig -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 2:59:06 PM)

thanks for the replies . . . it's nice to know that there are other women who have had similar experiences.

for those women, who have had difficulties relating to other women, how did you go about developing those friendships with women? how did you further the friendship?



LaTigresse -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 3:09:59 PM)

My best female friend is my sister. We can relate to one another on several different levels. I think the fact that we live 1,000 miles apart helps our relationship. We don't waste time over stupid shit. The time we have together is precious to us. We do a lot of emailing and texting one another. Occasional phone calls and see each other once or twice a year.



littlewonder -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 3:29:55 PM)

When I was younger, yes I had difficulty making friends with other women. Most of my friends were male but it wasn't because they wanted to be my friend...they were my friend because they were willing to wait until they could get in my pants...even if it meant waiting till hell froze over...but I always still found them funny and entertaining and just fun to hang out with so they stuck around.

Girls always hated that men were always around me, always thought I was trying to steal their guy which was about as far from the truth as could possibly be.

I think younger women are just like this..catty, snippy, bitchy.

Now that I'm older I have little problem making friends with women. I have more female friends now than male friends.
The men have gotten older and given up and either married with families of their own now and busy playing golf with their buddies or being with their family.

The women have matured and mellowed out and not so worried about their guys figuring if their guy wants to go elsewhere..let him and good luck to him! Or they're single and enjoying their single lives and we're happy just to do things together and talk about girl stuff and men.




sophia37 -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 5:05:35 PM)

I was totally surprised by the answers here. I've had my girlfriends for years and years. I do have one male friend and one male lover who is also my "best friend". But the majority...all women. I enjoy the sisterhood of women. They understand me in a very deep way. We are after all, wired the same. I cant imagine not having women in my life as close confidants and friends. I can think of seven women that I consider my best friends. 

I've made friends throughout my lifetime and I am 49. And how I went about developing these relationships is that I started the conversation and then never ended it. So say for instance you meet a woman at work and you talk. Dont be shy to talk after work. What the heck? They might like to talk to you as well!

It takes a good ear to be a friend. And once people know you listen and care and DO NOT JUDGE, then they are willing to be friends with you as well.

Superficial friendships will not work. We've all met women or men who we know dont really care amd worse seem to judge us. They seem friendly enough, but deep down we cant open to them. Im not sure how we know, whether it be things they say or that we just KNOW, but there are people out there we know to distrust with our secrets and our lives. Sad. But true.

It would be a lonely life if I didnt have a roster of friends I could call on any given occasion or subject. I just need input and support that I cant get anywhere else. And I have told my own children right from elementary school that its friends who stay with you. And they've taken that to heart.



MsFlutter -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 5:45:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

~FR~
 
I have difficulty maintaining friendships with women.  I've been told on more than one occasion that I don't think like a woman -- I think like a man.  Most of my friends throughout my live have been men.  For some reason, men are much more comfortable with my dominant personality than women.  Some of them want to get into a pissing contest with me but more of them like my confidence, I guess.  Women tend not to like that I'm an alpha female.  They want me to be softer and I'm just not.


I have run into this exact same thing all of my life. I guess that is why most of my female friends are "tomboys" they do not have that expectation that I should be softer so that I "fit" into the crowd. I do not want to fit into the crowd, I simply want to be me. Yes men seem to accept my dominant personality more, although there are the few that want the pissing contest and the few who ignore me as if I was not there in the hopes that I'd go away lol. Or perhaps they were just afraid of a different type of woman, yes that sounds more like it.

~Lashra



Okay - what they said ! (clearly I need to beat y'all to the boards because you're always beating me to the punch!)   Between you two and Lockit... I swear...



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: female friendships (5/26/2009 5:56:55 PM)

I can't imagine having other females as close confidants.  It's simply.... not something that I can really wrap my mind around.  I have very little in common with the vast majority of the women I meet, other than talking about males - and frankly, that gets old and boring in a hurry.  Whereas with my male aquaintances and friends, I always have stuff to talk about Not including relationships, medical issues, or sex - which are about the only 3 things that 90% of the women I know seem to want to talk about.



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