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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Ok ignoring the first few words of your post because well they make no sense

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Really? I always think of it as a term coined by insecure tops who are frightened by any criticism and afraid of getting any feedback that is not gushing praise.

If I say I hate that freaking crop, my statement cannot control him. My saying a few words does not have any magical power that forces him not to use it. It just gives him information, in this case if he wants to use it without me having a panic attack he'd better put a blindfold on me and put it back in the bag before taking the blindfold off. If he chooses to do otherwise he knows I won't orgasm and I will hyperventilate.