aranisiA
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When you say 'explain', what do you mean? Are you talking about making him/her stop the paddling so you can give a five-minute long dissertation on which tools he/she should use, where to use them and how to use them, and doing it in such a way as to be condenscending? If the answer to all three is 'yes', then I'd say you are topping from the bottom, and if you tried that with me I'd gag you with a lime and then give you the old what-for :P. If it's more of an offhand comment about how you really really want to try to be beaten with X though or that you really really hate Y so could he/she please start out carefully if choosing to use it - then I'd say you're making requests, and I wouldn't mind it at all. I also think it varies a lot with the type of setting...for example, I was at a party this Saturday, and a friend gave me a light beating. Too light, really, by my standards, but she didn't feel secure enough to use the harder implements on me and my tolerance level is too high for her to even pass the 3 or 4 on a 10-level scale. Anyway, since we had never played with each other before and she isn't the most experienced of sadists anyway we had what I would refer to as a tone between equals; she was in charge, of course, but I felt that my advice on which implements she might want to try on me were welcome and indeed appreciated. Was I topping from the bottom? I don't know. Would another friend of mine, who's a far more experienced Dom and Sadist accepted my comments even if I had been sassy enough to make them? Most likely not :P. Did we have fun? Hell yes!
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