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Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an oral fe... - 6/2/2009 2:28:54 PM   
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Honest question for the ladies, and it's maybe a bit of a chicken-and-egg thing.  One of my favorite activities is making a sub suck my strapon cock, or suck a dildo.  It is erotic and exciting to me on a variety of levels, and I know a lot of other women enjoy doing this or watching guys do it.

My question is whether the satisfaction comes from the power aspect of it - the nature of the act, the dominance, the power exchange.  Or, is it more of an 'oral fetish' as some put it - that is, the idea/visuals of having something shoved into your man's mouth. 

I go back and forth on this, personally.

Long before I even had sexual intercourse, WAY before I knew what a strapon was, I'd really get off on making a guy suck my fingers (I liked to watch).  Then I got into gags - there was no looking back. Forcing something into a guy's mouth is erotic to me; making him take it, or suck it, or lick it - I like to watch that, and I like everything about it.  It can be a pair of panties, a washcloth, a ballgag, whatever - I like variety.  So I was getting hot and excited about the entire "forced oral" thing LONG before I started strapping it on.

So - is my lust for shoving a dildo in a man's mouth merely an extension of my desire for forced-oral, and it's just one of the best "objects" - or, is the power exchange and erotic charge of forcing a man to "suck dick" more the arousal factor in this kind of play?  My opinion changes depending on the day of the week.

I'm interested to hear what other ladies think.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/2/2009 2:35:12 PM   
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Obviously I'm not the target audience, but I think I can wager a guess on Mistress' part...

For Her, I'd guess it was an oral fetish first and foremost. She's stated numerous times that She enjoys my mouth, it's shape and movements. At first She didn't really like doing a lot of oral play (using gags, etc.,) as She felt it marred that aesthetic appeal, but I think She's warmed up to the look of me sucking on something. The ball gag we use is very small, it doesn't stretch my mouth but makes it look like I have a very large pout (I think there's a pic in my profile.) She enjoys pushing it in, licking and kissing me with it in my mouth, so I think the appeal for her there is the oral aspect.

Of course, when She's sliding a dildo into my mouth or fucking my mouth with it, then I think it becomes a mix. ;)


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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/2/2009 3:00:54 PM   
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Obviously I'm not the target audience



Indeed Aidan, we are just the target.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 10:56:43 AM   
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TPE at it's finest. I truly enjoy watching my 9" strap-on disappear down my slave's throat just as much as I enjoy him sucking on my fingers and toes (truly delicious). [image]

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 11:05:49 AM   
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it is the power, not an oral fetish for Me...

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 11:48:07 AM   
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power fetish my mistress likes seeing from time to time to see if i will still obey her whims  when she feels like it  things us sub males do for our mistresses  shaking head ...good day mal

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 12:12:15 PM   
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I go back and forth on this, personally.

I thought that was the general idea with strap-ons.

Isn't the whole point with something you enjoy doing that you have a harmony of turn-ons in that one act?  My favourite activity is my favourite, I've realised, because it combines maso, sub, oral - as well of a bunch delights - all in one.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 7:33:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha



One of my favorite activities is making a sub suck my strapon cock, or suck a dildo.  It is erotic and exciting to me on a variety of levels, and I know a lot of other women enjoy doing this or watching guys do it.

My question is whether the satisfaction comes from the power aspect of it - the nature of the act, the dominance, the power exchange.  Or, is it more of an 'oral fetish' as some put it - that is, the idea/visuals of having something shoved into your man's mouth. 




It amuses me.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/3/2009 7:53:54 PM   
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For me AAkasha, like yourself its both.  I enjoy the power of watching him succumb to something out of the norm, but also the oral fetish of seeing him suck, his tongue slurping, lips pouting, jaw moving, the whole oral thing in itself to me just turns me on, and then to top it off with "suck it" is just an added bonus.  For me its not degrading at all, as some may see it, I find both the power and the oral fetish to be a very tantalizing experience, for me as well as my submissive.  So I agree,  both ends of the spectrum are just extra fabulous, as always an added bonus to the scene itself.  Since the question asked is "Forced Cocksucking"  it definitely has the aura of power, so If one had to be picked over the other, Id say power.  

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/4/2009 7:09:44 PM   
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as a male slave who has never had the oppurtunity to be forced to suck a dominats dildo i think it would be so good and humilating i like that sort of thing to be dominated in that way. females are the most powerfull humans guys like me desrve a beating

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/5/2009 10:38:50 AM   
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I am wondering to which extend the submissive reaction alters the dominatrix feeling?
Let me explain...
Let's admit that a male-sub loves the cocksucking enforcement from his dominant lady. In such a way that there is not so much "enforcement": he doesn't feel discomfort, shame, or anything alike, rather he likes the act for itself, wouldn't she be feeling more the oral fetish delight and sharing than power fetish?
On the other hand, let's admit that for this sub, the cocksucking is an hard limit, or something he deeply feels shame, or discomfort with. He "dislikes" the act itself, maybe because sucking cocks -even plastic ones- is not "something he would do". Wouldn't the domme feel more the power fetish?
In short, isn't it the feeling resulting from the interaction between domme and sub that thrills either more the power, or more the oral fetish?

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/5/2009 11:12:16 AM   
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I too think it is the power of being in charge and knowing(even at a young age) that a man will bow to your demands.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/5/2009 2:23:42 PM   
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Somewhere buried in the heterosexual males sucking cock thread, I think I mentioned that I am pulled in more than one direction in what pleases Me.  In the specific reference here, I'd have to say it's more the power.  Not that the oral aspect isn't a turn on.  I can enjoy just watching a male engaging in oral activities for voyeurism's sake, having no power element included and still have a good time. 

As I mentioned in the other thread, there are aspects of both the enforced scenario and the hungry, willing participant that turn Me on about it.  I have to admit that I don't sit back and analyze which turns Me on more or why that might happen to be.  I'm not especially that deep about it.  The act itself turns Me on.  The little different nuances just add different spices to something that was already delicious.




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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/7/2009 10:33:30 AM   
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quote:

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One of my favorite activities is making a sub suck my strapon cock, or suck a dildo. 





What do you think your preference on watching him perform on toys vs. the real thing is based on? Wouldn't all the things you like about this activity be increased (control, TPE, humiliation, etc) with a real cock?



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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/8/2009 1:56:38 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LarTric

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha



One of my favorite activities is making a sub suck my strapon cock, or suck a dildo. 





What do you think your preference on watching him perform on toys vs. the real thing is based on? Wouldn't all the things you like about this activity be increased (control, TPE, humiliation, etc) with a real cock?



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The logistics, emotions and preparations involved in making a man suck a real dick vs. sucking my strapon are immense.  I can have a man sucking my strapon cock if I feel like it in a matter of minutes with very little drama or set up. Once you get into forced bi, it's logistically more challenging. The varying "hotness" level depends on the two men involved.

I am talking about real life acts, not fantasy or in my head.  As fun as forced bi and various hot guy/guy stuff is, it's time consuming to set up, if a lady wants to be *attracted* to both guys and trust both guys, and there's good chemistry all around.  Doing some hot S&M with my strap on and a guy I find hot is something I can set up in a flash.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/8/2009 4:17:19 PM   
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What do you think your preference on watching him perform on toys vs. the real thing is based on? Wouldn't all the things you like about this activity be increased (control, TPE, humiliation, etc) with a real cock?



Maybe not. If someone was Bi curious then a real cock could be less humiliating than a strap on.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/8/2009 4:48:12 PM   
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Because I am fasinated with mouths it is way to see my boy's
lips move and tongue stroke...it is like feeding in a way....
Having internal genitalia for the most part..I cannot see exactly what he does down there...
I feel the strap on is an extension of me...ya a penis extension.. and as he moves on it I still feel great pleasure inside of me...but get to see HOW his mouth moves..

A fav was when I met my boy at the door in a skirt with the strap on under and
when he knelt for protocol I lifted it and told him what to do..so there was the surprise element also..and the POWER  element...because he had gone from discomfort to saying he would do this FOR ME in previous discussions

ALSO:
I have often thought I would like both genitalia( to be a PLATO omnipod) so having a rubber penis will have to do..


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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/8/2009 4:52:59 PM   
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Interesting question to ponder, for me it is both.


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My question is whether the satisfaction comes from the power aspect of it - the nature of the act, the dominance, the power exchange.  Or, is it more of an 'oral fetish' as some put it - that is, the idea/visuals of having something shoved into your man's mouth. 




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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/8/2009 4:53:27 PM   
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quote:

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Having internal genitalia for the most part..I cannot see exactly what he does down there...

GQ


Well it adds to the mystique, but its also hard to see what he is doing with your eyes rolling around in your head.

Nice new photo btw.

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RE: Forced cocksucking: Is it a power fetish, or an ora... - 6/9/2009 5:03:46 AM   
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Well it adds to the mystique, but its also hard to see what he is doing with your eyes rolling around in your head.

Nice new photo btw.


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Thanks polite...
and yes I do "shark out" as they say
 
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